PS, irony of everything, the bub is a boy! lol. so I've had about 35 people look at my 12 week scan and say girl, so there you have it. I actually feel slightly "better" knowing he's a boy, because even if I was told the gender of the baby had nothing to do with it, if the bub had been a girl, I know I would forever be terrified of trying for a girl again and getting the same outcome
You feel better it is a BOY? Because it is easier to murder a baby boy because it is not what you wanted? You do not think the baby will suffer when they pull it out of you limb by limb? I guessed boy from your video as well, it seems people on this forum like to tell people what they want to hear. I am glad this is so funny that is brings you to laugh out loud but it disgusts me. Your poor baby. I will pray for him. No I have no compassion for baby killers, none at all.
Look, I am always the first one to rant when I see someone wanting to abort because of gender, but that is NOT what is going on here!! The "lol" may be her way of coping with something truly awful, I seriously doubt she would laugh about her child dying. Her girl reference seems to be about a worry she would have in the future that the condition was somehow linked to her girl fetuses (even if she was told it wasn't) and having to go through the same awful thing again. The relief is from knowing the condition is not genetic but spontaneous, and since she has 3 healthy boys at home it is proof it was a "fluke" (for lack of a better term). I've had 4 miscarriages and I cannot imagine having to make a decision like this, I know it must be gutwrenching. My heart is breaking for Joanna, and you know what? I would prob make the same decision as she. With one of my losses I found out the baby had passed around 8 weeks, and I decided against a D&C and wanted to wait for it to happen naturally. A week went by, two weeks... nothing. My body would not miscarry the baby. I was full of grief and mourned the baby, and at the same time just wanted it out of my body. I remember crying to my best friends about having a "dead baby" inside of me, it was (sorry to say) a repulsive feeling. My doc then told me I was at risk of hemmoraging and infection if I continued to wait, so I had a D&C. Don't regret it at ALL! I know an 8 week fetus is different than a 20 week one, but the bottom line is this poor baby won't survive. No chance. We see a snapshot of Joanna on this thread but we don't see the tears and agony she is truly going through. In a situation like this we have NO right to judge her decision. And how awful to say to her that they will "tear her baby limb from limb"!! Awful and untrue!! Everyone I know that needs to have their baby delivered early (in the 2nd and 3rd tri) are induced and deliver the baby like any other baby would be delivered. Please show some kindness and compassion, and give her some credit that she would not do anything to intentionally harm her baby.
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I'm in no way "disappointed" that I have sons, I just want the chance to raise a daughter as well.
Want to try for a early next year!