Why when we get our DG we don't believe it

I was told yesterday I am having a girl! I am in shock! I am in denial! I keep second guessing and actually have a private scan tomorrow at noon I'm paying for! I just always wanted a daughter and why now am I getting her? When I have accepted what I will have ! I'm just so shocked. My IRL friends and family don't understand and maybe I don't either bit tomorrow I'm hopping I can believe what is! But I'm not going to lie - there is a part of me that thinks what if they say it's a boy! I would rather know now than later right! Please someone say something! I feel lost

Sweetie you are completely normal so don't worry. The thing is when you suffer gd or unhappiness you sort of feel "safe" like nothing else "bad" can happen and when you suddenly get the good news you are waiting for you start to panic because now you feel unsafe like something bad is going to happen even though the odds of that are low. This is your girl and you well deserve it after having three boys. I can't relate to getting my dg but I did struggle with infertility with this one and when I found out I was pregnant I couldn't believe it and felt unsafe like I was going to mc but when I found out it was a girl and not the boy I wanted I kind of felt "safe" again. I guess we are just afraid to be happy. You know the expression "if it is too good to be true.." Well not in this case everyone deserves happiness so embrace it. You probably haven't had a good dose of it with all the worrying :) I am SO happy for you and if you don't want your blue dust anymore do you mind sending it my way for the future hun ;)

I never fully believed that DD was in fact a girl. I found out at 16 weeks, and had a number of other scans throughout the pregnancy, all of which showed she was a girl. Yet when I went to the hospital to have her, I only brought gender neutral stuff with me because a part of me still couldn't believe that she was actually a girl. I think it was because she was my dream and I didn't think that I would ever have a daughter of my own.

Lovehearts:

Sweetie you are completely normal so don't worry. The thing is when you suffer gd or unhappiness you sort of feel "safe" like nothing else "bad" can happen and when you suddenly get the good news you are waiting for you start to panic because now you feel unsafe like something bad is going to happen even though the odds of that are low. This is your girl and you well deserve it after having three boys. I can't relate to getting my dg but I did struggle with infertility with this one and when I found out I was pregnant I couldn't believe it and felt unsafe like I was going to mc but when I found out it was a girl and not the boy I wanted I kind of felt "safe" again. I guess we are just afraid to be happy. You know the expression "if it is too good to be true.." Well not in this case everyone deserves happiness so embrace it. You probably haven't had a good dose of it with all the worrying :) I am SO happy for you and if you don't want your blue dust anymore do you mind sending it my way for the future hun ;)

 

 

That made me cry!  I get that- its just nuts.  I feel ungrateful - you know.  p.s. have my blue dust. Im done with babies afte rthis one.  lol 

somerlouise:

I never fully believed that DD was in fact a girl. I found out at 16 weeks, and had a number of other scans throughout the pregnancy, all of which showed she was a girl. Yet when I went to the hospital to have her, I only brought gender neutral stuff with me because a part of me still couldn't believe that she was actually a girl. I think it was because she was my dream and I didn't think that I would ever have a daughter of my own.

 

 

Funny you say that about the gedner nuetral stuff- as I keep lookinga t the gender nuetral things. lol 

 

I posted my story on your other thread so I won't say it again. But I will say that the next 4 months are going to be very hard. Then she'll be born. You'll look at her and say; "of course this was her the whole time. Who else could it be? What on earth was I so scared of?"

You probably never will....I still can't believe I made her.

omg - enjoy this time.  celebrate a healthy pregnancy and being a mom to soon to be here girl!  YEAH!!!  Pink, flowers, dresses, dolls - all those things are now going to be part of your life and it is YOUR turn to enjoy this new and exciting adventure. Congrats - don't be scared.  The only person who should worry is DH and the HUGE credit card bill that he is going to get after all your shopping for her!!!

Congrats! I've been waiting to hear what you're having!!!

