Oh gals, thanks so much for the encouraging posts. They all make sense and give me hope. I am pg with DS2 right now and just found out gender 2-3 weeks ago so it's still pretty raw. What is helping tho is keeping gender to ourselves - I'm very glad we're not telling until birth as I'm sure I would have had a bunch of "Oh well" negative comments.
I think it was John Lennon who said "Life is what happens while you're making other plans.". Well, I don't want that to happen to me. I want to enjoy my boys fully and not be obsessed by TTC girl or just by the fact that I don't have a girl. I guess it's a glass half full type of situation. It's also true that our kids (and their genders) should not define entirely who we are. There are other things: our DHs, our friends, our work, our hobbies, traveling, etc....even volunteer work is rewarding - I'm considering becoming a big sister eventually. And even in times when I feel like their genders define me, I need to get OUT of my darn mind that two boys is somehow "inferior of defective" in any way to one of each or to two girls. That's where I hope time, hypnotherapy and regular therapy will help... as well as hanging with other moms of boys.
To get back to friends, I won't lie - I don't have much desire to hang out with moms of girls right now. Some of them don't bother me at all - I have a friend whith one of each (her kids are older tho) and all is fine. I'm just going to avoid the smug moms of girls who have stated their clear preference for girls in front of me. I think that out of respect for myself and my sons, that's a smart move. Who wants to hang around smug people who don't respect our feelings anyway, regarless of gender issues?
I'm glad there are other celebrity moms with only boys - Cate Blanchett is cool - I had no idea she had all boys! And can't believe I forgot Princess Di! As for Victoria Beckham, I'm pretty sure they went HT for their girl... I'm hoping Celine Dion doesn't go HT for a girl too - I mean, she's 43 and her DH is 70.