Anyone here need a son for family name to survive?

I am new here and am so happy to have found this site and support!  Hubby and I are hoping to have a son one day to complete our family( we already have a beautiful little baby girl)...if we don't ever have one, our family name will sadly die with my husband. No pressure there, right?lol. I have always wanted a little boy ( way before my husband and I met, ever since I was little), but now there is only more reason!

 Can anyone relate to this?

I can relate.  That was the reason (family name will die with my husband too) why I wanted a boy.  And I also thought that it would be nice for my husband to have a father/son relationship.  But lucky for me, my GD passed quicker than I thought it would take.  Mainly because my personal preference is to have at least one girl.  And also my husband loves girls.  To my surprise, even my in-laws didn't care that we don't have a boy.  They are just happy we are willing to have kids so that they can have grandkids! 

I hope you will have a son! 

I know how you feel. My DH is the last boy in his family and we have two girls. So the pressure on me for this new baby to be a boy is huge. I get rude comments from my Fil and g-fil all the time. They r so obnoxious about it I hope DH and I have a girl just to piss them off. If I have a son I already feel sorry for him and his wife.

Kburns, I hope you hear boy! But I like your attitude from your sig, that you are praying boy but would love another girl. Do you live close to your in- laws? I hope that they won't be really obvious about their favoritism in front of your girls.

 ME! My fiance has a brother who has 2 daughters and his wife had her tubes tied so they are DONE. So it's up to us. My first daughter is from a previouis relationship, so this is his first child. He's very happy but he did hope for a boy. Hopefully the next one will be a boy. We want 4 (INCLUDING my DD) so we have 2 more shots..

Well, you never know, a daughter might end up continuing the family name. I'm one of three children (I have an older sister and older brother). My father is an only child and his dad was the only son in his family. My brother is not having any children, but I am planning to have a child as a single mother, so I'll be passing on the name, at least for one more generation.

I do hope you get your little boy though! :)

my first husband threatened to divorce me if i didn't provide a son to carry on his family name. i tried, i did what i could. i swayed.. i failed. i gave him 3 daughters. we fought all the time, he hit me and the girls. so i filed for divorce. then i met a great man. he loves me and he loves my girls. but he's the last of his family too. so i decided to sway again. i failed 3 more times. my last mega boy sway resulted in twin girls. this time i gave up. my husband actually said it was ok and he loved having all girls. and i was actually content. no swaying no trying but my lifestyle is one big girl sway. well we got pregnant and im thrilled to announce its a boy! after 10 long years of swaying... my advice.. sway girl.

Yes, me too. I always wanted boys anyway and the family name is just another reason. MIL makes the occasional comment which is super-annoying. We'll see, I have one more shot I guess (see siggy).

Hope you all get your dream boys!  I just had to comment on this post.  I didn't realize that people anywhere (except a few select places) still thought about family names.  I, personally, couldn't care less about passing on my husband's family name...it means nothing to me.  In fact, I almost fought to use mine!  Then again, I don't like my in-laws enough to try to please them.  Guess maybe I am too modern...or hateful?    Do you ladies want this for yourself as well?  Or just because your husband or inlaws want it? 

i love my new last name. its wonderful and sexy and french. i have a brother and he has a son so my maiden name is carried on. but when i left my first husband no i didn't care anymore. i guess he didn't either because he got snipped. but when i left it was drilled into my head over and over that i was stupid, ugly, everyone hated me and i would spend the rest of my life alone because no decent man would take on a woman with 3 worthless girls.

   my 2nd husband was a batchlor, never married. spent all his money on his 'baby" his sports car. it really was a nice car. he lived in new york but was here visiting his sister on the west coast. he had a great job back in new york. but he met me and we fell in love and he sold that car and quit his job and moved across the country with the clothes on his back to take care of me and those "3 worthless girls". we aren't hit anymore. we aren't cussed at anymore. we are treated with respect. im the queen and we have 5 princesses who he adores. i would give him the world if i could.