Congrats! I just had a girl after two boys. We chose not to find out and didn't sway either. I was fully prepared for a final boy but even now I can't believe I have a girl. I'm sure I'd feel the same way if she was a boy after two girls. I must say it is nice to buy girl clothes and get to keep them! If I had had an us at 20 weeks and been told girl I wouldn't have believed it anyway.

I have felt the same way since finding out. I was so, so, SO sure this was a boy and that we would only ever have boys that it feels like it must be a huge mistake. I almost can't reorganize my mind to imagine life as a mom to a daughter. I have bought her a ton of stuff but it still doesn't feel real and I am pretty sure it won't until she is here.

I know it will set in soon... Like many if u said - probably after she is born. I'm taking it one day at a time. This is news from yesterday so it's still new and I'm processing it.

Lovehearts:

Sweetie you are completely normal so don't worry. The thing is when you suffer gd or unhappiness you sort of feel "safe" like nothing else "bad" can happen and when you suddenly get the good news you are waiting for you start to panic because now you feel unsafe like something bad is going to happen even though the odds of that are low. This is your girl and you well deserve it after having three boys. I can't relate to getting my dg but I did struggle with infertility with this one and when I found out I was pregnant I couldn't believe it and felt unsafe like I was going to mc but when I found out it was a girl and not the boy I wanted I kind of felt "safe" again. I guess we are just afraid to be happy. You know the expression "if it is too good to be true.." Well not in this case everyone deserves happiness so embrace it. You probably haven't had a good dose of it with all the worrying :) I am SO happy for you and if you don't want your blue dust anymore do you mind sending it my way for the future hun ;)

I have always wanted a son - and to hear he is on his way almost 8 weeks ago, I am stunned and still feel exactly how you have described. I tell people when he is born, I won't be dressing him as i feel I will just need to keep checking his goods ( lol) and they all laugh - but I dont think think they realise how serious I actually am! I am feeling petrified for the moment he is here, I feel like how long will I have with him before the midwife says it's a girl. I have gone through the motions of buying blue, I now call him a him, but i honestly am so scared it's too good to be true, I have got gender neutral for my hospital bag. I have 4 d pics of his little Winkie ( as I kept asking the consultant if he was sure ) but I am worrying now that it is actually some sort of hernia or cord!!!!!!!! Absolutely ridiculous to a lot of people I know, but to me it Is almost like there can be no other explanation as I had convinced myself I was a girl carrier and now I have been told I have my boy!!! Congratulations on your little girl - sorry my post hasn't helped lol but I just wanted to share that the fear you are feeling is so normal - I am still there too. My nursery is still pink !!!!!!! Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

clazbaz:

I have always wanted a son - and to hear he is on his way almost 8 weeks ago, I am stunned and still feel exactly how you have described. I tell people when he is born, I won't be dressing him as i feel I will just need to keep checking his goods ( lol) and they all laugh - but I dont think think they realise how serious I actually am! I am feeling petrified for the moment he is here, I feel like how long will I have with him before the midwife says it's a girl. I have gone through the motions of buying blue, I now call him a him, but i honestly am so scared it's too good to be true, I have got gender neutral for my hospital bag. I have 4 d pics of his little Winkie ( as I kept asking the consultant if he was sure ) but I am worrying now that it is actually some sort of hernia or cord!!!!!!!! Absolutely ridiculous to a lot of people I know, but to me it Is almost like there can be no other explanation as I had convinced myself I was a girl carrier and now I have been told I have my boy!!! Congratulations on your little girl - sorry my post hasn't helped lol but I just wanted to share that the fear you are feeling is so normal - I am still there too. My nursery is still pink !!!!!!! Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

 

This is all hgow I feel too.  Glad Im not the only one.  I feel like the ration part of me is saying okay Ang its a GIRL and the irrational part is like is this a mean trick? Today I have a private scan and once they say Girl- i will relax.  I mean Im 20+ weeks.. dang it.  This is a different place.  My best friend who had two sons - says I should be happy -and I am - I just feel like Im in a fog or a dream!