TTC a girl in 2012?

Well, long story short, I'm here because of my GD. I was lurking for awhile as a non-member but recently joined when I had a 16 week ultrasound that said I was having my second boy. I was/am very disappointed but since not many people understand my disappointment, I'm forced to hide it. Even now, 2 weeks after that ultrasound, I'm still sad that I'm not pregnant with a girl but EVERYONE else thinks I should just be over it. My hubby doesn't understand and feels as if I am rejecting HIM and baby...so, it's hard to talk to him w/o him getting upset. But that's not the reason for my post.

We've pretty much all but made the decision to start TTC a girl in 2012...directly after we have this baby. I'm struggling with it because I believe that children should have at least a couple years w/ mom and dad before a new baby comes along. I waited 4 years to start TTC #2 and here I am, not even half-way through this pregnancy and planning #3. I think it's really sad that I'm not thinking of my baby boy as "good enough" I mean...if he was, wouldn't I give him the time I think my children need? Wouldn't I be enjoying this pregnancy instead of thinking of my next baby and how THAT baby will be a girl and I will finally be happy? We honestly don't have the money to go high-tech but here I am thinking of ways to get around that.

I am aboslutely miserable that this baby isn't a girl. Don't get me wrong, I know I will love this child but that's not the point. Almost all of us will love our children regardless of their sex. What gets me is that I can't even look at girl stuff without becoming sad and depressed...my friend is due 3 or 4 days after me and she finds out what she is having next week. I'm sorry to say that if she is having a girl, I will probably break off contact with her. Not completely, but enough that I don't have to hear about how happy she is and how she got exactly what she wanted.

I never meant to be this way...at all. I never imagined that my dreams would be crushed twice in a lifetime. I never thought that I would be willing to do WHATEVER it takes to get a girl. I never imagined that I'd have 3 kids. I don't want to be that person but I AM.

Where do I even start with swaying? Should I just say screw it and save the money to go high-tech? How many high-tech opposites are there? Is there a way to sue if you get the opposite or are you just SOL?

So many people do not believe in swaying myself included. I have seen so many ladies with the "perfect sway" have opposites and tons of ladies not sway at all and get what they want. High tech is the way to go if you absolutely could not deal with an opposite of what you swayed for. It is so expensive though and not a guarantee you will get pregnant so it is such a gamble.

Don't kick yourself over it. You'll be over it by them time he arrives. Maybe next time you will get that baby game, and if not you could always try again. I'm not one for swaying either, but if we have a girl next time I doubt we'll go again, but if we have a boy I think I'll definitely keep trying until we have our girl. Al moms want at least 1 girl, like dads want to have at least 1 boy! It's natural. Oh and as for waiting a few years between babies, No, I think having kids close in age is nice, because the kids will always have someone to play with. Because I doubt a 15 year old will play with a 9 year old etc.

Congratulations!

I remember when I found out my second was another boy...I was slightly disappointed. Baby talk #3 came around slightly after that but my hubby said wait until he was 1 year before we start trying. And baby #3 was another boy...I was so upset as my hubby and I said this was it and actually laughed at me when I cried about it-later he told me he didn't realize how upsetting it was. And that brings me to the point where you are now. Depression. It hurts and it is sometimes unbearable to think about life without a girl. I've asked myself what I did to be so unworthy of having a girl to bond with like I did with my mother. But with the thoughts of actually conceiving #4, I've tried to accept that it may not turn out like I want it. I've really put a lot of thought into ttcing. And if I don't have a girl although it will be extremely difficult and painful, I need to move forward and enjoy it. It is not words of comfort and false promises of it'll be ok, but through the understanding that I have children who love me and I must love them whatever the case.

if you want a girl i would wait. i read somewhere that 75% on the time irish twins ( less then 1 year apart) are the same gender. not true for everyone but def true for me. and 75% seems pretty high.