Oh my! I'm sorry if my post came off as sounding put-on or as if I thought my response was cooler than others'. I actually didn't think much about it and just wrote my gut reactions to the concepts presented! lol
How I think I would react is based on my knowledge of myself. I have been told I am "too logical" and that I don't get upset "enough" about emotional issues. So I can see why some people find my hypothetical reaction unsual. lol
BTW, *if* the situation happened to me and I did end up reacting the way I think I might... I don't think it would be because I was a strong woman... I think I'd make those decisions because I would find them the most sensible for the situation and because they would allow me to arrange my life in the way that was most suitable, all things considered. I rarely experience severe negative reactions to anything in my life, so if I decided I wanted to stay married for whatever reason(s)... well, I just would I guess! lol What a PP said about not wanting to break up an existing family resonated with me too.
PS - One thing I thought of after my first reply was that if a child was conceived, it would probably mean that unprotected sex had occured between DH and the mistress... which would mean my DH could have potentially exposed me to an STI. *That* would be super uncool. (I take reproductive health pretty seriously.) lol