Embarrased when asked "how many kids to you have?"

 Lol I posted a bit back because a man came to the door trying to sell Sky and my partner was out, it was me and my two DSs (one is just a baby so was in my arms). Well the guy asked if my parents were in. I kept kind of laughing then realised he was serious. I am 24 with one DS just turned three and my wee one 4 and a bit months. I look really young. I put a pic up on Top Posters and people said anything from 12 to 20. And there were alot around the 14 year old mark I kid you not! I have a bigger issue with the father thing. My boys do have different fathers but I was engaged to my childhood sweetheart and we had been together five years. It didn't work out because he was emotionally abusive and I am now with my lovely DH who is older (29) and we have a lovely home together for our two boys. I don't really think it is anyone else's business. People will always make judgements but at the end of the day, I know I am a good mum and that is not decided by age, but rather by maturity and attitude. I know some of my ex-friends think I have thrown my life away by having kids young but that is all I have ever really truly wanted in life. I don't think it is anyone else's business how many kids you have nor how old you are. I get mistaken for my boys older sister and really, I'm learning to take it as a compliment because I always wanted to be a yummy mummy and I guess I might be (when I stop being a slummy mummy, lol, with no time to do my make-up and hair). I really want a big family and my parents are always making sniffy comments about me 'better being done now' and that I 'better not have all these kids I can't afford' (my DP works super hard and has an ok job which isn't that well paid but I am a qualified teacher and will be making a good salary come August) but at the end of the day, while I care what they think it is not their decision. I'm not going to live my life letting others make choices for me. So beam with pride and think of your gorgeous kiddos and don't feel ashamed at all. At the end of the day, there is no such thing as a 'conventional' family anymore.

Baby_maker I remember that post, I guessed you are 15 in it....

 Lol, that is my young genes!

I am 24 and have 4 kids 4 and under!!!! I am married and own 3 houses so I am not doing so bad..I dont feel embarrassed!

UGH! I know completely how you feel! I turned 24 in April and have 2 lovely girls and 1 due in Dec. I hate the comments but more than that... the looks! I had a lady at our church as if our oldest was my sister. The park is the worst! I get all these looks like what are you 17 and pregnant with 2 fatherless children that you can't afford. Drives me nuts, there have been a few times if the park is packed that I get sick of it and go to another park. I usually try to say things like we have to get home to see dad, hurry daddy wants to see you, daddy should be coming, lets wait for daddy, etc or flash my wedding ring their way/draw attention to it by messing with it. Usually if I say or do something like that it seems to get a better. Sometimes looking young stinks, lol. I wish some people would realize that just because we look younger doesn't mean we can't afford kids, don't care for them, are fatherless or have different dads......... if they really got to know us they would see the total opposite.

now iam 24 and preg with number 4! no one knows yet because iam so scared of what people will think. I was driving a few days ago with DH and i pulled up to an ATM machine and dropped him off...the lady by him goes "are you teaching her to drive!?" She thought i was like 15/16!! and that DH was my dad!!! I was sooo insulted, lol

 Hi, am also 24 n have 3 kids. Mine are 5, 2+1/2 and 1+1/2. I can honestly, totally relate to you! The looks i get from old people, and the comments people make that they think I cant hear, it drives me mad! But am really proud of being able to be a good mam at my age, theres plenty of older mams that dont cope with even 1 child, let alone 3! People automatically assume that im a young single mother who livews on benefits and that my children all have different fathers, when in fact that isnt the case at all. Me and DH have been together for 7 years now, married for 4 and no i dont work, but i also dont claim any benefits from the state, every penny we spend is earned by my hard working husband! I just wish people wouldnt make bad assumptions........but where i live, the reason they tend to do that, is because most of the young parents dont look after their children properly and raise them to be total evil brats.......i can honestly say, my children are nothing like that at all, the only positive comments i ever receive are from people telling me how well behaved, good mannered and gorgeous they are, i just wish they wouldnt sound so surprised when they say it     ive never noticed this forum before, now i know its here, ill be visiting quite regularly 

While I don't have that many children I get it ALL the time. I am going to turn 23 next month and I have a daughter who will be 4 in March. I was 19 when she was born, married and happy. She was planned and wanted. Granted her father and I divorced and I met my sweet precious man 2 years later and we are expectign our first together in July. However, I look VEERRRYY young. My dad is 51 and everyone thinks he's still in his late 30's. i look like I'm barely pushing 17, barely. People see me and DD out together especially right after the gym or something when I'm not all "dressed up" and Oh man the looks and comments I get.

