"I feel the same, but the opposite way around. I have 2 girls and everyone I know has at least one boy, I long for a boy so badly I'm scared of becoming pregnant in case it's another girl, which I feel awful about, especially as I know there are women out there who long for a girl."
Thanks to the ladies who posted replies after my post! I was actually feeling a lot of GD again this morning (especially after going into a baby store and the ladies around me were so excited over the adorable girl dresses...and I wish I could buy those too)...but after coming home & reading the replies, I'm already feeling a bit better - so thank you! :)
I don't know if anyone else is going through this, but I think one of the reasons I'm sad about having another boy (and no girl) is that I long for a relationship with a daughter like the very close relationships I share with my mother & grandmother...and all of the men that I can think of, they all seem to leave once they are adults & rarely talk to their moms. It makes me so sad to think that I may feel so alone as I get older...and all I dream for is a close bond with my children -- and of course I'd love to do the "girly" things with a daughter too. A few friends have said, "well at least you won't have to deal with the drama of having a girl (later down the road)...", but the truth is...I actually wouldn't mind that "drama" that they speak of! I was a pretty emotional/moody teenager, so I can understand what they are referring to, but the funny thing is that if I ever had a daughter, I wouldn't consider that such a bad thing at all. In fact, quite the opposite! I'd rather have girl "drama" than boy "I wonder what they are up to" (i.e. they can be quite secretive/independent/not wanting to share stuff with mom!...etc.) issues!
Also, I have a very small family -- I am an only child & an only grandchild, and I only have one "half" cousin (who I rarely saw growing up & who now refuses to talk to our family) so I missed every having a sibling and I would love that in my family...but also that bond between a mother & daughter as I had with my mother growing up. I also already look forward to being with grandchildren some day (if I am blessed to have grandchildren some day), and I don't know about you ladies....but I find that the moms of moms are really the ones involved given the opportunity. What I mean is, how often do you meet the father's mother taking care of/spending a lot of time with her son's kids? I have a lot of friends in my neighbourhood that went back to work after their mat leave was over and their moms (parents) are helping look after their kids! How often do you see the dad's mother being so involved? Also, when do you ever hear about a dad's mother being there at the birth? It's always been the mom's mom that I'm aware of (like with us, my mom was an amazing birth support for me...there during the entire labour....whereas my husband's mom just waited to hear the news of the baby over the phone afterwards). I realize that it's quite selfish...but I long to be and remain a very important & INVOLVED part of my childrens lives...and I feel this is much more common & likely if I ever had a daughter! :(