This forum is great, but...

 ...it's too bad the "Rising above GD" forum is not more active because I really would love to hear about women who found peace and happiness after GD. I guess the women who rose above perhaps have no desire to come back here, kwim?

Anyway, on a side note, I started listing in my head the celebrity women who had all boys (one or more) and seem happy (...!), but can't think of many as Hollywood seems to be all pink these days (ie: of course, Jessica Simpson got the girl she wanted). These are the few I came up with:

Kate Hudson
Celine Dion
Sandra Bullock (adoptive son)
Britney Spears

 

Please  feel free to add to this list!!

 

 

I think Britney is a GDer (I read adout her being upset when she heard her sister had a girl) and Kate Hudson was on record saying that she hoped that her 2nd was a girl, "felt this one was a girl, etc.  Not saying they're not happy with what they have just saying that they probably at LEAST have some gender DESIRE.

I think that Gwen Stefani *might* be one to add to the rising above list but I am not sure about her.  I have a feeling that she may have another but I wouldn't doubt if she mysteriously get pg with twin girls.  She always seems to be dyeing her sons' hair and painting their nails...

I feel like I have risen above it (most days  ) mainly because I keep myself so busy with my work, but I felt like I HAD to do that because I wasn't able to have any more children.  I could feel sorry for myself and wallow in it or dust myslef off and move on.  I am about to start my third business and my husband thinks it's a substitute for not having anymore children...hmm lol.  

At first I was scared to get pg again because I thought it would be another boy, (after YEARS of infertility treatment it kind of puts things into perspective.) then I didn't care because I would be grateful for ANY baby IYKWIM??  Kind of makes me sad when I some on here and see people SAD or worse ANGRY about *another* baby because it's the wrong kind.

Kate Blanchett has 3 boys. 

Lately I have been feeling really happy with my 4 boys, and my desire for  girl is not nearly as strong as it used to be.  But I think you have to feel that way for a few years before you are completely "cured."  I have no idea how I will feel in a year when my baby is bigger, and I am sure a piece of me will always miss having a girl. I think it is all about finding joy in what you have. My kids are healthy and happy, and I realize that is most important. I rather have my 4 boys here with me and healthy, then lose one and gain a girl.   Plus my desire for a girl is just a little piece of my life.  The bigger pieces are the children that are actually here and not just a dream.  Not sure if that makes sense.  It sounds better in my head, lol:-)

I mean Cate Blanchett.  I can't believe I got that wrong since I am a Cate with a C too!!

Jastie:

Kate Blanchett has 3 boys. 

Lately I have been feeling really happy with my 4 boys, and my desire for  girl is not nearly as strong as it used to be.  But I think you have to feel that way for a few years before you are completely "cured."  I have no idea how I will feel in a year when my baby is bigger, and I am sure a piece of me will always miss having a girl. I think it is all about finding joy in what you have. My kids are healthy and happy, and I realize that is most important. I rather have my 4 boys here with me and healthy, then lose one and gain a girl.   Plus my desire for a girl is just a little piece of my life.  The bigger pieces are the children that are actually here and not just a dream.  Not sure if that makes sense.  It sounds better in my head, lol:-)

Yes. This. This is great. I love my boys, and most of the time it is just fine that I have this pack of boys, I don't live and breathe TTC girl, kwim. Once in a while, something reminds me of what I don't have, and i get sad about it, but far more often, it's buried under what I do have...a bunch of cute, funny, athletic, intelligent, boys I get to raise to be good men. If I had a daughter, it would be the cherry on top, but without it, it is fine. Most days. In talking to moms of same gender families, they get busy, and the desire is often overwhelmed by life.

Photo-Girl:

 ...it's too bad the "Rising above GD" forum is not more active because I really would love to hear about women who found peace and happiness after GD. I guess the women who rose above perhaps have no desire to come back here, kwim?

I still hang around - even tho any trace of GD has vanished - because I think its really importiant to come here and let people know that there are others who felt the same way they did, but it doesnt always work out the worse case scenerio we imagian when we are pregnant/find out the gender.

I think there are quite a few celebs who has only boys that totally rock it. And I just adore Cate Blanchett (us aussies are a good bunch lol)

Princess Diana :) I was going to say Victoria beckham always seemed very happy with her boys, it's a shame she seems to have just dumped them for her girl though. Photo gal I can't remember is this your 2nd boy? Have to say the GD is much more prevalent whilst you are pregnant and probably for the first year... A but like the desire for a great birthing experience and the smug mums who get them lol! My ds2 was 3 when I started trying for this one and honestly it wasn't really an issue at that stage, I didnt look around at other people family set ups etc, like someone else said, it became a very s,all piece of my life and I was thinking more about moving house, holidays around Europe, planning Disney world in a few year, going back to work etc not of the girl I didn't have. So I am quite confident that I will get there again. I do still have days where I feel gutted I wasn't the lucky one but I know this goes away. I am very conscious that I want to give my 3 boys a lovely life style and I don't want to spend my life keep trying for a girl which would mean the 3 I have couldn't have that life if you see what I mean.

