Going for another just to get the "right" blend. Can anyone sympathize with these thoughts?

My rational side knows that going for a fourth in hopes of giving DD a sister is wrong. DH and I have always said 3 MAYBE 4 kids. Probably 3. We have a B then a G and now a B is due very soon. We both come from families of 2 boys and 1 girl. And we both said we preferred our third be a girl. I'm the middle of my two brothers just like my DD will be. I know that we can't guarantee siblings relationships and plenty of sisters have awful relationships. It's just that I really wanted my daughter to have the bond that I see my mom enjoy with her sister and that I always wanted to have. I just keep having this little fantasy that we'll shoot for that fourth and have the "right" balance for us. But I also know it's not fair to the baby, especially if it turns out to be a boy. I know I'd feel GD like I did this time, and I have no interest in having those awful feelings again. I guess I'm just venting. Thanks for any any advice on moving past these thoughts!!

Well it's really up to you if want to try for another one. Honestly though, even if you don't have a second girl, she has 2 brothers whom she can bond well with. I get along with my brother well and we are close. The relationship may be different from a "sisterly" relationship, but it's really something your DD is lucky to have and is something to treasure. Try not to forget that. However you are right that there is no guarantee, it is all on how you rear them.

We tried for a girl this time as we have 2 boys. Swayed, did timing etc and are expecting ds3. We wanted 3 kids- but now wondering about having a fourth- but it would really be just to try for a girl.. Which as we all know we can't guarantee unless you go ht. If you go for a fourth you have to be willing and happy to get a boy too- since the gd really is hard to get through especially if you feel like its your last baby etc.

I think you would need to be ok with the baby being another boy before TTC, because there's a 50% chance he will be. I have BBG and I would like this baby to be a girl too to give the balance you talk about and I also worry that the youngest boy will have too large an age gap to play properly with the older boys and be left out. However, out of all the friends I know with sisters only one gets on with hers very well, the others always seem to be fighting, bitching and gossiping and that gives me pause. I know sibling relationships are what we as parents make them but when I think of sisters sadly I think of 2 girls fighting and not getting on. I didn't have a sister and was quite happy about that and never really wanted one, I was very close to my parents. If this new baby is a boy I will feel sad not to have another girl but I know I won't feel the same GD as I would if I had no daughter already.

Personally I would wait, have ds, bond with ds and then in a year or so have that conversation. See what reality is like with three first!!
The rational side of you is right, but I do understand the dream. I'd give anything to win the lottery myself....;)
Wishing you luck and hope your ds arrives healthy and cures any GD you may have. Good luck!!