Seb2011, I hope this helps because as you can see, girls are JUST AS messy as boys. You never know, your little man could be a perfect angel that hates making messes! I hope that you don't start everything off by thinking you won't be close because he's a boy - my husband and mom are VERY close and so are my dad and my grandma. They definately love their mamas and I know your little boy will love his! Just remember that all kids will be messy, naughty, etc - that's just the way they learn about the world around them.
Well that certainly hasn't been my expierence so far but perhaps I will be proven wrong. I am not counting on having a close relationship with my son though so when it doesn't happen I won't be disappointed. I can only go by my personal experience and I've had many bad experiences with toddler boys (heck, make that men in general) and I am so dreading the baby growing into a toddler, and then into a teenage boy. I also want to say that I have seen far harsher comments posted on this forum arguing against having boys and I feel like I was crucified for expressing my feelings. Maybe I'm actually really upset right now and need a little sympathy instead of being attacked? For those who really think that people like me who didn't get their DG are bad people because they're upset about having the other gender, why are you on this forum?
I am really trying to move on and look past this but the fact that I am clinically depressed over everything it makes it a lot harder. I just want it to stop hurting and I wish I could just be happy I'm having a boy, but I'm not and I don't know if I'm going to get there anytime soon. I have a lot of doubts, and attacks are not going to help me get there any sooner. I decided that it's best to stay away from sharing my true feelings on this forum and saving them for therapy where I won't be judged and instead I'll be helped by someone who doesn't want to hurt me, but rather to help me.
What part of my message is attacking you - I hope it's not me? I'm actually very sympathetic towards GD, and I think it's very normal for women to have it. I had GD before my first because I wanted a girl so bad and I got judged for even having a preference. People can be really cruel. I think most women are trying to help/show you that girls really are just as messy as boys and that you can have a close relationship with your son. Like I said, my husband and his mom are really close, so is my dad and my grandma. It's really nice to see that kind of dynamic relationship.
Who said you were bad? You're not, it's obvious you are hurting. If people are telling you are awful, just ignore that because plenty of women on here want little girls, there is no shame in that.
I know it's hard, but reading posts telling you about son/mom relationship will help because they can be fabulous. I thank my husband's mom for helping make him who he is. He is a kind, wonderful and loving father. YOU can be that very same mom.