Hey Sigma, sorry to hear about your loss! FX for you this third time with IUI! I know how frustrating it is to have to ttc for a long time and have m/c thrown in there. I did attempt last night, we used preseed, but I ended up having ewcm, which is very strange because I never normally do! So maybe Clomid sways boy for me, eh? But I hear you, I am giving up a lot on swaying, just eating well and am using preseed, of course, just to up chances of pregnancy anyway.
I agree, hope there is good news in the next 2 weeks! Is there a thread where the current blue crew hangs?
About the cm question, I don't know much about oils, but I am personally most comfortable with preseed since it was intended to replace cm for ttc....kwim? But I guess anything that works!