Is is too early to be disappointed??

Hi all Heres my story. I have twin 4 year old boys who i love to death. We lost a little girl late in pregnancy last year and havn't truly gotten over it - despite being pregnant again (15 weeks). Our twins were conceived using clomid, our lost daughter was naturally conceived (against the odds), and this one is using fertility drugs again. I had my NT scan and was gutted hearing the tech guess boy! I truly never even thought of us having another boy. I also recently posted a scan pic on here and most thought boy;(. I am not sure if it's too early to be 'disappointed'?! I cling to hope this little one is a girl and we'll be one of those who find out at the 20 week scan its not what originally predicted! Am I clutching at straws and should just suck it up and accept we will remain a family of all boys?! If Im honest I look at my twins sometimes when they're being terrors and despise the thought of adding 'another one of them' to the mix... OH how awful that sounds!!!

With my 4th pregnancy the tech hinted the baby was a boy, as you can see from my siggy, she's all girl!

Thanks for giving me hope!

stickybeans - you wouldnt have a 12/13 week scan pic of your little lady would you? i cant help but see boy nub (despite my nurse friend saying way too early to tell), so would like something to compare it to...

Here you go! Its under a different name because I put it up after I put up my 20 week scan and I wanted unbiased opinions...but she's my little girl! Her pic was early though...11W 6D. http://m1216.photobucket.com/albumview/albums/tinkerbellehoping/BABY_2.jpg.html?o=2&newest=1

Thanks! I can't seem to open the link (even when cutting n pasting) but Ill keep trying;)

hope this works

Sorry no;(. Not to worry! I appreciate your time trying.

did you hear boy at 15 weeks, or just at 12 weeks? 12 weeks is early and can still change for sure.. 15 weeks though the boy potty shots seem to be pretty accurate :(.. we heard boy at 15 weeks and I spent 6 weeks until my next scan obsessing over how maybe it could be wrong. There were some stories out there, but the majority were right for sure.. including ours.. for DS3.. so I know how you are feeling. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can only imagine how hard that must have been to go through. I hope that you hear girl at your next scan.. if you haven't gotten another one yet, you can probably get one at 16 weeks and get gender confirmation just so you know earlier and don't have to stress over any longer then need be. GL!

Hi hope!. I was told at my 12 week (I was 12w 5d) boy. she didn't point anything out but of course being the type of person i am ive been analysing the shot that looks oh so boy over and over;). my next scan isn't until 19 weeks (and im 15 tomorrow so about a month to wait), however i do have 2 quick scans with my OB before then. cautious to ask then though. kinda thinking longer i wait more chance of being right! im honest in saying i have no idea how im going to react if bubs is indeed a boy. not sure ill cry - at the time - but am sure awful thoughts will go through my mind that i will hate myself for later. people have told me after our loss i wont care what i have cause ill be focussed on bubs just being healthy - but i DO care! perhaps too much?!

I would ask if you think that you are going to spend the extra weeks stressing over it? If so, I would ask in the next couple of weeks. stressed so much over it because I didn't ask for a potty shot so had to just go on her word. I do think the nub shots are not 100 percent at all. There was one person who posted today for her friend I believe and it looked like such a perfect boy nub and it was a girl. But at 16 weeks I think it's very accurate if the equipment is good. I don't know what to say.. I really was super upset to hear that this baby is a boy.. I love my boys.. They are 2.5 and 4 and super wild and silly and just amazing.. but I do really want the experience of raising a daughter too. Having all of one gender, be it boy or girl is hard because you know you are missing out on what it is to have one of the other as well. Raising each child is a different experience from the other, but it's even more so when they are different genders. I think for me it's a very large picture thing.. and esp going into adulthood. Although, I can't control any of the relationships I will have with my kids I do know how close I am with my mom.. and I also know how the extreme opposite my dh is with his.. not to mention, I can't stand my mil.. and I shutter to think I may only have that x3! So, with everything you've been through.. to have had a daughter and lost her in pregnancy, and already having twin boys I think it's natural that you care what your baby's gender is. It's natural to want to have a little gender balance. It's hard for people who aren't in your shoes to understand though.. that I have found out for sure by talking to a few people openly about how I feel. I hope that you hear girl. I really do.. and if this is a boy, maybe you can be open to trying again.. you did afterall conceive a girl totally naturally, it may happen again. I feel like my dh and I may only make boys. GL!!!

wow thanks so much Hope. i think your right about getting an earlier scan. i think whenever the next scan is i wont be ready to hear 'boy', but i suppose thats just whats meant to be if so. thats amazing what you read about girl being told boy then was a girl later on - fingers crossed;)! ha ha. i thought the same thing after the twins about believing boys were all we are meant to have. we have no boys in the family and cry that we were SO CLOSE to adding a little pink to the family. i am anxious about the looks of pitty we will get if its a boy and have decided not to tell anyone until he or she is born because of it. AAggggrrr - id like to hibernate for the next month till the next scan ha ha ha ha. thank you for sharing your story. it is nice to know that there are others that feel at least some of what i do.

if they said boy at 15 weeks then its most likey a boy hun. if they said girl they have a higher chance of being wrong but to see a good shot of something protruding enough for an experinced tech to say boy then its probably a boy.

    but.. and i say this with love and support in my heart. and i know because i too lost my daughter. but having another girl won't bring her back. i wish to god it would and i pray everyday i could have but i had another girl after mine passed away and while i love her to death she can never replace her sister. i hope you get a girl one day so you can experience the joy a little girl can bring but in the meantime take comfort in your surviving boys. congrats! 

thanks so much newbaby. im so sorry for your loss also. i know nothing (boy or girl) will replace our daughter, but for some reason its become more about completing the family we almost did. sounds silly i know;). how i wish i never asked gender guess!! I was told boy at 12 weeks (not 15) so i cling to hope for next scan at 19 weeks. im only 15 weeks tomorrow...

Nub scans are only 80% accurate. I've seen many CLEAR numbs pointing one way or another actually be the opposite gender. Don't count yourself out until your 18-20 weeks potty shot!