Calling all ladies with three girls

Hello

 I have been suffering with really bad GD for the past 12 weeks. I am now 32 weeks and still am finding it si difficult to accept that I am having a third girl. It never occured to me that we would end up with all the same gender. All I can see in my head is a family photo with 2 girls and  a boy! I can't see 3 girls and I am sure I will not be able to until she is here. I feel so heartbroken that this is my last chance and  I will never get my boy!  I think it would really help me if some ladies in the same boat could tell me their story and tell me what it is like on the other side. Does it all just feel right in the end. At the moment it feels so unbalanced! My other 2 are so close to their daddy and I fear that the next one will be. I love the fact that he is close but feel sad I will never get a mummys boy. 

 

I really look forward to hearing your stories and your words of wisdom.

 

 

Thanks from a very sad and very hormonal lump!   x

hi, I had written a post for you in the hope you would see it, don't want to rewrite incase the monkeys eat it lol. Look out for it xx

Hi twizzler...im awaiting baby girl 3 any day and unfortunately it hasnt gotten easier really for me too. I also wonder about the little boy that i may never get.  The one thing that does make me smile is looking at my other 2 and saying hey another one cant be that bad can it?  they are so close and i know they will be very lucky to have each other.  I have no sisters so im glad i can give them atleast each other.  Hugs to you. I am still praying for a miracle but i understand how you feel. Hugs to u.  farmerswife- i actually saw your message and it made mefeel better also. thanks a bunch for sharing.  i will let you know the deliver goes twizzler- maybe there is hope for us gals yet.:)

 I absolutley LOVE having three girls!!!!!  My youngest DD brought an energy to our family that we never knew we were missing.  I would never never change having three girls, even if I would never have a boy, although I was pining for a boy and as you can see I think I got him! I guess it was different for me, however, becasue I didn't even know I wanted a boy until my youngest was 3.  So I was never really in your shoes, I just thought I would share how lovely having three daughters is.  

I'm in the opposite camp and am expecting my third little boy. I do think there is something really special about having three of the same. I keep thinking how super special it'll be for my boys to have each other and be a little gang together. I'd still hope I'll maybe have a little girl in the future but that will be as well as and to complement my third boy, not instead of. It is hard when so many people seem to have a mix of genders, but just remember that makes our families really special and unique. Congrats on your little guy roonarpia!

I don't have 3 girls but certainly wanted it and here are some of the reasons why: Growing up we were 2 girls and I alway envied 3 kid families. It would have been so wonderful to have another sibling,boy or girl, but a gang of girls is just too cool. And think about it, how unique is your family? You have 3 girls that will grow up to be the best friends and take wonderful care of you guys. In my family DS isn't going to have a brother so it would have been so much better for him to be a girl. But my girls are amazing...they dote on him like little mummies...and you will be amazed at the maturity and responsibility of your girls.

And trust me there is SUCH a peace with knowing you aren't going to have any more kids. Of course you will sometimes wonder what if____? But for the most part you will delight at never having to go through conception, pregnancy, birth ever again! Most of all, you just get to sit back and watch your kids grow up and develop their own personalities and there is SUCH a peace with that. Of course I could lament every day about how I'm going to try for a girl again to get my dream family and how I don't have _______ and don't have _____. But life is about making the best out of what you have, and trust me it will be so much easier for you to do this once your precious little girls gets here. You won't be able to imagine life without her! I assure you!

I am also blessed to have 3 daughters, and the bond they share is so beautiful. Little things like hearing them chat and giggle together in the bedroom at night just melts my heart. I have also found that the older they get the closer and more deeper their love for each other grows. I also have 3 sisters and we have journeyed thru weddings, pregnancies, motherhood etc and I anticipate how fortunate my girls will be to share these joys together. Once your 3rd precious daughter arrives I am sure u will delight in the new dynamics she will bring to your family. U have lots of lovely things to look forward to in the future with your 3 little ladies....u will see!!

