My BLUE sway attempt - Update -- ITS A GIRL!!!!!!

Babybay10, Thank you so much for your lovely and very inspiring post. I was really excited last night when I found someone swaying for a boy with two girls. There tends to be more boy mums. So I always feel a little awkward having girls. But I am sure most people understand the feeling of disappointment is the same. Did I sway? I did not really know much about swaying. But someone did say to me DTD closer to ovulation was better for boys. I looked back in my diaries and saw that without realizing it I had done a 3-4 day cut off with dd1 and dd2. So that made sense. So I used ovulation sticks and dtd 24-30 hours after LH surge thinking the male sperm will romp up there and get there first! But also thinking 50/50 is great for me. At least it wont be a big sway like my first 2. But after the 20 week scan I went searching for support on the internet, found this site and someone started talking about 0+12. When I investigated further I found that ladies on average ovulate at 36hours so thought hooray....if I am average then I will have been bang on but then my heart sank as I thought if I ovulated early then I will have done the well proven O+12. I did not even know it existed! So the most ridiculous thing is I have done loads of research now. Read info that I did not know was out there! AFTER THE EVENT! Its torturous thinking that I dtd too late and stepped into girl zone. I am realistic enough to know that if I had done it as soon as got LH surge it would have been 50/50 but at least I would have had the peace of mind that it was 50/50 and down to mother nature! Hope that makes sense. It has been one of the hardest things to get through. Knowing that I myself may have screwed up my last chance! I am 26 weeks now and found out at 20 weeks. Based on what you said I feel like maybe I should not have found out. I think the reason why I did is because I found out with dd2 and after 24 hours and a good cry was used to the idea. But oh no, this time around has been a very different story! Tortured but thinking I screwed up chances on top of the disappointment and getting used to the idea. Very dark thoughts, have disconnected with the pregnancy (no excitement) and feel a bit agitated by the girls. I know I would not feel this way if it was a boy. I would be so excited. I have been telling people we are having a girl and people look disappointed and say things like 'oh thats a shame...' and 'poor you, bet daddy wanted a boy' But I am getting better and your email has really really truly helped. Your story is so similar to me accept I did not know about swaying. I have a very supportive husband who actually loves girls and was not bothered one way or the other. It would be so much harder if he was sad too! So I am lucky. Yes, it is kind of ruining the last trimester! Your advice about imagining the birth and that magical feeling when you see them was so fantastic. In the first few weeks which were much darker I could not imagine that and only imagined a scene of me being really disinterested in her at birth which is a terrifying thought. But now I am staring to imagine the scene in a happier way and just want the day to be here NOW! Thanks again for your post. Much appreciated. x

 Don't torture yourself with the "what ifs." I had a fantastic sway, and it didn't work. Sorry but I have seen too many perfect sways on here have opposites. Many won't agree with me, but I will just say it anyway - swaying does not work. You get what you get by chance. I have many close friends who did nothing to sway and ended up with a boy after two girls or vice versa. High tech is the only thing that works. If you think swaying works, go to the Gender Disappointment board....

It must have been hard for you to have put so much effort in and then it not work! I look at my second daughter and think, if I had known about swaying and had tried to engineer it I would not have her! I am hoping I will feel that way when the next one pops out but the other way round, if I had been spontanious like the first 2 then I would not have her! I agree with what you say about swaying. All the theories work and sound incredibly sensible...however I have studied one of the spreadsheets in an attempt to make myself feel better. I have found examples such as, DTD 5 days before ovulation and PH was 4.5 (so bit acidic), done girl diet, no big O...perfect for girl, but no its a BOY! I think the majority of posts on here are about sways that have worked, that might have been nothing to do with the sway. it might have worked anyway. I will read your post again when I feel a bit low because I am a bit up and down at the moment. It will spur me on because it was very very positive and with many wise words! Thank you so much.