Do u think our babies in womb can sense how we r feeling?

Since finding out Gender 9 weeks ago i have been very depressed, crying just about every day very unhappy and miserable.  Do u think our babies in womb can sense how we r feeling?

I know its not what you want to hear but yes i do.  I was were you are.  When I found out DS3 was a boy I was so sad.  It took me weeks to stop crying.  But what I did everyday was rub my belly and told him how much I love him and that I was sorry I was sad.  I still was sad, but I wanted my son to know I loved him and wouldn't be sad forever.

Yes have to agree with sticky beans.. My mum is a psychologist & did a study on children that were adopted and even the ones adopted at birth and not even knowing they were adopted, went on to have feelings of being unwanted that goes as far back as rejection in the womb. Obviously there's no hardcore evidence but it is fairly well written about that rejected babies feel exactly that. I think you have to try your hardest to seperate your desire for a certain gender from this baby. For eg I really want a girl and if some one told me they could save a magic wand & turn ds1 or ds2 into girls there is no way I'd agree to it, no matter how much I Want a girl, they are seperate from that want and that us what I've been trying to do with the baby I am carrying. The fact that you are thinking about shows how much you care so don't beat yourself up about it, your fighting to find a way forward :)

Thanks guys appreciate reading this, im trying i really am did not think i would be this upset for so long (((HUGS))

I think if you are really stressed out or anxious it can have a negative effect. If you are sad/depressed and not taking care of yourself, then yes negative for sure.. if just sad but still taking good care of yourself, then I'm not sure what the baby would feel. I do hope though you can move through this. I too had a hard time at first when I found out I am having DS3. I definitely felt a huge weight lift after the second confirmation (21 weeks).. within 2 weeks after that I think I felt a lot of the sadness lift. I still very much want a daughter and I have no idea if we will ever have that to be honest. But, I am really grateful that this baby is doing well.. you know? So far everything points to healthy.. and I am feeling him constantly now. Are you feeling any kicks yet? I think once you do it will help. We can't control what we conceive. I think that's the hardest part of this.. and if we sway I think we thought we were having some control, you know? So the blow is very hard. But, your baby is yours... and you are going to love him sooo much. Right now it's an abstract thing since you can't see him. But, I still it's good you have time to work through the disappointment of not having a girl now and hopefully you can greet him with joy when he arrives. I'm starting to get excited about having a baby boy since I remember how cute my other 2 were. And just having another baby is exciting and thrilling. It's amazing that at 2.5 and 4 my little guys seem so big now. I know I'll look back years from now and think of them as babies now too.. but now they seem like such big boys! Plus, as unfair as it seems it just is what it is. I'm not a religious person at all.. but there does seem to be some comfort in just seeing it for just that.. it is what is.. maybe it was meant to be.. this LO just belongs to your family and is supposed to be this way. I sometimes look at ppl with mixed families and think.. really? really? why them and not us? They did nothing different, some seemingly don't care. My sister for instance has BGGB. Her girls are amazing.. she is at such a loss with them though since they are such girly girls and she has always been a total tomboy.. don't get me wrong I think she feels super lucky to have both genders.. but she did nothing to sway or anything.. and I swear if she had just boys she'd be totally okay and happy with it. For me, I'm not necessarily a girly girl.. but really value the idea of a mother/daughter relationship and definitely would enjoy some of the frilly things too ;).. i never imagined having just boys.. truly.. but I do, and it may be all I have.. so I am going to have to embrace it. I'm just so happy and feel so fortunate to have such great kids. I can't imagine my DS2 not being here.. and I had gd when he was born. And oh my.. what a special little thing he is. Holy crap. He is just beyond a joy. And I really wanted a boy first so DS1 I was just so happy when they said boy.. these little ones deserve that too. you know? I'm totally rambling.. but I hope some of my thought process will help you since I too was crying every day for weeks.. and now at 32 weeks or so pregnant and I really do not feel that same angst and sadness at all. I think you too will get there you just need to focus on what you do have now. Maybe a 4th isn't out of the question? Maybe, you will you have this baby and feel so complete. I know a woman with 5 boys and she said now, she has no feeling of a void of not having a daughter.. they tried all the tricks at the time. their kids are 5-15. I think once you get past the baby stage if you decide your family is complete you will feel okay and this sadness and emptiness will not be as strong at all. Feel better!!!

