well im starting trying this week, im fed up waiting on the docs to tell me its ok so im going ahead anyway. what can they say if i get pregnant haha. i don't have other children but i don't think it matters if you loss your first or your 6th its the same regardless. Your not been greedy. when im feeling down i just think that if my baby were looking down at me she would not want to see me hurting same as I would not like to see my own mum sad. when we buried our baby it was snowing from the heavens and i love snow it always makes me smile. it snowed a lot christmas past and every time it snowed i imagined it was my girl danceing on the clouds to make me smile and it cheered me up. I know thats stupid but i think you need something that will make you smile when you think of her so it stops you from getting upset. Also your right there is always someone else worse off but there not you. My sister lost her baby couple of years ago, she watched as it died inside her on the scanner monitor and could do nothing. not sure if that would be worse, at the end of the day the result is the same. I felt so bad for my husband at least I had 8 half months talking to and feeling my baby alive he had nothing. I got to know my baby while it was inside me, he had 1 day with our baby to get to know her, and say goodbye. Its not real for the dads until the baby is in their arms not like us, its real form the first day were pregnant. remember that he is going through a lot and if hes anything like my husband he trys not to show it, you need to drag it out of him.