 I have three girls and no boys. Its hard to accept when you wanted a boy so badly. I can promise you that it gets much better when you aren't pregnant and you have a baby to hold and love.

Three girls is very special, but the grief of never having a boy is very real too. Hang in there and please believe me when I say that it will get better in time. I still very much want a boy but if I never have one, I'll continue to count my blessings everyday with my 3 beautiful girls.

 The crazy thing is so many people on IG and other websites tell me I have their dream family. Always makes me smile and be grateful for what I do have.

Lots of love. It will be ok, I promise. I'm a 3 girl veteran and all is good. 

 Canadian muslim, farmers wife, roonarpia, waiting for daisy, American housewife, starwishes, sari.........THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR FAB RESPONSES!!!  Its funny this GD...I truly believe that it is just a case of just trying to get through it until the baby is born. Its so so painful at the moment. So being able to speak to other people who have been there or who are there at the moment is so brilliant.

 Life has to go on and I cant compromise my other 2 little ladies (although I do feel very disconnected from them as I do the pregnancy!) It is a tough situation to be in but all these fab words do really help in m y attempt to 'self help' myself out of what feels like a very dark hole that is just going on forevere and ever!

 

Farmers wife, I have looked for your post. It sounds like a good one. What title did you put it under as I have searched and searched.

I am really looking forward to hearing from all the ladies with DD on board after the delivery!

 I am so so sorry to hear that so many of you are going through the pain at the moment. I would not wish it on anyone!

I am so grateful for all your  replies. I got up feeling a little bit better and felt myself going down hill so looking at my replies was a real tonic!

 Another thought I need answers on is, and it is the thing that really troubles me is despite the joy of seeing her there will be a part of me that does not feel 'complete'. So my question to you lovely ladies with three grils or three boys is...is it possible to feel complete, but still have the longing for a mixture? I know if I had been told boy I would be so excited now and would feel 'complete' when he arrived!

 Big thanks.   x

as you can see im on girl number 7. i always wanted a boy. we've been trying various sways and diets and suppliments since 2003, when we started trying for baby 2. but i have finally learned to love pink. pink is a blessing alot of women in here want but don't get. and when you start watching cute little girls wrapped in pink blankets going home from the hospital and your little girl is quiet and won't cry and the doctors just shake their heads, you don't care if that baby is pink or blue. i don't believe i won't ever get blue its just he will grow in another's belly. we are going to adopt as soon as we get settled. i know it going to be a long process but i want a boy and to me it dosen't matter how i get him. my girls are wonderful but their hearts belong to daddy. it's true what they say.. daddy's girls and mama's boys.

I have reposted it here for you xx

while the 'monkeys' are at bay I have read some of the other posts and thought I would add.....

In reply to your question re feeling complete. I have thought about this and in my mind its like this. I would really like a big beautiful home - it would be like a dream come true for me, (yes I'm shallow) however this is not possible and will never happen. I still like to 'dream' about it but it does not consume me and I live my life happy in the home I have. I still have days where I think 'wow would my life be even better if I had my dream home?" Maybe but I will never know so don't dwell on it.

Its like that with cars I want but cant afford and holidays too. There are alot of things I would like to have but just don't have the money to have them. We are not struggling but are not 'loaded' either. Anyway my point is this....yes I would like a son - however I don't have one, nothing I can do about it. I just have to accept it and move on and focus on what I do have, it doesn't mean I no longer want a son it just means I have learnt to be thankful for what I do have.

 I think in many aspects we as people don't feel 'complete' in a lot of ways. Here are a few "oh I'd be soo much happier if I lost 5kg" "oh if I had a diff job I'd be way happier than I am now" "Oh if only my DH did this for me I'd be happier" sometimes when we get what we want we think it will make our lives 'perfect' however it's human nature to just want something else.

