Why is it that,

 Well, for me, it was because it's what I KNEW.  I don't know what it's like to be a boy with a brother.  I grew up with sisters.  We always had such a strong bond and are best friends to this day.  I have a brother, too and I love him dearly, but don't have that kind of relationship with him.  Plus there's the fact that he's 9 years younger than me.  I don't have a daughter, but I wanted 2 girls so that they could be sisters.  I KNOW how great the sisterly bond is, but had no clue about boys needing a brother.  That said, I am glad that my boys have each other.

I wanted a brother for my oldest son when I unexpectedly fell preggo with my 2nd son...I wished now I could give my DD a sister but to me my health is more important then her having a sister! My acquaintance was trying to give her oldest daughter a sister after 3 boys and she had a uterine rupture and a micro-preemie which died a week after her birth!

I don't get why people on here get so angry with those expressing GD? Isn't that what this forum is about, a safe place for people to come on here and not be judged for their feelings? Maybe in their mind it was that ideal of having two girls to play together, maybe not - but they are THEIR feelings. I am mourning the girl I won't have because I wanted to experience the pink stuff again, the prettiness, the dolls, the gorgeous sewing I could do. Yes a girl might not be a girly girl, but I am mourning the opportunity that I won't get a chance to do it at all! I don't really care why people have GD - for them it is real, whatever the reason. If you don't feel that THEIR reasons for THEIR GD is good enough - move on! You may as well be in here slamming everyone for being on these boards then, because GD is GD whatever the reason.

MegsW:

I don't get why people on here get so angry with those expressing GD? Isn't that what this forum is about, a safe place for people to come on here and not be judged for their feelings?

 

Fair enough, but, OTOH, don't judge the OP (or ALL the others that have chimed in and agreed with her) either.  Just because someone may have both genders, or only one gender that doesn't make THEIR flavor of GD any more valid or real than anyone else's. 

 Why on earth does IG have to ONLY be a "safe haven" for certain people to come express their feelings and not others??

(besides trolls obviously)

 The one thing that helped me when I had GD after the U/S was thinking that my son would get a brother and how wonderful that is. I grew up with only brothers, and always longed for a sister.

 Now I can give my son a sibling of the same gender. I think it is great. 

velouria:

MegsW:

I don't get why people on here get so angry with those expressing GD? Isn't that what this forum is about, a safe place for people to come on here and not be judged for their feelings?

 

Fair enough, but, OTOH, don't judge the OP (or ALL the others that have chimed in and agreed with her) either.  Just because someone may have both genders, or only one gender that doesn't make THEIR flavor of GD any more valid or real than anyone else's. 

 Why on earth does IG have to ONLY be a "safe haven" for certain people to come express their feelings and not others??

(besides trolls obviously)

Well I kind of think that this part of the forums on In Gender is Gender Disappointment, so people should feel safe to come on here and express their GD regardless of their reasons or if it is a boy or girl GD. Anyway, I realise that not everywhere is it okay to talk about it, but did think here was a place to come and not be judged, Obviously not

MegsW:

velouria:

MegsW:

I don't get why people on here get so angry with those expressing GD? Isn't that what this forum is about, a safe place for people to come on here and not be judged for their feelings?

 

Fair enough, but, OTOH, don't judge the OP (or ALL the others that have chimed in and agreed with her) either.  Just because someone may have both genders, or only one gender that doesn't make THEIR flavor of GD any more valid or real than anyone else's. 

 Why on earth does IG have to ONLY be a "safe haven" for certain people to come express their feelings and not others??

(besides trolls obviously)

Well I kind of think that this part of the forums on In Gender is Gender Disappointment, so people should feel safe to come on here and express their GD regardless of their reasons or if it is a boy or girl GD. Anyway, I realise that not everywhere is it okay to talk about it, but did think here was a place to come and not be judged, Obviously not

 

 

Well this post is not necessarily dealing with GD, at least I don't think. From what I perceive, we had so much boy negativity here that it was really hurting mothers with sons or mothers who would like to have a son. This poster mentioned because she kind of felt sad that no one is happy about their sons or daughers having a brother where as they are so desperate to give their daughter(s) a sister, making it sound like the relationships with their sons is really nothing compared to that of sisters.  And it is true to some extend and I have seen this happen where ppl with multiple girls and only one boy all want another girl so their daughters can have a sister. What about their son? Is he not allowed to have this as well? It kind of sounds like ppl think important for a girl to have this relationship while for a boy, they don't care if he does not get the same opportunity, which is not kind of fair and is sort of wrong.  It makes sound like sisterly relationship is always special as it will end up with their girls being best friends and such (false stereotype) and the rest, whether it is brothers or brother-sister is nothing or is not special at all like a "sister relationship". I mean if that is so, this world should consist of only women, no men and then can we guarantee a sister relationship and everyone will have a sister because it's the only relationship that is "special"