I love threads like these (call me biased) b/c missing out on my family's activities because of gender is one of my BIGGEST worries about having all boy family. So the comments and advice here are very much welcomed!
From reading the posts, I really do think a lot of it is having a positive attitude; it's so easy (speaking from my own experience) to decide something is boring/ugh and then it really does become that. I too hate going to warm the bleachers. That said, I went to my sons' bike rally at their preschool and while watching little kids zip around a circle for 20 minutes sounds deathly boring, I cheered my heart out. I was SO proud. And I think (hope!) it'll be like in the future - sure I don't really love cricket or baseball or rugby or soccer, but when it's my child playing? I think it'll be different. And that's assuming they'll play sports. what if they sing in the choir (I'd love that), or play an instrument, act in a play, or ooh my dream! like gymnastics? I'll be there in the front row.
The other thing I keep thinking is what would it be like if there were a girl in the midst? When the boys are out fishing or watching sport on tv, will she and I be playing dolls? painting our toenails? watching Disney movies with Princesses in them? gossiping on the porch with cups of tea? Maybe... or maybe not. I don't really want to play dolls (as a child I liked them but only to act out the stories I'd read) and I despise Disney movies where the princess waits for her prince (the newer ones better but still.....) Does anyone watch Snow White and realize the dwarfs loved her because she CLEANED THEIR COTTAGE? and baked pieds for them? And sang beautifully? AAAAAGh.
Sorry - off topic. The point is, everytime I get down and mopey about the all boys situation, I try to think of injecting a girl into it and would things be ALL that different? And what would that say about the boy-girl stereotyping - "come, darling daughter, help Mommy bake cookies in the kitchen while the boys all watch sports on tv?" I think that's probably the LAST thing I'd want to instill in my kids - the men watch tv, the girls bake!
So that also helps a bit because makes me realize I'm focusing a lot on fantasy/dream and not on the reality of the situtation.
Finally - perhaps a controversial thought. I was a "latch-key" kid. My mom worked full-time, as did my dad. There were 5 kids to be raised. My older sisters & I did a lot in the house once we were old enough - cooking and cleaning and laundry, to earn pocket money. We made our own "playdates" or when we were younger we hung out with the children of our parents' friends or the kids who lived on the same street as us. My mom and dad came to our sports matches, dance recitals, concerts when they could - and if it was during working hours, that usually meant no. Family holidays were what they wanted to do and what they could afford - there were no "oh man, not camping again" reactions from us... So sometimes I wonder that my obsession with having this happy family where we do everything together, participate in activities together, is a reaction to my childhood. And the crazy thing is - I had a REALLY happy childhood. My parents didn't revolve their life around mine or my siblings; we were expected to fit into their life. And it worked (for us anyway). So sometimes I think I'm overthinking this whole kids business too much - I want to be there and be involved, I don't want to ever be excluded from their lives, but they are their own little (and one day big) people, we as parents can only do so much, and sometimes a little bit of separation is a good thing. (That said am still mulling how I can con the boys into reading LIttle Women with me when they get bigger!)