What a lovely comment

My son started at his new school today.  I met his teacher and she is such a  lovely warm and kind person. When we were about to leave she said to my son : " Your mommy is so lucky to have two boys."  She then said that she has three girls.  I said to her that I really love having boys, but just one little girl would make me happy.  She just smiled and said that just one little boy would have made her happy too. Her face was beaming when she said that her daughter was pregnant and that she will soon have a grandson.

Maybe I will be blessed with a granddaughter one day and I will feel the same kind of joy.

awww...see, and you know what?  That is exactly how it usually ends up.    My mom always wanted just one boy, but she had two girls.  Now I'm having my second boy and I just want one little girl one day ((maybe)).  I will probably get her as a grand, as my mom got her little boys as grands. That's a great story!

Buttercup2:

Her face was beaming when she said that her daughter was pregnant and that she will soon have a grandson.

Maybe I will be blessed with a granddaughter one day and I will feel the same kind of joy.

Maybe.  I've thought about this alot and I worry that I won't be as close to a granddaughter from my sons because of the whole mother-in-law factor.  Its very common for the wife to be closer to her side of the family than the son   It would probably suck trying to see my granddaughter through the daughter-in-law...

 i'm just dreading this because I know how I feel about my own MIL.  She's nice enough, BUT she's NOT my mother! And I'm not even close to my own mother...but its been almost 15 years and I still don't think of MILas a mum...she will always just be DH's mum. 

MyDreamBabi:

Maybe.  I've thought about this alot and I worry that I won't be as close to a granddaughter from my sons because of the whole mother-in-law factor.  Its very common for the wife to be closer to her side of the family than the son   It would probably suck trying to see my granddaughter through the daughter-in-law...

 i'm just dreading this because I know how I feel about my own MIL.  She's nice enough, BUT she's NOT my mother! And I'm not even close to my own mother...but its been almost 15 years and I still don't think of MILas a mum...she will always just be DH's mum. 

Awww, I am sorry you have that kind of MIL relationship.  I have a pretty close relationship with my mother, but I also absolutely adore DH's mom.  She's a great woman.  I try to include her in everything we do.  If something happens with the boys I call her just as I would my own mom.  My DH Is an only child and I think my MIL would have also liked to have a daughter.  She always said they'd hoped to adopt a girl one day, but never did.  My DH family is very pro-1 child only and adoption.  She treats me as if I was her own daughter.  She pampers me for my b-day and holidays.  My b-day is on friday and this past Monday I got a wii fit plus in the mail.  I'd talked about it so much at our last visit she knew how much I wanted it.  She really is an amazing woman and I am so lucky that she's my MIL.  My DH never calls his mom, never includes her in anything, but he really doesn't include anyone in his life, so I try to keep her up to date on everything. 

To the OP I think that is a lovely comment.  I hope one day I get a granddaughter, but I highly doubt it.  There hasn't been a girl born on the paternal side of DH family in ages, but I guess we shall see.

MyDreamBabi:

Maybe.  I've thought about this alot and I worry that I won't be as close to a granddaughter from my sons because of the whole mother-in-law factor.  Its very common for the wife to be closer to her side of the family than the son   It would probably suck trying to see my granddaughter through the daughter-in-law...

Not necessasarily.   My Dad's Mom was my role model growing up.  I hardly had a relationship with my Mom's Mom.  I love my paternal grandma dearly.   For this reason it is very important to me that my girls are as close to their Grandma (both of them) as they want to be.  Even though I don't hang out with my MIL.  I would never deny them that relationship.

 

I'm glad that you had a positive GD type of comment. 

If you are experiencing or have experienced not being so close to your in-law, then you of all people should try your hardest to get along great with your son's wife ((when they have one :-)

Everything is what you make it out to be.  Look on the brighter side of things in life.

 

I have one little boy, with another little boy on the way.  I do want a little girl as well, but I just look at it as "well I've got 3 men to watch after me".  And I also have problems with my MIL and I've learned that I will NEVER treat any girl my son's bring home the way I have been treated because I wouldn't wish the way I've been made feel by her on anybody.

 

I just want to add that my brother's kids are much much closer to my parents than my SIL's parents. We are just a close family, so we are all close. All families are different. If you and your sons are very close, there's no reason why you won't be close to your daughter in laws and grandchildren too. My mom never goes through DIL to see the kids, she just comes to their school activities and basically has them at least one night overnight every weekend. Truth be told, I think my SIL likes having them to pawn her kids off on so they can go do stuff together since they both work full time.

That was so sweet.  I can picture that being me years from now.  So happy about getting a grandson since I didn’t get a son.  She is right, you are lucky to have 3 boys because there are others who can’t get just that 1 boy that they desire (like me).  LOL!

pictureperfect1606:

If you are experiencing or have experienced not being so close to your in-law, then you of all people should try your hardest to get along great with your son's wife ((when they have one :-)

 

My MIL makes this effort with both of her daughter in laws!  She's GREAT!  Of course she's not my mom, but she is a wonderful person with a fabulous relationship with all of her grandchildren.

MyDreamBabi:

Maybe.  I've thought about this alot and I worry that I won't be as close to a granddaughter from my sons because of the whole mother-in-law factor.  Its very common for the wife to be closer to her side of the family than the son   It would probably suck trying to see my granddaughter through the daughter-in-law...

 i'm just dreading this because I know how I feel about my own MIL.  She's nice enough, BUT she's NOT my mother! And I'm not even close to my own mother...but its been almost 15 years and I still don't think of MILas a mum...she will always just be DH's mum. 

Well that might not be so true after all.  You might make a lovely MIL oneday and your DIL might love you and get along with you just great.  My DD#1 and her paternal grandmother are very close.  She goes to see her all the time and the paternal grandmother had 3 boys.  She always wanted a girl and now she is blessed with 4 granddaughters and is very close with all of them.