Ramzi seekers, stop here first

Can the forum leaders make this sticky?

 I wanted to stress that the Ramzi method is just a guess!  Please don't put a lot of anything into this.  I obsessed for weeks over my scan.  Gave predictions on here and believed in it with all my heart.  It was so very wrong for me.  I wish I hadn't wasted so much time on this.  My placenta was on the left and everything.  My baby was still a boy.  So.....just be aware of that.  Unfortunately, my baby passed away.  I was completely shocked.  Then after it was all said and done, they tell me it was a boy.  More shock.  I had nothing for a boy.  I had to totally absorb the fact that he was a he.  I was completely and totally convinced it was a girl.  All because of this theory.....that I no longer believe in.....

Thank you for sharing this Jo & I did write on your other post but would like to say again how very sorry I am for your loss ...I myself have lost 7 children 2 of which were in later pregnancy so I would like to offer my support should it be needed ...sending you biggest hugs and I wish you well in your future xxx

Thanks Jen.  I did write in pregnancy loss forum.  I would appreciate your advice.  Thanks!

I pop on there sweetheart and post on your post darling xxx

I cant find it huni so I will place it here for you...What i would like to say to you is that every person deals with grieving in different ways and that is because there is no right or wrong way. some people grieve straight away , some it takes a while but what always remains is we need to grieve in order to go forward in life ...Your Baby will always be your baby as you will always be his Mummy so we hold on to a belief and I will share mine with you :) ...I have had 5 early mc's , My Daughter jade was born sleeping in 1992 my sons twin sister, my other daughter Kelsea we lost when i was 16 weeks pregnant and for years and years all I did was search for an answer to a question that was simple!! the question was "WHY DID THIS HAPPEN"?...After many years of searching and torturing myself & not grieving looking for answers, I had another mc in march 09 and it hit me that my answer i already knew!! it was "THERE JUST WAS NOT A VALID ANSWER TO MY QUESTION THAT ANY MEDICAL PROFESSION COULD GIVE ME THAT COMFORTED ME" ...SO HERES WHAT i DONE....I had a belief and that belief was That a Brighter star a perfect Angel was needed and my baby was chosen for that and that out of sight should never mean out of mind for they are around us just in a thought and that they are being cared for just until its mummys time to be re-united together again....This is my belief and this is what helps me carry on through my days . I also have a yellow mini rose bush in memory of my 7 Angel babys and on each Anniversary we release a balloon (well 7)and send it to heaven for my babys to catch and play with we also light a candle and we all speak freely of our 7 babys as they are still very much a part of our family regardless to them being in Heaven ...Support is also needed but sometimes it can be too much with everyone asking if your ok? so for someone just to say "no words I say can heal your pain but i want you to know Im there if needed" means so much more...sometimes Bereavement Counselling or support groups talking with other mummys who have gone through the same thing helps alot also ...I hope this post has helped abit and if there is anything you wish to ask me please feel free too....sending you much love and strength Jo xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I'm so sorry for your loss hun. and I actually believe non of there theories are 100% accurate! neither the nub theory, nor skull, or ramzi.

Thank you, Jen.  That's a wonderful way to think about it.  This is all so new and so raw for me.  I am having a hard time coping.

This is my thread...

 http://www.ingender.com/cs/forums/t/238449.aspx

Thats only Natural My Darling there is no time limit on grieving sweetheart and im sure your head is full of questions at this moment in time , time is a good healer sweetheart xxx

Yes...it's only been a little over a week since I had the D&E.  I just want to get through the holidays at this point.  Holidays have no point right now.  November is my birth month.  My birthday is on Thanksgiving this year.  Everyone keeps asking me what I want for my birthday.  I don't care about my birthday!!!  I want my baby back.  If anyone can figure out how to do that, then that's what I want.  It's hard to be thankful this month....but I am thankful for my children who are alive.  Without them, I would not get through this.  Still....even though they are here and living and breathing....I just think of him and how badly I want him back.  It just sucks.

Bumping this up for jojogirl

Jojo I still think of you...I hope that you are doing ok.

I'm doing ok.  I am keeping busy and that helps a lot.  My body has decided it wants to be fertile again and that's really upsetting me.  It's just another reminder that I don't have my baby anymore