newbaby2011:

i love my new last name. its wonderful and sexy and french. i have a brother and he has a son so my maiden name is carried on. but when i left my first husband no i didn't care anymore. i guess he didn't either because he got snipped. but when i left it was drilled into my head over and over that i was stupid, ugly, everyone hated me and i would spend the rest of my life alone because no decent man would take on a woman with 3 worthless girls.

   my 2nd husband was a batchlor, never married. spent all his money on his 'baby" his sports car. it really was a nice car. he lived in new york but was here visiting his sister on the west coast. he had a great job back in new york. but he met me and we fell in love and he sold that car and quit his job and moved across the country with the clothes on his back to take care of me and those "3 worthless girls". we aren't hit anymore. we aren't cussed at anymore. we are treated with respect. im the queen and we have 5 princesses who he adores. i would give him the world if i could.

wow! That's beautiful....made me cry! Dumb arse ex husband! I've got one of those!

I am beyond happy for you, newbaby!!  When I saw your post announcing it, I cried.  I wanted to write a post to you...but, I can't from my phone.  So, now that I am on the computer ~ CONGRATULATIONS!!!  I know your story through posts on here.  I really feel that your little guy is a special miracle.    And, your new husband sounds fabulous!  I'm guessing I just don't love or appreciate mine that much?  Sad.  He's a good man, too.  But, his family sucks.  And to me, that's what the name stands for...his family, not mine.  It must be lovely to feel how you feel.  Wish we all could!  Oh, and one last thing, your first "husband" must feel like a real tool.  You sure showed him, lady!! 

thank you so much girls, i feel so blessed but im terrified. girls are a comfort thing for me now. i know how to take care of a girl. im scared to death about screwing up this boy. i just keep looking around my house and i see barbie, my little pony, tutu, dora's dream house for the 2 year old next to barbies dream house for the 6 year old. a boy wil hate it here.

   i didn't know the site was fixed. i tried to get on at christmas and announce everything it i couldn't log it. fab 6 found me on genderdreaming and told me how to get back in. and tambo for the record i really am not in love with my in-laws anyway. fil hates me because i can't sit on the phone for hours on end and chit chat with him all day. mil hates me because i stole her boy. i think sil likes me but i think shes a bad mother. i know i showed up ex husband he's 30 and on wife number 4 trying to find happiness, unemployed and they live with his parents.

sorry for hijacking your post maimai, i hope you get a boy too! hey if i can get a boy, anyone can! 

Have to say congrats Newbaby on your news! And I love the advice if you want a boy sway girl.. it really does make you wonder if swaying does anything at all.. as for the family name.. I never thought about it to be honest. My DH does have a nephew.. but my brother's wife can not have children. And after a heartbreaking IVF attempt they pretty much have given up.. they may adopt.. but honestly their relationship is not looking that great. My sister kept her last name and hyphenated all of her 4 kid's last names. I can't imagine they are all going to keep the hyphenated name.. she too thinks they will drop one and is hoping actually they'll drop her husbands and keep hers! Her Husband's brother is not having kids either... so really up to him for the name to go on. Honestly, I don't think it matters about a name continuing on. Plus, you never know your DD may just keep her name.. I think everyone taking on the man's name is not necessarily the majority anymore. I think more would be your feelings about not having a son in general. I am having a hard time imagining I will never have a daughter.. but here I am on DS3! And we really only wanted 3 kids.. plus I swayed for this one to be a girl, so nervous even if we tried again we'd have another boy. Which would be amazing, but probably stress us out financially and emotionally so much, that we'd only want 4 if we could have one daughter. I think since you have only had one child, your chances are still really good your next could be your son! Just don't stress about things you can't change and enjoy life! Ha, something I should tell myself more often ;)

 Have you ever considered that your little girl might not change her name if she gets married?

I wouldn't consider changing my name for anyone! Its my history and part of who I am.  I think more and more women are choosing not to change their last names now as levels of equality are slowly beginning to balance out.  Also, as its become more acceptable, many young couples don't get married at all these days.