Anyone feeling really down and depressed?

I can't shake this depression feeling and im constantly feeling down. I think i may need to talk to someone like a counsellor or similar. Things are not going so well with family issues etc and im feeling physically sick because everyone is trying to butt in and make this pregnancy about them and what they want. I was so excited at the start but now i just feel like crying all the time. Has anyone else felt this overwhelmed when coming in close to the end of your pregnancy. Why do family members start acting like immature brats because they can't have things the way they want. Im not about to go and just let everyone take my baby places away from me. He is my baby and my partner and i want to share the majority of precious moments with him. Im not about to go palm him off to relatives just coz they think they can rock up at my house and say they are taking him. And thats only the beginning of everything that is troubling me. Im a strong willed person and will definately stand up for what i want and expect seeing as though i am his mum but my head is seriously reeling from people's attitudes. I really think im going to need some help or i feel like im going to explode.

So sorry you are feeling like this. Yeah, I have a lot of pushy family members and when you combine pregnancy hormones with that=not so happy momma lol. 

I really hope it gets better for you!

 

Junior, I'm sorry to read how you are feeling. Is this your first pregnancy? I can remember when I was preggers with DS1 just the thought of familymembers butting in on our lives and demanding the baby, would make me furious and very protective over him whilst he wasn't born yet. Now, years later, I start to realize that by time the pregnancy hormones have faded and so do these feelings for the biggest part. Now I can leave him for a week with those same familymembers whilst me and DH have a getaway just the two of us. ---------------Nevertheless, if there are bigger issues that you feel are very irreasonable, than you could consider a very open talk to those familymembers where you make clear that this is your baby in the first place so it's your way or no way (at least in the beginning, bc that's when motherhood is so overwhelming and they need to have respect and understanding for it). GL and I hope you'll feel better soon.

Thanks for your support ladies. Things seem to have gone from bad to worse. I am seriously depressed. I can see it in myself. I know what to do though, i need to get help. I guess the good thing in this is that i have recognised that i am feeling down in the dumps instead of being in denial like i have in the past when i start to feel this way. I have learnt to read the warning signs. There is so much on my mind and i can't concentrate on anything because i am consumed by all of these things going on at the moment.

Sorry to hear you are feeling even worse. Do you have a good friend/sister/familymember you can talk to about this? ------------------I hope DH will be very supportive in all of this you're going thru. GL!

 I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. DH has a huge family, and they are all already planning things with my baby. MY baby. If they had it their way, they would be at the hospital 24/7during and after the birth, it makes me crazy!

And yes, the end of pregnancy is always the worst for me. Being so huge and uncomfortable makes the emotions 10x worse. Hang in there, try to talk to someone if you can, and don't be afraid to put your foot down about your wants and expectations. Sometimes excitement over certain situations makes people act stupid.

Hope you feel better soon! (((hugs))))

 

I know how you feel too. Lately I have been depressed and don't want to do anything. If I could lie in bed all day I would. 'm irritable to everyone even when I'm trying not to be. I can feel myself becoming more and more down. I had really bad PPD after my last baby and I hope this time will be different, but I'm not sure. I had to go talk to someone and be on pills before. The worst part is that DH gets all upset that I can't tlak to him because half of why I get depressed is because I feel like I can never do anything right for him, and he doesn't understand. If I say anything he gets all defensive, but he can csay whatever and I'm not suppost to say anything. Then if I want to talk to someone he will make comments that it's all in my head and I don't have to be depressed... (like I choose to be or something) It's like talking to someone means I'm weak or something. I get stressed with three kids at home and another on the way, him being bitchy that he has to work all the time, and now since we moved to a new place our old landlord is refusing to give us our security deposit back so DH wants to take him to court. I just feel like it's all hanging over me and I can't shake it. I want to be happy, but I feel like I can't, I feel like all I do is cry. Sorry to vent, but it helped me feel a little better. I hope your DH supports you in what ever you have to do to feel better. And my family is the same way they want to control everything and I'm in the middle of them and my DH. I don't know what to do. I hope you can feel better soon, I know how much it sucks to be depressed.

tdurand10 - That is exactly what is going on with me. I feel like i don't make my DP happy anymore. It's like however hard i try and whatever i do for him is just not good enough. He bitches about having to work and even said to me the other day that i had better learn to get dinner on the table for when he gets home coz im going to be sat at home doing nothing. That set me off big time, if he thinks i will be doing nothing im going to leave the baby with him for a day and see how he copes with everything that will be thrown at him and see if the house is spotless and dinner is on the table. That will teach him. He is not normally such a pig but something has come over him lately and he has been speaking to me like crap. That is the majority of the reason why i am depressed. The rest has to do with his dad, now that man is listed under the definition of pig in the dictionary. He says "women should be at home, on their back or in the kitchen". He cheats on all of his girlfriends, he swears f's and c's like there is no tomorrow, smokes right in front of my face when i am trying to stay away from all cigarette smoke so bubs is ok. I was rtying to explain to him about a week ago that mum is holding a baby shower for me and he started ranting and raving about how i dont need handouts from people, he told DP that he shouldn't be letting me have a shower, its for poor people and then i walked right up in my face and said "this is what i think of your mother" and spat on the ground. He is a disgusting, horrible, egotistic PIG of a man. He thinks he can rock up at my house when DP is not home and take my child whenever he wants etc. Im telling you right now, my front door is behind the garage doors so i will have the garage and front door (all doors more to the point) locked and there is no way he will be able to get in. I have security cameras out the front so i can see who is there and wether i want to open the doors or not and if he causes a scene i will call the police. DP stands up for me about those matters so at least i feel a tiny bit supported there but the whole thing is ridiculous and i dont need it. I didnt sign up to have him as a father in law, i love his son and i will love my own son but it doesn't mean i have to like him. Anyway, i have rambled on for way too long but it does feel great to have vented it out. Im starting to feel a lot better just talking about all of these problems on here with you lovely ladies that understand and support me. If any of you need to vent or if i can return the favour please feel free to post anything to me. Pregnancy can really be hard on you at times. We should all be enjoying all the changes and feeling great. I want to go back to feeling like that again!!!

I want to feel happy again too. It seems like everytime I start to feel happy, it just gets ruined and I feel like crud again. I'm ready to be done with being pregnant so I don't feel so uncomfortable all the time. I wish men could feel how it is to be pregnant and how miserable it can make you when you hurt all the time and carrying all the extra weight, maybe they wouldn't think we are doing nothing anymore...lol. I'm sorry you have been going through a tough time with DP, and if he usually doesn't say things to you like that maybe he feels a lot of stress too. I know my DH says a lot of things to me and feels bad afterwards, but I'm really sensitive about some stuff, which doesn't excuse it but I understand he gets upset too. Words hurt more then people think they do. And your FIL sounds pretty distusting, it sucks you have to deal with that. I wouldn't want him around my kids either. Also a baby shower isn't for poor people. It's people being excited for you having a baby, and yes it does help out with some expenses but isn't that just like a wedding? I'm glad it made you feel better to vent and u can talk to me anytime if you want. Either on here or PM me. Sometimes it seems like there is no one to talk to especially someone who isn't going to judge you or anything for how you feel. I agree pregnancy can be hard sometimes, and it's nice to have support from the ladies on here that know what you are going through.