Scared to try again

Hi everyone,

I am new to this forum. I have been browsing for two years now. I am a mother of two wonderful boys. I have been longing for a daughter since i got married and decided to have children. I felt so horrible and guilty for crying after both my boys ultrasound. I love them so much and could not imagine my world with out them, but yet there is not a day that goes by that i do not wish for dresses dolls and pink things. My boys are so active and always wrestling that some days i go crazy. My husband wants to try again. but i have such a fear of disappointment and what everyone will think if its another boy. Oh poor thing she really wanted a girl. Its so awful of me because when ever someone is pregnant i always hope for a boy so i will not feel that painful jealousy.  Is that wrong to feel that way. i have been doing my research and are not sure what route to go. I conceived both my both by using ovulation test kits and waiting for lh surge. So i think i conceived on ovulation. I was thinking about  o+12. Has anyone had a dissapointments using this method. Thank you so much for listening  to me vent.

I was a strong believer in the whole "timing" thing as well, as my mom suggested that I do it.  She got pregnant me me, using a 3 day cut-off, after 3 boys.  And although I don't disregard the timing thing, I don't think it's enough for someone who's desperately seeking a girl, such as I was, and you seem to be.  I started intense research on how to concieve a girl shortly after the birth of my second son, and started charting out my cycle so that as soon as I was ready I'd have all my information straight.  I think you need to cause for your vaginal area to become acidic (which is the key, in my mind).  Take cranberry pills, vitex and check your cervical mucus with pH strips to make sure you stay between a 4-5 (bright yellow paper).  Also, have much bd'ing from AF to you're cut-off in order to lessen the sperm count.  Do man on top (shallow penetration) and jump and dump immediately following intercourse.  It worked for me.

I actually talked to my Anatomy and Phisiology teacher about her beliefs on gender selection, and she saif the the pH levels of the vaginal area do affect the sex of the baby.  She said an acidic environment is much harder to "swim" through making it much harder for the weaker male sperm to rerach the egg, and also making it easier for the stronger female sperm to be concieved.

 

I wish you luck in your effort. 

I understand the jealousy thing.  I'm fortunate to have both sexes now, but I really wanted a DD.  After I had one then I wanted my DD to have a sister.  I got pregant with a long cutoff and absolutely no EWCM and had another boy.  My first son was a classic o+12.  All boy.  I got my DD by loosely following the girl diet, taking some sups, and with a 2.5 day cutoff.  It's funny because with her I actually had EWCM. 

I'm going to ttc next fall or spring although we had an opps BD that may be another 0+12 last week.  I wasn't taking my sups like I should have been for ttc a girl this month.  I'm so nervous about it all.  I can see this being boy number 3. 

My plan of action is 2.5 day cutoff with the girl diet and sups when I do ttc.  Good luck to you!  Lots and lots of pink dust!

 

thank you so much for your advise. I need to start keeping track of my cycles. Has any one out there tried the boy girl kits with the diet, douche and supplements. I would love to go high tech but they do not offer it in Massachusetts. I wish I could just be happy with the boys i have but im so close to my mom and sister that i feel i need that bonding with my own daugther, something you could never have with a son.  I know everyone feels the same way thats why we are in this together for support. Some people just do not understand. Thanks for the advise.

hi don't really have any suggestions but just wanted to say that i know exactly how u feel.i also have two little boys and i long for a girl.my second ds was one of a set of twins (the other was agirl) s ot made it really hard to bond and stuff with him.We are now ttc number 3.ds is 2 and a half now but have always  been to scared to try again in case i got a boy.Not that it wouldn't be loved its just the aching for a girl is so strong, I too keep telling myself that i'm going to have a boy just to get over the disappointment if it is.

Anyway just thought that i would share and let me know how u go

Good luck on having a little girl

Thanks for the advise. Thats wonderful you did get your daughter. Do you have 3 boys and girl and you are going to try again. Wow you sure will be busy. Good luck with your decision.

HI
I TOO IN THE SAME POSTION I HAVE TWO WONDERFUL SONS AND AM THINKING OF TRYING  THOSE GIRL KITS .TO ME IT SEEMS THE BEST OPTION AS IT COVERS ALL THE THEORIES. TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK
COLLETTE UK

I know exactly how you feel. I lost my mother at the age of 23, and I never got to spend any of my adult life with her, really. She was very sick from the time I was 13-14 until she passed. I want a daughter sooooo badly, to try to have a mother/daughter relationship with, that I missed out on with my own Mother. I have 2 boys now, and am going to be TTC another this fall, aiming for a girl. You are not alone in your feelings, and I hope you get the daughter you long for. ((HUGS))

Dont give up!! If that girl is what will make You and your family complete..Then just keep tring...If it's in your plan..I have 6 kid's and one more on the way..I had 5 boy's in a row..Then my little girl came to me...Dont be scared....I think it is well worth the try....Good Luck to you!!!!

Hi mumof6kids

Just wondering if you did anything to sway the odds of having a girl with your sixth child

 

Thank

Tina from Australia

Oh no..I was telling an other women from this site..That i dont think my body had much time to think of a boy.LOL..See my 5th son was 6 months old when i found out I was pregnet with my girl...Because normal my children are 2 to 3 years apart..So I thought maybe that had alot to do with it...?? Not sure..But I know one thing my husband sure knows how to give those boys.. Still hoping for another girl!!!!!! Is there alot of girls on your side?? or his side?? That should help as well..

I think every woman grows up wishing and hopping for a little daughter; since we are babies we are introduced to beautiful little dolls with a lot a pretty dresses to change her and try so many different hair do's, jajaja is just in our nature to wish for little girls!! plus for our own experiences we know that we girls always need our mothers, in the other hand "most" men don't really need the mother as much after they grow up,,,,,they do while they live with us but then they find the woman that will take our place fulfilling their need and is all about their new family after that (and we can not complaint because that is also what our husbands did when they maried us).

I too long for a little daughter, I had that sad feeling when I found out in all my three boys u/s, and my second pregnanacy was identical twins girls but that ended at 22 weeks in a still birth...we were devastaded...it took a lot to recover from that, I even went in medication for a few months...

Finally we keep trying but I wasn't informed that there were some method that could increase the odds in the chance to conceive the desired sex...we went for the Shettles method and now were are waiting to see if it worked...we are a little worry because the stupid BGM told us we were having a girl, then they change to a boy, but after reading that they are more often wrong when predicting boys we are hanging in a little hope....we made a desicion yesterday....if this is a nother boy we  are not going to be sad, we are just going to keep trying, we figure soon or lattler we are going to get that precious girl we long for,,,,but if after all we can't then it was just ment that we eneded with our own baseball team!!!! and maybe adopt the girl...we also think in the posibility of IV, but is not only very expensive, is also risky since we had a history of multiple, we can end up with triplets os 4 or 5,,,huyyy, that;s a scary thought!!! we already have 3 boys and maybe one more in the way...jajaja

Just look at the possitive things and if you end up without a daughter, then maybe god will bless you with lots of granddaughters!!! that will make you a great mother in-law!!

wish you all the best in whatever you have....think pink!!! be positive and don't give up!!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!