Why is it that,

no one on this forum ever writes about giving their son a brother, BUT only giving their daughter a sister.....what makes the sister bond so much more precious than the brother bond?

I am not sure if I should keep coming onto this forum, I used to come on here for support and most of you ladies are ABSOLUTELY AMAZING, but sometimes other peoples posts just make me more sad....:(

I agree the brother bond is amazing. I always tell my boys that they are so lucky to have each other. They are good buddies most of the time but have fights too. I know that if one of them was being picked on the other would defend him. I heard my 4 yr old telling his 2 yr old brother that he still loves him even when he hits him. I'm glad my boys have each other and I'm not bothered that my daughter will never have a sister. She will have two lovely older brothers instead!

 Honestly- I have 3 boys and their bond is amazing.  I love how eachof them has a special relationship- its so sweet.  My younger two share a  room and thy each have nicknames for one another- amazing.  Sad no one doesnt mention it mnore- maybe because it is a given. 

YES!!! i don't get it ladies. the ones with pp's always want to give dd a sister but nobody is ever jumping up and down to give ds a brother, why? thats the only thing thats me not over the moon excited about this pregnancy. this is my 11th pregnancy and im done. im tired. i can't do another pregnancy. so yes my son isn't even here yet and it breaks my heart to think on cold rainy days my girls will be playing barbies while my son will sit alone in the corner and play dinosaurs and cars all alone. i think all you ladies with multiple boys are so lucky. i know most of you want a girl this time and thats great but will you be content with just 1 or will you start the evil cycle of swaying and praying again just to give her a sister? and if you find out you get another boy then what happens? you have gd and are back in here.

I think it's because everyone thinks that sisters will be friends for life - ha!  I told my sister to get out of my life last June and I have no intentions of seeing her again!  She's mean!!!

To be honest, it's one relationship I never wanted for my kids, just from my personal experience!

For what it's worth, if I was to have another child, I'd pick a boy hands down (no offence to all girl mothers!).

I saw it too, it is pretty odd.. maybe the women who post that wanted that for themselves? I was the youngest of 3, my brother was 8 yrs older and my sister 4 yrs older.. oddly I always wanted a boy first so if I had a girl she would have an older brother, since I so adored mine when I was growing up. I have a 4 yr old and 2 yr old boy now and am having a third son. I always wanted 3 kids and I wanted 2 boys and a girl.. never thought of the brother/sister, sister/sister, brother/brother relationship at all really.. but, i can say, that anyone I meet that is having a second boy I tell them how awesome it will be for their older one. My 2 boys are incredible friends. My older son protects his little brother like there is no tomorrow and they are so good with playing with one another and sharing.. they just "get" each other. I picture they are going to be friends for life. Their personalities are pretty different. Our older son is pretty intense with moods etc, and our younger one is just so easy going. So they compliment each other well. I did want a girl a for them too to have a sister experience.. but, I think any relationship you think your children will have with one another is just that.. something you "think" may happen. You really can't predict how they will get along. In fact, the moms I know with 2 girls around my boy's age have a much harder time with them getting along.. they have a lot more jealousy issues. When I was growing up, I couldn't stand my sister! She was always ordering me around. I'm close with her now, but wasn't a party when we were little.

My boys are such good friends and I am so happy seeing them growing up together. That's a part of why I wanted a sister for my daughter. My boys are closer in age and there is age gap between my boys and my daughter too. Two sets of each gender was my dream, but now I'm expecting my 4th - my third boy. This is the thing we cannot choose boy or girl, we just have to accept and get on well with the life we have ;-)

I suppose it's because as the majority of people on here are women it's what they either had or wanted as a girl. My dh is the same with wanting boys as he never had a brother growing up! I, on the other hand, curb the trend as I only ever want 1 girl and wouldn't want her to have a sister ... Again for my own selfish reasons I guess (& I do have a sister)

I don't get this either. Why is it so much more important to give a dd a sister? What about the ds? Giving a boy a brother is just as important. I honestly find it annoying to read almost 100% of the time that when there is a pp it is dd that needs a sister, even when the 2nd child is a boy.

Me me me!! I wanted a brother for my son quite badly!!! I think that's even nicer, personal preference, but generally men argue a bit less and the rivalry is different too - so I truly truly wanted him to experience having the same sex gender. But my god, if we all thought like that we would all have huge families! For those of us who want big families, that's wonderful - but you must agree it is not for everyone.

Also clearly having two of the same gender does not mean they will be BFF's. I have one of each and we are done, done, done. I certainly don't expect my boy to sit on his own and play with cars while my daughter sits by herself and plays with dolls - I expect my kids to have FRIENDS and family members who are happy to join in. And having grown up as the only girl, well it only made me that much closer to my mum which was not a bad thing as she then sadly passed away when I was 25. I wish I'd spent even more time with her now than I did!!!

 

 

I'm happy to give my DD a SIBLING.  A friend, to play with!!!  Frankly, I didn't care if it was a boy or girl.  She happens to be getting a brother to play with.  I've heard some comments about not giving her a sister from family and friends and you know what?  I could give a shit what they think. I love my upcoming little man. 

OP, I totally feel you.

I only ever worried about giving my children siblings.  I was an only child, so that's why.  I dreamed of having a sibling until I was 25!  Boy OR girl...either one, just a sibling!  Alas, I have to live through my children.  I LOVE having 2 of the same gender, and would happily welcome baby boy #3! 

I don't think that people see the bond between sisters as more important. There is a majority of moms on here who have more than one boy and who want a girl/girls. So... I think in most cases the argument "I want to give my daughter a sister" just comes from the fact that there are already brothers in the family - and there is no longer a need to give a son a brother. And I also agree that it is about giving your child a sibling - not a specific gender.

newbaby2011:

i can't do another pregnancy. so yes my son isn't even here yet and it breaks my heart to think on cold rainy days my girls will be playing barbies while my son will sit alone in the corner and play dinosaurs and cars all alone.

Don't be heart broken! Your youngest girl and this boy are so close in age (almost like twins ) and I am pretty sure that they will play together. I have a twin brother and we always had a great time playing together. I didn't feel like a needed a sister and he didnt feel like he needed a brother. I think being close in age is more important than gender. And your other girls are a bit older than these two so there is a good chance that they will become playmates 

My boys are close in age and very close.  I love that they have each other.  I think it is great when we take vacation, they always get to have their best friends with them.  They do fight alot though;-)  The reason a tiny piece of me wanted # 4 to be a boy was because I loved the bond I knew he would have with his brothers. It is also the reason I probably won't try for # 5. It just seems so perfect when I watch them. 

 I just have one brother, and he is plenty for me.  Even though he is 7 years older, we have always been close.  And his wife might as well be my sister.  Really, the sibling bond can be close regardless of gender, but it can be fun having the all the same:-)

 I wanted any boys I had to have brothers but if I had a girl I only wanted one. My brother always seemed lonely and my sisters and I were always trying to kill each other.

I think this is one of those things that comes down to personal experience.