I have a friend whose DD has Batten's diesease (google it if you don't know what it is) she put on facebook that all she wants is one normal day with normal problems. Whenever I feel sorry for myself I think of this. It doesn't feel like it now for you - but in reflection I feel that if GD was my biggest concern then my life must be pretty good. Not trying to take anything away from your feelings as you a in the thick of it at the moment

sorry if I have rambled a bit lol.

Sorry if I am a bit late for roll call here. :) A long time ago I proudly declared myself a "dog person". I thought cats were sneaky, selfish, and back-stabbing animals. I thought dogs were direct, great companions, loyal, and fun to physically wrestle and play with. I guess I thought humans were the same way . Girls are more like cats and dogs are more like boys, and I thought I would prefer boys. The pressure mounted during my first pregnancy because my husband is such a classic manly man and everyone guessed it would be a whole bunch of boys for us. I thought that would be great because I was such a tomboy growing up that I would know what to do with boys. I was sad when it was a girl because it was so unexpected. I went on my first shopping trip and was completely flooded with happiness. There are so many styles and colors to choose from for girls. I veered away from princess things and had millions of gorgeous choices and could practically picture my best friend for life being born and starting the adventure of raising her and having adventures in life together. Flash forward to a surprise pregnancy when my daughter was only 9 months old. I thought for sure it all made sense, God had a great plan and it was going to turn out to be a boy and I was so happy because I got my awesome daughter too. A couple of months later we found out it was twins! Wow. God gave us two sons because we were patient, faithful, and had fallen so in love with out amazing DD. Either way the pressure was now on because my husband wanted 2 and I wanted 3 kids and this was the perfect compromise (2 pregnancies and 3 kids!). I had GD when I found out it was 2 girls. It didn't make any sense. People were making cruel comments everywhere I went. Friends, family, strangers. Now I had a target on my back that followed me everywhere and somehow everyone felt it was okay to take cheap shots. Building up to the birth it got only a tiny bit better. It wasn't until after the birth that it really started healing. It just did. It was all so beautiful. I LOVE having twins. What a wonderful treat all the time. I love having girls. I am getting a chance to relive the best parts of my own wonderful childhood and I am in charge! I get to pick what we do and where we go and I have three little girls who think I am their hero. I am their role model. They are my very, very best friends. We are so all so close. I didn't know before I started all of this what it meant. The more you know about your children, the easier it is to just jump on board and love who they are. but actually, I am loving girl things! When my husband is scratching his nads watching football we are out for and ice cream and to play in a park somewhere. They hug each other and miss each other and their friendship is so very, very strong. I don't like dinasours and robots. I like ponies and dolls. My kids are rough and tumble, strong characters because I am. Being born female doesn't mean you WILL turn out one way or another. My girls love me, trust me, and want to be like me. They are fun, gorgeous, and we are a little clique. I feel very fulfilled every single day just being with them and enjoying adventure and a sense of perspective. They still poop, have tantrums, and act like kids their age but that has nothing to do with gender. I love who they are. I want them to choose some sports and I want to cheer them on. They can be anything. Girls can be anything! I truly, truly love having 3 girls. Wouldn't change it for anything. It just keeps getting better

Sari:

The crazy thing is so many people on IG and other websites tell me I have their dream family

 

I hear that too...and it does help me feel more greatful, and every so often I imagine my next girl getting here and them two playing together and how completely sweet their matching dresses will be, but in the very next thought or store I see a boy running around or an outfit that I would love to have him in and my heart instantly goes right back to square one...

For me having mixed gender wasn't my "dream family" I wanted 3 little boys and could have been so very happy and content to simply never have a girl...and now I will ahve two. It still blows me away sometimes...and what makes it worse for me is, I have the deepest deepest feeling this baby is a boy, even after my 18 week scan that feeling never went away. And I'm trying to figure out if it's denial or if my heart is telling me something, even if it's my boy is still on his way. Either way I've never felt for a second this is a girl or had it lessen any this is a boy...it's been truely difficult. I'm sorry your heart feels the way it does and I hope you find peace with all your little ones!