Is everyone *excited*?

 I don't know what it is... a totally unplanned pregnancy, GD or what but I just am not "in the mood" for this.  It's still surreal to me, even though I check her heartbeat every night, and would freak out if I couldn't find it, most of the time I don't remember I'm pregnant.  It's not on my mind.  Then I remember I'm going to have a third child and I feel nervous.  I haven't really bought anything, I haven't been reading on homebirths (and obviously I need to prepare), I have tried to look at names but didn't find any so I've pretty  much given up on that.  I have cancelled my prenatal appointment twice now. 

On the other hand I am very focused on everything else in my life- really enjoying my two and am going back to school.  I am more excited about that than anything right now- but having a baby is on the back burner.  I feel like I'm going to be surprised when I have a little person and am worried I won't bond or be happy.  With my other two pregnancies there was some anticipation and excitement as far as planning/preparing etc, but this time it's just like a chore I know I'll have to do but keep putting off.

Anyone else feel or ever felt this way?  Did it get better like once the baby started moving and the pregnancy progressed?  It's like it's not even real to me, like I'm dreaming this happened.  I am not even excited about the ultrasound- nervous something will be wrong and I so hope she is okay.  I have absolutely no interest in confirming gender- not even slightly tempted.  I wish there was something I could do to get excited about this- any suggestions?

I think it's just because your busy having two kids and going back to school is a lot. Also this is the boring time barely felling flutters and not even haft way there yet zzzzzzzz.

I think naturally when you ttc and plan a baby it's a lot more exciting when it actually happens. This was also a surprise for me I'm excited but mostly to find out the gender so I can shop. Other than that its business as usually around here also not really looking at names yet, not reading in my home birth books, and I don't think I'm eating as healthy as I should be ugh. I think as the pregnancy picks up and the baby really starts kicking it will be a lot more interesting. I'm in no rush though I'm trying to enjoy my sleep while I can

 Well, I very much am (as this pregnancy was planned and wanted for a year and a half, and we tried for 10 months) but I think what you're feeling is totally normal. I agree with Sunny. You'll get there, just give it some time.

I agree with Sunny...I have been very busy with taking care of my 4 liitle ones that sometimes I forget that I am preggers but then I feel the flutters and the thumps as a reminder that I have my little girl in there. I am like you I am not confirming the gender until the baby is born....I dont want to obsess with the US anymore and just want to enjoy my last baby to the fullest....Like CMQ said give it some time and you will get there....

   I'm hoping it's normal.  The pregnancy I took the best was my second, I don't know why.  With my first I had never wanted kids and had a hard time adjusting to the thought of being a mother but after she was born and I adapted I knew I wanted at least one more so when it happened I welcomed it.  Then I was *done* and so this one hasn't been an easy adjustment.  Hoping it gets better!!  I am too tubby to feel movement yet, although I hear it on the doppler.  I really have no other symptoms either so maybe that's why it doesn't seem real.  The HB on the doppler is the only thing that makes me think I really am pregnant.

I'm DD jumping but just want to say I think it's totally normal! Even with a planned pregnancy! Mine was planned, and though I was thrilled for the first few weeks, now that the MS/hangover symptoms are still going strong, plus with a gestational diabetes diagnosis on top of it, I've found myself less and less "excited".... It's more like, hurry up and get this first trimester over so I can feel better--not just physically, but emotionally too. My DH wants to think of names, nursery ideas, etc--and I have a hard time meeting his enthusiasm, which hurts his feelings, I know... And then I feel guilty because I know I should be more excited, but I'm not... And sometimes that kind of pressure--pressure to feel joy because others do, because it feels like something's wrong with us if we don't--makes things worse, you know? At least in my case. I would suggest doing things that make you feel good now, and not worry about what you are "supposed" to be feeling.. Just take it one day at a time and try to seek pleasure from other aspects in your life right now. That's what I've been doing--focusing on football season, on school and autumn activities with my two stepsons, family bdays, etc--and it's been helping so far.