I was very gifted in school and finished early, achieved my Bachelors a year early as well and work privately for a surgeon as his personal assistant. I will have patients come in and get very hesitant about letting me touch them because they think I'm a highschool observer or something. I know I won't mind when I'm 40 but gosh give me some credit!!!!

Anyway. I am very proud of myself, my parenting and my little girl and proud to be expecting another with a man that I love dearly and who loves us back. So I just answer all the questions i get with pride and confidence and it usually shuts people up. And I can't help but chuckle to myself when my little girl is saying "yes ma'am" "thank you" "please" and shring in public at the park or Dr's office and see "older" parents yelling and their kids throwing tantrums. Just a little pat on the back for myself!!

 I just want to ask what is wrong with not having the same father? I am 25 officially now and my fiance is 27. Together we have 6 children this will be our final and seventh. I have one son from a previous marriage and he has four children from a previous and together we have one and one on the way however we left our other halves for good reasons. I left my husband because it was not good for our son for us to be together getting married so young always fighting never spending time together and I was constantly crying and depressed and well..for a two year old that was just too much. He left his because she was abusive to the children, a liar, a theif, worthless and lazy and he was tired of supporting her so she could go out and party and drug the kids up so they would sleep all day..yes it was dumb of him to keep having children with her but he felt once he had one he was stuck with her and she used the kids to keep him around..Not an exscuse just an explanation. SO here we are now a happy thriving giant family....so what does it matter if they are all biologically mine and his, we are still their mother and father supporting them raising them and taking care of them... Just wanted to throw that out there...and yes....I get the looks all the time as I too look much younger...i still get told i look like i should be in high school...lol...and no im not embarrased anymore...do you know how hard it is to become the mom of four children at once..at a young age and put up with all the remarks??? And you know what when someone asks me are they all mine..I say yes...ive been asked if i am doing daycare..which i am lol but only when i have my children with me and i still proudly say no these are mine. I hate being judged but id like to see them do my job every day and be as happy as i am and have such well behaved children as i have. I get compliments on them all the time especially when ppl realize all of them are mine and yet they are still brought up well mannered and polite and well just cute:). So i like proving them stupid for thinking ill against me or my family. We havent bought a house yet but were working on it, weve got nice vehicles, hes got a good job and im in school and working part timewe have nice furniture, i cook from scratch most of the time we spend lots of time together...so i do not see why i should be ashamed of my family. I have my family members tell me all the time ive taken on too much and they could never do it and cant see how i am so happy....so i just tell myself when these ppl say stuff like that to me i assume they are shocked and jealous because they could never have accomplished what we have and gone through what we have and still turned out as we have. :) sorry for the rant but it just seemed there were quite a few hints that its apparently not ok to have a big family if it is not all with the same dad or mom...just wanted to prove that is not always the case..now for the woman, which i know a few...that go out and have sex pop out kid and go out and have sex pop out kid and continue to do so....yes..id be embarrased to be them....especially the ones i am refering to.....no jobs..live with parents...wont even go to school or nothn and yet they keep goin out partying and getting pregnant...so if it is just againt that. ok..but i wanted to clarify that just because they do not all have the same dad..although all but one does lol...or same mom....all but two do....dosent mean anything bad....:D

 hehe..i was reading through and seeing all the comments on moms going to stores alone with the kids and prego belly...lol....O..my...thats been a thrilling task lately lol...Having all the kids no daddy cuz hes working..sometimes an extra child or two cuz I babysit on the side of my schooling and other part time work..and a big fat prego belly lol..and i forgot to mention all mine are 6 almost 7 and under lol.our youngest is almost 2 though...we have two five yr olds a six almsot 7 yr old, a 4 yr old 3 yr old and about to be 2 yr old:D and then this one lol...so the store trips are funny..and i cant wear my rings right now cuz im too bloated lol so i look like a single mom..but hey atleast all my kids look pretty much alike related or not lol so i dont think i get the multiple dads look infact i get told all the time that his little girl looks just like her mommy lmao..i even got asked if the two 5 yr olds were twins...lol....