What do I do if this baby turns out to be a GIRL?

Hello ladies!  You are all so helpful, so I thought I would post my thoughts and concerns here for support.  We were told at our 13 week NT scan that the baby looked 'suspiciously like a boy" . She explained the "angle of the dangle"  theory, showed us a profile shot, etc. So she seemed knowledgeable and she even wrote male?? on our pics.  

I have 2 daughters that I love so much, but I would like to experience the joy of raising a son as well. If we had another girl, we would love her the same, of course.  In fact, we do not know one family that has had 2 girls then the 3rd was a boy, so we expected a girl really.

I have tried not to get my hopes up that this baby is a boy, but I can't help myself.  I am afraid that when we go for our big US on 12/24-they will tell us it is a girl.  I know time will heal, but I am afraid I will cry, not necessarily because it is a girl but because I will moarn the "loss" of a boy.  This is our last child, so no chance of another either.  Has anyone had there US turn around for the opposite sex?  How did you deal with this?

 

Thanks for all your help. I posted a similiar post earlier, but the time is coming closer, so I am getting more anxious about it.  If you search my posts, I did post a pic from my US at 13 weeks, tell me if you think it is a boy and if it will turn into a girl?

Vanessa 

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Honestly I don't (yet) trust those early predictions! I hope you see your blue bundle and what a day to see him!!! Best of luck and sending tons of blue dust your way!!

I wish I could help but I've not yet had that experience. I think it's perfectly ok to cry and mourne the "loss" of your boy.  But eventually you'll start thinking of your new little girl, naming her, imagining what she'll look like, and then when you see her you'll be so happy you have her.  

When I found out we were having our third son, I did a number of things.  I vented here and that was a great help.  I also realized that when all was said and done, I was very alone in dealing and coping with my personal feelings and ambivalence.  I had to face myself honestly and dig deep to face and understand my wishes and reasons behind why I so badly wanted a girl and why I was not at peace with another boy.  I had to realize and come clean with what I was really grieving.  I decided to go to counseling for the remainder of my pregnancy as my GD being fueled by some other factors that needed addressing anyway.  That helped and by the time I neared birth, I was quite excited to welcome our third son.  I did everything I could to make his arrival a special one.  I committed to doing things differently etc.  To be honest, I am so smitten with him, it's almost knocked me off of my wish for a girl pedestal.  Of course, I still mourn my wishes for a daughter, but I've decided to try and focus more on what I have than what I don't have and may never have.  I still grapple with that feeling of some aspect of our family being 'missing' but I find alot of perspective here on this board.  Just take it a day at a time and eventually, you'll find your own personal groove in how you deal.

I would say you have better chances of it being a correct guess at that stage being a boy than a girl.  I was told boy at my 13wk1day scan (with DS) and didn't think twice about it staying the same at my 20wk scan...and guess what IT DIDN'T CHANGE...still boy.  I think you have a really good shot.  Please update us as soon as you know.  good luck

 Thanks so much for the encouragement ladies!  Your all so helpfull!   I know I will eventually be ok with a girl, especially once she arrives. I just can't fathom my luck if this baby is really a boy, that is why I am really questioning this, especially since we know of no one whose third was a boy after 2 girls.  Any other insight or stories welcome! Vanessa

I would definitely hold on until at least past 16wks to know the gender. The angle of dangle......... just isn't accurate. it's already a 50/50 guess so of course, half of the time, they are correct and the other half, they are wrong. I've just seen too many wrong to ever go by gender around that time.

I think it's ridiculous that some doctors/u.s techs are giving mom's this info so early on! then probably wondering why we are torn when we find out it's the opposite sex later on. One of the reasons why you see a lot of wrong u/s gender results now. Not only that, the techs and doctors probably aren't aware how much gender means to some of us. So voicing an opinion or guess early on, isn't that big of a deal to them as it is to us :)

hang in there!!!! I hope you get your blue bundle when you see him again on tv :)

sending my dust your way!!

I have been told girl and I am doubtful, but if they told me boy I would believe it!

I do think your pic is boyish and I think your tech was switched on to talk about the angle etc because a lot of them are not interested. Because of what your tech said I would think boy 99%. However I have seen things change and I hope its not you that it happens to.

I went for a NT Screen at 12 weeks and I was told it was a boy. The tech was very sure of what she was seeing and she took a couple of pics for me to keep. The nub was pointing up. I was soo happy I almost cried. But now I'm worried to be told the opposite. I'm going this Saturday to get a 16 weeks 2D and I will let you know what they tell me. I have a daughter, she is 13 yrs old and I wanted her to be a boy too. I never thought I was going to get pregnant again but it did happened and now I'm praying and wishing is a boy....Let us know what you get on your ultrasound.. Good luck

I hope it is a boy for you. I would also worry being told that early on what the sex is. I will have my fingers crossed for you.

 I think that 13 week nubs can look like girls but then start pointing up and being a boy, but it is more rare for a boy to turn into a girl.  Maybe check out the pics in the link in the sticky in the u/s forum.

Thank you thank you thank you!!!

 

Just wanted to update everyone and let you know we are 99% sure this baby is a boy!! We had our big US today, and she was so sure she showed us several pics@@!!!

We are so excited to share with our families!  Thank you for all of your support!!! 

You can have all my blue dust!!! Good luck xxx