Can somebody please tell me that your DD(s) aren't always just perfect little princesses....

I think they are just talking from their experiences w/ their own kids. There are boys and girls closer to their dads than moms and vice versa, like again, it's all on personality and character, not on gender.  I'm much closer to my dad than mom btw.

lovemylittleones:

"I'm so happy and grateful I have a DD so I can appreciate my boys more".... etc. etc. I mean, OUCH. I'm sure I would feel the same way.... EXCEPT I DON'T HAVE A DAUGHTER!!!! That was the whole point of my post!!!!!!! I was just looking for some simple responses because I was having a tough day. Yikes. Again, thanks to all who read my post and responded to exactly what I posted.....

 

Yea I don't understand that statement. What does a girl have that makes you appreciate boys more?  Don't know if it rubbed me the wrong way but I took it as if you don't have a daughter, you won't be happy with your family? Or if you don't have a son, you won't be happy with your family of all girls? Not necessarily true at all, what kid you have in your life, boy or girl, they will amaze you in one way or another. It doesn't matter if you have a single gendered or mix gendered family..they are all your kids and they will sparkle a sense of pride in you through their acheivements, success and love. And I agree with Mom2RJA, I wish everyone can be guranteed at least one of both genders to realize that stereotypes and all those ridiculous generalizations about boys and girls are never 100% true..just the other day some old lady was making pity comments behind the back of a woman who was spending time with her two boys and she said something on how girls are better, and the woman herself seemed really happy with her family, kind of sad.

 

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My daughter isn't perfect, but I have to admit that she is much more cuddly and social than my son was at her age. She is also very girly and gentle, pretty much a stereotypical girl which is really adorable. But it also means she cries more when she falls, needs more verbal attention, and is alot more delicate which can equal more work. All my son has to do is bump into her gently  and she cries. Oh, and her hair is always a mess because she constantly pulls out her clips. It made me appreciate  how my son is rough and strong and independent. He really is alot less maintenance.

MyWishCameTrue:

Whenever I say I'm grateful to have a girl because I appreciate my boys more I mean I'm happy because I don't have such a strong gender desire for a girl anymore. I love my sons like crazy, but as you all know by now, I still wanted girls. I had Gender disappointment with both, and when I got over my disappointment, I had gender desire instead. For me, having a dd got rid of that gender desire. I don't have to wonder what it's like to have daughter... because I now I know. And so I can appreciate my boys to the fullest, rather than wonder what life would have been like if they had a sister... I did appreciate my boys before dd was born, but GD would cloud my thoughts at times. Now I can rise above (I wanted dd to have a sister but I'm moving on from that) and watch my kids without gd in my life.

I'm sorry if this sounds a bit insensitive - but I'm not sure how else to explain how I'm feeling.  

 

It wasn't specifically targeted at you or anyone else, so no need to be sorry . Just saying in general, the way it was written made it sound like what I mentioned above, but I understand now what you're saying and it's perfectly normal to feel like that.

MyWishCameTrue:

Whenever I say I'm grateful to have a girl because I appreciate my boys more I mean I'm happy because I don't have such a strong gender desire for a girl anymore. I love my sons like crazy, but as you all know by now, I still wanted girls. I had Gender disappointment with both, and when I got over my disappointment, I had gender desire instead. For me, having a dd got rid of that gender desire. I don't have to wonder what it's like to have daughter... because I now I know. And so I can appreciate my boys to the fullest, rather than wonder what life would have been like if they had a sister... I did appreciate my boys before dd was born, but GD would cloud my thoughts at times. Now I can rise above (I wanted dd to have a sister but I'm moving on from that) and watch my kids without gd in my life.

I'm sorry if this sounds a bit insensitive - but I'm not sure how else to explain how I'm feeling.  

Aaack! Yes, as I said, I knew exactly what you meant..... and I said I'm sure I would feel the same way, if I had a daughter.... BUT I DON'T!!! So, GD STILL DOES cloud my thoughts at times.... because again, I DON'T HAVE A DAUGHTER!!!! I still DO wonder what life would have been like if I had a daughter... BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE ONE!!!! You don't have to explain what you meant because I'm not daft and it's perfectly clear what you meant.... but it's like pouring salt in the wound, you know? You're going on and on about how you're so glad you have a daughter because you don't have to wonder anymore or let GD creep in or have that desire and longing anymore.... but I still have all of that because I DON'T HAVE A DAUGHTER!!!! Re-read my original post. I was not asking anyone to tell me how much better they felt now that they have their desired gender. You said, "For me, having a dd got rid of that gender desire"... WELL OF COURSE IT DID!!!!! You said that you're sorry if you sounded insensitive but if you read your posts and put yourself in the mindset you were in before you had your daughter, I think you would realize that it's like sticking the knife in and twisting it around. I don't mean to be rude or offend anyone, either, I'm just saying that I think you missed the point of my original post.

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MyWishCameTrue:

[HUGS]. I've deleted my post - because now that I look back on it, it does sound really insensitive. I wasn't referring to your original question, I just wanted to answer JJ49's question...

I know how your feeling (I felt the same way not long ago myself) - but I don't know what to say that will cheer you up hunny.

Thanks, MyWish, not to worry. You didn't need to delete your post... I guess I was just saying that, unfortunately, there are loads of us on this board whose GD is still very real and very raw.... I'm sorry if I seemed rude at all.... To be perfectly honest, I'm very happy for you (honestly!) but I'm so envious at the same time! Oh, how I would love to say "my daughter".... (sigh). I seem to have had quite a big setback with my GD lately and I guess I'm just sensitive. Wish I knew what to do to just get over it (or find the secret to having a daughter! We swayed hard but DS2 had other plans!!!! Wouldn't trade him for the world though....) Hugs back to you and thanks for understanding....