Yes they do! Its a proven fact but it is also proven that a little stress on mom can also make baby mature faster! Too much stress tho is bad and can actually cause u to go into labor.....just a thought and also dont feel bad for how u feel....im feeling the same way and know that when i do see my baby for the first time the feeling will melt a little more each day

I think yes! If I'm having a hard day my baby kicks and moves.

im still trying to come to terms with the fact that my evil thoughts and my selfish tears did not kill my daughter. it happened the first time i was so sad i didn't have a son and i cried and cried and cried and i wished and prayed i wasn't pregnant. and bam she was gone.. then we swayed again i got twin girls and yes i won't lie i was diappointed and sad. i cried again but not had badly as with dd5. found out a few weeks later twin b passed away.

Yes, I think our babies can feel our sadness, because when we're sad (and even more when we're dpressed) certain chemicals travel through the body, reaching the baby in a way (the same happens when we're very happy), but we also have to realise that this does not mean our children will be affected by it when they grow up. I have a friend whos husband died while she was four months pregnant, and he is the happiest little guy I know. And just think of all the pregnant women who live in countries at war, their fears and sadness, ofcourse their  children are affected but they don't necercerally turn out to be depressed children or are affected physicially.

Ok, I'm in the minority here, but I say no - unless the depression leads to not taking care of onesself or if a person is far enough along for baby to hear outside sounds and they are yelling at their belly. I would be interested in seeing the studies others referenced. How many of those children were mistreated or not bonded with after birth? As for the adoptees who didn't know, I bet they did know in their core. We have many adopted children in our family and they all "knew" they were different.

And besides, if our thoughts/feelings determined the outcomes of our pregnancies and the eventual health of our children (and I'm not talking about thoughts/feelings that remain unresolved and/or are handled unhealthfully after birth), then many of the children represented in this forum would be psychologically messed up and unhealthy - and all the unwanted children in the world would die before birth. 

I just don't understand why it is it that someone can think thoughts/feelings can affect a baby in utero - but somehow, thoughts/feelings obviously have NO effect on what is in there in the first place. I wouldn't have a boy if my thoughts were so powerful - my womb would only have accepted X-bearing sperm. So, I just don't get it. I don't think we get to have it both ways.

Even if a person is religious/spiritual and believes God/Higher Power has something to do with the gender one is given, then why is that power so fleeting in that a person can take it back when it comes to the health of their baby?

I just think we'd all realize by now that what we thought/felt has so little to do with physical reality in this matter - or else we'd all have our dream families. Personally, I beat myself up over enough stuff, and I refuse to add THIS to to the list.

I feel very passionately about this - obviously. It makes me so sad to read posts like newbaby's. Newbaby, you did NOT cause the death of any of your babies. Nothing anyone can say will EVER make me believe that. EVER. You are a loving, caring woman who loves each of your children - and that is obvious to any and all who read your posts. It makes me so, so sad to think you spend one minute blaming yourself for any of the heartache that has come your way. You are a beautiful soul - beautiful. 

 

ok so yall know im on bedrest and watching alot of t.v. but did you see 20/20 last night! barbara walters interviewed that canadian beauty queen. omg she was beautiful! but she was born a man named walter. anyway her mother said "i had 3 boys and i wanted a daughter" she prayed for a daughter. she probably had alot of gd, poor lady and back then there was no support like we have in each other. anyway that little walter started hormone treatments at age 14 to become a girl. stories like that make me wonder if babies can pick up on gd and things like that.

No. Why add more guilt?

newbaby2011:

ok so yall know im on bedrest and watching alot of t.v. but did you see 20/20 last night! barbara walters interviewed that canadian beauty queen. omg she was beautiful! but she was born a man named walter. anyway her mother said "i had 3 boys and i wanted a daughter" she prayed for a daughter. she probably had alot of gd, poor lady and back then there was no support like we have in each other. anyway that little walter started hormone treatments at age 14 to become a girl. stories like that make me wonder if babies can pick up on gd and things like that.

It's been scientifically proven that an unborn babies heart beats facing when it's mother is thinking about it, so ya ITA newbaby.