Miscarriage after seeing the heartbeat, so sad :(

This was my 4th pregnancy. All 3 previous ones were perfect. This was so out of the blue. I passed the baby at home and it was so small, but so perfect. I feel so lost....I also wonder if it was a baby girl (I have 3 boys). How have any of you dealth with the grief? Any response if appreciated.

hugs im so sorry hun, i know how rough it is seeing a thriving baby with a good strong heartbeat then lossing her. i too had 3 perfectly healhty babies, i had 2 miscarriages but very early on and i never saw a heartbeat. then we had a 4th then surprise we got pregnant with a 5th when the 4th was just 10 weeks old. i made it to 22 weeks and my water broke and i went into labor. no idea why, they think maybe my fluid got infected somehow and my body just pushed everything out to keep me from getting sick but along with all the fluid it pushed out my baby girl too. she lived for 2 hours and she was so tiny and perfect just like your little girl.

   i spent alot of time talking to a therapist. it did help alot. she saw alot of ladies who went through miscarriages and still births and infant deaths. i know how much it hurts now and no you won't ever forget her. but time helps, spending time with your surviving children and remembering how precious they are helps. and i promise you will probably get pregnant again when you are ready. i did. i probably did it too soon but i felt i needed to get pregnant again asap. and yes while i did have another adorable little daughter i love so much she can never replace her sister. it will happen for you too. how far along were you? hugs and again im so sorry, allow yourself some time to grieve.

I'm sorry for your loss ((hugs))

I'm so SO sorry to hear this. :( thinking of you.

Thank you all. New baby 2011....so much of what you said helps and I have thought many of those thoughts. I am so sorry for your loss. I was just 10 weeks, but the baby was fully intact. The hardest part was taking it in a tupperware container to the Doctor to send to pathology. I cant go more than 2 hours without crying. I am grateful for my healthy children and I am trying to focus on them. I bought an angel ornament in memory of it as I felt the need for something. I guess it will just take time, but my heart goes out to any and everyone who has ever had a loss. Thanks for all of your thoughts. It means so much.

I am so sorry for your loss.  I had 4 perfect pregnancies and delivers and have since lost one baby @16 weeks and one at 6 weeks.  It is a loss you can't really explain to people it is so overwhelming and heartbreaking.  Many, many ((HUGS))

i'm so sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry for your lost. I lost my son's twin and there are times that I think about the baby and wonder what he/she looks like. Like newbaby says give yourself time to grieve, cry, scream whatever you feel the need to do and know there is a lot of support here for you