 Pamela Anderson

 Princess Diana

 Brandi Granville

 Sheryl Crow

Ricki Lake

Julia Louis Dreyfuss

Nicole Appleton ( for the UK girls)

And me ......I am having my second boy :)  So I will have 3 men in my life who will look after me and cherish me......and make me cups of tea.

Don't know if these were mentioned:

Gwen stefani

Patricia Heaton (everybody loves Raymond) 4 boys I think

Stephanie Seymour had 3 boys (and then a girl), Eva Herzigova, Melissa Joan Hart, Giselle Bundchen, Natascha McElhone, Naomi Watts, Sheryl Crow (adopted 2 boys), to name but a few not mentioned already...

 Oh gals, thanks so much for the encouraging posts. They all make sense and give me hope. I am pg with DS2 right now and just found out gender 2-3 weeks ago so it's still pretty raw. What is helping tho is keeping gender to ourselves - I'm very glad we're not telling until birth as I'm sure I would have had a bunch of "Oh well" negative comments.

I think it was John Lennon who said "Life is what happens while you're making other plans.". Well, I don't want that to happen to me. I want to enjoy my boys fully and not be obsessed by TTC girl or just by the fact that I don't have a girl. I guess it's a glass half full type of situation. It's also true that our kids (and their genders) should not define entirely who we are. There are other things: our DHs, our friends, our work, our hobbies, traveling, etc....even volunteer work is rewarding - I'm considering becoming a big sister eventually. And even in times when I feel like their genders define me, I need to get OUT of my darn mind that two boys is somehow "inferior of defective" in any way to one of each or to two girls. That's where I hope time, hypnotherapy and regular therapy will help... as well as hanging with other moms of boys.

To get back to friends, I won't lie - I don't have much desire to hang out with moms of girls right now. Some of them don't bother me at all - I have a friend whith one of each (her kids are older tho) and all is fine. I'm just going to avoid the smug moms of girls who have stated their clear preference for girls in front of me. I think that out of respect for myself and my sons, that's a smart move. Who wants to hang around smug people who don't respect our feelings anyway, regarless of gender issues?

 I'm glad there are other celebrity moms with only boys - Cate Blanchett is cool - I had no idea she had all boys! And can't believe I forgot Princess Di! As for Victoria Beckham, I'm pretty sure they went HT for their girl... I'm hoping Celine Dion doesn't go HT for a girl too - I mean, she's 43 and her DH is 70.

Great Thread! I've pretty much "risen above" GD and I still come on here alot to offer support. I had GD with ds2 and then I found this site.  We swayed with our 3rd and I  the whole ttc and pregnancy that if we had DS3 that I would not have GD.  We did have ds3 and I didn't/dont have GD.  I bought him delicious little outfits, bedding, carsea all in rich yellows, greens orangest etc.  Thank God I didn't have GD because I got my tubes tied and we are done having babies.  Of course I still get a little heart pang when I see a little girl that looks how i imagined ours would but it doesn't consume me like it used to.  There is a light at the end of the tunnel mommies

Photo-Girl:

I think it was John Lennon who said "Life is what happens while you're making other plans.". Well, I don't want that to happen to me. I want to enjoy my boys fully and not be obsessed by TTC girl or just by the fact that I don't have a girl

 

I love this!

I'm due anyday with DS# 3 and I'm honestly looking forward to meeting him already!! I was upset when I heard boy but I cried the first day only. I was sad about the daughter I wouldnt have not about the son I'm gaining.

When I think of my boys growing up together (20 months apart) and the bond I hope they share...it make me incredible happy. I know that he was meant to be with us and he is already loved. I'm not sure what the future holds for us as my DH & I are still young, but as of now I feel like my family is complete. He feels the same way too.

One thing that I will add is that although I've always wanted a daughter...I never got pregnant seeking one. It was more of a...I'm already pregnant so I hope its a girl,..sort of thing. Also, I dont feel the pangs of jealousy others describe when seeing other peoples daughters. I can look at them...admire their cuteness and move on. I'm looking forward to having nieces. I *think* that will satisfy my desire for a little girl. If it doesnt, I'll rethink it in a few years. But as of now....its the furthest thing from my mind

its not going to disappear over night ladies. i think you are looking for a quick fix. of course it will take time. it took me 10 years. you may feel gd for a long long time. but honestly i can't think of one person who looked at their newborn after delivery and said, "oh dear God! it has a penis i can't keep him. what a shame." you will love your baby and adore your baby, sure and after a few months you may start wishing for a girl again. hell you only have 2 you wil probably be back with an awesome sway or a surprise bfp like i did. enjoy your baby boys. once you watch them playing together and they both snuggle you, one on either side. you will feel all warm and fuzzy and its times like that you will forget whats between their legs.