No one is disappointed in having girls?

mrspopo- that's why i find my GD so hard to deal with because most women want daughters. There is no one that i can talk to about this that would understand because it seems everyone has a son(s). I wish I were one of those women on these sites that have 3 or 4 sons. I would be SO Happy!!

that because most ladies that have boys who are so young. trust me once they start school, it opens up the world to you. they bring home friends and you make new friends and sports games. omg i get so jealous. i used to watch all the "football moms" sit under big blankets, cheering with hot chocolate and girl talk while their boys kicked some butt. i wanted to be one of them so badly. well maybe in 16 years i can join them!

I'm jealous of football moms. They don't know how good they have it. At least you will have your son and in 16 years you will go to a game. Watch what happens...we will both have sons and they won't have any interest in sports. LOL

lilLadies:

I wouldn't say I never wanted a daughter. In my case it's I never wanted four, but it looks like the last one is going to be a girl too. I wish I had a boy or that I end up posting "was told girl but baby came out boy" in a couple months... This is my fourth c-section and last child so it is really hard knowing we will never have our son. I know my husband acts excited for another girl, but I know deep down he is just as sad as me.  They are ours and that's the chance we took having babies.

Please!! I would love for the ultrasound to be wrong but it seems like that doesn't really happen anymore, unfortunately. Did you ever sway to have a boy (not that I really believe in swaying anyway)?

sportsfan1:

I'm jealous of football moms. They don't know how good they have it. At least you will have your son and in 16 years you will go to a game. Watch what happens...we will both have sons and they won't have any interest in sports. LOL

haha, i was telling dh last night ( as i was folding a little baseball jersey) "watch hun, he will hate baseball and football and be a little computer nerd like you." sad but it works both ways, im telling mom's who was girls, "they aren't little mini-me's, out of 5 girls i got one who actually likes dresses and make-up and ballet and glam." i guess if wrose comes to worse i can put the other 4 girls in baseball of football. thats fair right? boys can do beauty pagents, why can't my girls play football?

sportsfan1:

I'm jealous of football moms. They don't know how good they have it. At least you will have your son and in 16 years you will go to a game. Watch what happens...we will both have sons and they won't have any interest in sports. LOL

::raises hand:: yup, that'd be us.  The oldest loves football, but not enough to play, ha!  He did baseball one year and let's just say he was the one in outfield picking his nose, making "grass angels" and adjusting his cup the whole time.

Yes I tell moms who want girls the same thing. My daughter is such a tomboy. She's still a little too young but she hates dresses, clips in her hair and loves to play in dirt. It's funny how things work BellaVita - that's very funny!!!

sportsfan1:

mrspopo- that's why i find my GD so hard to deal with because most women want daughters. There is no one that i can talk to about this that would understand because it seems everyone has a son(s). I wish I were one of those women on these sites that have 3 or 4 sons. I would be SO Happy!!

It's so odd for me to see that side of the equation, so thanks for sharing. If it's any comfort, I wanted "one of each" so I now have some GD about not having a girl - well, hearing about women like you who prefer all boys actually makes me feel better. Why? Because I tend to project my feelings onto all women, those feelings being that never having a girl is a failure for a woman. Kwim? I do know 3 or 4 women IRL who, if they could only have one gender, would prefer boys. I was actually very surprised when they told me and was also surprised to read on here about you gals who prefer boys! I send you all my blue dust!! Actually, I would love to know you gals IRL - we could swap kids for a day once in a while - you could do boy things with my boys and I could do girly things with your girls!! As for HT, I would also like to know where Luisa had it done for 3,000 euros! I don't believe in at-home swaying much so if we were to try for a third, we would need a guarantee of a girl. If someone could guarantee me the live birth of one healthy girl after just one HT cycle (not twins - single embryo transfer), I would do it without much hesitation, even though my ideal family was only two kids and even though just one cycle is already expensive. What makes me hesitate the most is of course the failure rate of HT. Right now, my GD is getting better and I'm sure it will be even better once DS2 actually arrives (except for maybe a few relapses if I get insensitive comments about his gender or when I see baby girls). So if we decide to go for HT afterwards, it will sort of re-trigger the whole girl obsession and if HT fails, well, not only don't you have your DG, but you also parted with a LOT of money. Kwim?

To SadDad: I know a dad IRL who was very disappointed when they found out they were having DD2. They didn't have any more kids though afterwards, maybe because of financial or logistical issues. I think men will tend to hide their feelings more though so it's good that you can come and share yours on here.

I really never wanted girls, I just can't relate to a girly girl and both my girls are like that. When I was pregnant with DD2 I cried for a week after we found out. My DH wanted a girl and I didn't. I wouldn't trade them for anything but I do feel a closer bond with my boys. I hope you do get a boy too someday along with everyone else who wants one!

 I have three girls. Baby #1 was a boy, we were told 3 seperate ultrasoudns that baby was a boy. More than anything, I feel like someone is missing. I love my daughters and wouldn't trade them for the world but I would like a son.

threecrazypiggies:

 I have three girls. Baby #1 was a boy, we were told 3 seperate ultrasoudns that baby was a boy. More than anything, I feel like someone is missing. I love my daughters and wouldn't trade them for the world but I would like a son.

They told you the wrong gender for your 1st...and that many times? That's awful! When did you find out she was finally a girl? At birth?

 Yeah, at birth. we had all gender specific clothing, a baby boy name and were waiting for a boy. It was a shock and took us a whiel to get used to having a daughter.

SadDad:

Sportsfan1, I want a so very badly and my ideal family was either just one boy, or two boys. I found another site when we first found out we were having a girl and had my initial GD shock. The site is designed for dads. No one, not one would mention being disappointed about gender. It was like all were 100% carefree about what their wives had or they were not willing to express it aloud. I don't mind being one of the few guys here because I can explain my desire for a son openly here and not frustrate my wife. Plus I'm not good at explaining feelings to others IRL so it is just better to type them here even if no one were to ever read them or reply. I do hope we have a boy some day.

Hi SadDad after reading your post I just got up my courage to confess here that I am having GD after I found out my wife was having freternal twin girls at the 18 weeks ultra sound scan. I acted ok at the time and I knew she was happy with that. But since then I couldn't shake the feeling why there is a 75% chance that I could have at least one son but I ended up two girls!!! To make the matter worse, this pregnancy was originally quadruplets reduced to twins, since the doctor said we were high risk we should reduced to twins for a better survival chance and there are other financial reasons as well. Now I blame myself for not doing the CVS to find out the genders before the reduction. But then it wouldn't be fair for the twin girls now if I did it. Oh, I am so frustrated and I feel like my attitude towards my wife and the twins is different after I found out the u/s result. I kept thinking the result could be wrong and prayed for it and my doc told me he is very sure about it after a second scan 2 weeks later. Raising one child is extremely costly, not to mention 2 at the same time, so to have a third child in the future(my wife is in the mid 30s) chance is slim. I have tried to convince myself having two girls is ok but deep down I am sad that I wont raise a son, a mini me, and my heirs will not carry my family name for me.

Welcome Sportsfan.  I wanted one girl.  But, I really wanted to have a boy first and I was devastated when I found out my second was a girl.  I have quite a few old posts in this forum if you want to look me up.