TTC A GIRL What method did you use or are going to use 0+12, cut off.....

Hi ladies i am having real problems deciding which would be best for me, i have very irregular cycles and up until now had my heart set on doing cut off as i though this would be best. However when i thought i was at 3 days before O it turned out to be 6 so yet again BFN!

I wanted to find out which method people had decided on and there reasoning behind it. I was very sceptical about O +12 until reading more and more posts and im now beginning to think it may be my best option. My ds1 was concieved around O with frequent bd and ds2 was day before O as i O'd early.

Hopefully this will also help out a lot of other ladies who are still undecided which method would suit them best

Thank you in advance xx

Hi!   I've spent ages trying to decide as well - I've read SO much info it's driving me crazy!   I had been following Shettles for the last 12 months, but like you I have very irregular cycles and I kept missing my window completely due to timing the 3 day cut off.  Eventually I ruined my cut-off and was 1 day before 'O' and got BFP, but sadly m/c at 6.5 weeks.  So now I'm back to TTC again and wondering if I really should try 0+12, because it took me 12 months before and I'm getting ever closer to 40 so time is running out.

After my extensive reading (obsessed!) the most important bit (for me anyway) was the 'New zealand study' under the 'gender methods' on this site.   I was shocked at how many boys were conceived using 3-5 day cut-off!  Surely that disproves the Shettles theory about male sperm not living that long?  I'm using a CBFM - which doesn't always show the 'high' days leading up to 'O', but always shows my 'peak' days - so doing 0+12 would be a lot easier to manage (although still not guaranteed to meet the correct timing for the egg)

My ds was also conceived around O with frequent bd, so I'm wondering whether to try the opposite and have DH abstain, and try 0+12.

Anyway sorry for all the waffle, its nice to feel I'm not alone in this.  I think I am currently moving towards doing 0+12 but I'm now struggling with the decision over whether to do girl diet (will be a nightmare for me!), use replens, which vitamins etc.  Oh why is this all so hard?!!

Good luck!  Hope we both get lots of pink baby dust  xx

Hi kp thank you for taking the time to reply to my post. So sorry to hear about your m/c but glad to hear that it hasnt discouraged you from trying again!!  I also had problems concieveing with shettles with my ds2 and ended up having a 1 day cut off instead of 3 like i had planned. I am so nervous about trying 0+12 though as i get a lot of ewcm around O and think this could possibly still be in boy terrority for me.

I have been on the IG diet now for 8 weeks with a few cheats here and there, im not saying its easy as im a big meat etaer and have never been any good at sticking to a diet before but im so determinied and have seen so many studies proving that it works that im willing to do it as long as it takes. Im also taking caranberry, magnesium and calcium citrate although in small doses as im getting a lot of calcium from diet. My ph is now staying between 4 and 5 which im really pleased ablout.

I am also going to be using the CB digital opk's this month as well as the normal ones so that i can try and do a cut off before i get my first + OPK. What i intend to do is use the normal opk's until the line is nearly the same as the control line and then test my CB digital and as long as thats negative then we will BD that day. Hopefully this will ensure that i have a 2/3 day cut off if it works. I will thaen check ph until O and use replens, not sure about lime douche asd have used it before and got a small infection !! I am also getting dh to abstain for about 10 days as both my ds were concieved with frequent bd.

If this methjod dosent work after a few months trying then i may attempt O+12 but not sure yet .

Good luck with your sway, hope we both get are little pink beans! When are you ttc?

xxx

I'm TTC as of next month after my next AF (wanted to have one AF after m/c first).  I've been using ph strips but I'm not sure they are working correctly, do you know where I could buy a ph digital tester?  I've googled and it comes up with testers for ponds!!

I was thinking of getting DH to abstain, but wondered whether to try frequent BD instead to lower sperm count (which I think favours girls?  I'm getting so confused).  With the abstaining I know there are more stale sperm around - is that detrimental to getting pg?  Or just less boys around?  and presumably if the stale sperm that are not suitable are hanging around, they wouldn't be successful anyway??  Sorry for all the questions, I'm going round in circles - I think I'm going crazy! 

I've got around 2.5 weeks to decide what I'm going to do.  aarrrgh! x

I know there is so much to think about and reasons to justify which method is best! I was worried about doing the abstaining because of the quality of the sperm but when i read through the results table there were a lot of women who got there little girls this way. Also i know when i concieved ds1 we were doing very very frequent bd back then ( probably helped as i was a lot younger ). Apparentley one lady on here used a microscope to check her partners sperm after frequent bd and abstaining and she found that there were nearly all xx sperm after abstaining! I know this dosent mean it will necessarily work for me as all men are different but i know frequent has resulted in a ds for me already! They say do the oppposite of what you did to get pregnant for your ds so im going with that for now!!

Im currentley on day 10 now so will either be bd tommorow or sunday night depending on my opk's! My cycles have been 25/27/26 for the last 3 months and O has come on days 12/15/13 so its difficult to pinpoint O exactly. Fingers crosssed it dosent come early and i miss my chance this month.

Let me know when you decied what your doing for your sway. good luck xxxxxx