have a boy and getting another

 Just found out yesterday that I am having another boy.  Words cannot describe my disappointment.  I love my 4 year old son and wouldn't trade hom for the world!  I have always wanted a baby girl, and I was so scared to have another boy thats why we waited so long for baby #2.  I feel so disconnected from this pregnancy.  I don't want to shop for it, I just want to ignore it like it isn't even there.  When I told my family I was having a boy, it was one of the hardest parts.  Youget comments like, good luck!, or Oh i really thought this one was going to be a girl.  I havent even called to tell my grandmother yet cause she only ever cares about the girl babies.  My husband doesn't get it either!  He was disappointed it wasn't a girl, but was happy to have another son.  This is my last pregnancy, and I can't believe this the cards I have been dealt.  But the worst part is having to act like nothing is wrong, pretending to be happy.  I just want to curl up in bed and never leave.  I don't want to eat, I don't want to do anything.  Seeing other families with a boy and a girl just makes me breakdown, how did they get so lucky is what I ask myself.  Will I ever get over this?  I want to love this baby so bad but it is so hard right now.

flgurl:

Will I ever get over this?

Yes, when you meet him, 99% of the time, it's love, and if not at first sight, the love will come.

flgurl:

I want to love this baby so bad but it is so hard right now.

Only time can show you that you WILL love him; don't cope w/ those emotions now, as they are raw. It's hard to bond with a baby in utereo. My sons get along great...it's a special gift to give your son a brother.

I attached a pic to show you, maybe, a glimpse into the awesomeness you'll see for your own family.

Best of luck.

Having GD while PG is a whole different ballgame.  It's usually worse because you haven't met your beautiful child yet.  I can't say for sure for you as I'm not you but with me I fell completely in love with my boys when they were born and any GD I felt when PG went away once they were born.  Sure I wished for a daughter of my own but I never didn't want my boys, never did I wish they were girls, etc. 

I hope the same happens for you!  Just remember that you haven't met your little sweet boy yet and that's why have stronger feelings of GD at this time (coupled with PG hormones which doesn't help at all!)

G/L!  :)

When I was pregnant with mu first child I desperately wanted a girl, before this pregnancy I was obsessive to have a girl, and know one part of my want a girl, other part want a boy... I know that for my son brother will be better "toy" :), but for me and my hubby will be a girl...so I thinking anyway someone will be happy ... In first pregnancy everyone told my "it will be a boy" or "must be a boy" and that was drive me mad.... because in my country boy is a pride...have more value then girl ... now same story but only with girl... "that must be a girl".... I have good filling that this one is a boy again....and like I said one part of me will be happy, other part will be sad....

Oh Sweety just give your self time you are going to love this baby regardles and it will bring you just as much joy as a girl would of .. beacause we are mothers and our love is unconditional . you can always try one more time ... i know that is easier said than done .. but you do have that option and you should never rule it out ,,,, i wsh i had words to comfort u... but i dont i have a U/S on Dec 3 and I am so affraid to find out the sex because my hubby wants a boy just as bad as u want ur girl and i really dont want to disapoint him ..and the truth is i would love to have a lil but its not as important to me as it is to him and i really hope he gets his boy ... i hope u feel better  my heat goes out to u

I'm sorry.

I felt very much like you. My first DS was 5 when we ttc (he had been a handful and I couldn't do it again). I just assumed I'd have a girl the second time. Nope- when I heard boy, I cried. Cried for 3 days straight. We weren't planning any more and I just felt so detatched from the pg. I couldn't shop, couldn't get excited.

Fortunately, God knew what he was doing and DS#2 is an absolute angel. He is a true joy- we were basking in the glow of such a good baby and I was able to talk DH into trying again for our girl (he only wanted 1 child).

It took some time to get over the initial shock but by the time DS#2 arrived, I loved him and all was well. I hope you feel the same, soon.

Hang in there.

 I feel your pain, I'm having a third boy.

My boys are so active and fight all the time. I cannot imagine adding another one to the mix. I for sure that if we waited 4 years to have one it would be a girl

I felt the same way you did when hearing my second was another boy.   I was just telling a friend last night that he is the greatest gift I have ever been given.  he brings me more joy, peace and love than anything I have ever known.  I didn't believe I would love him as much as my first son until he turned about 5 months old and then something magical happened.  Your heart will be full of love for both boys and you won't be able to imagine anything any different.  I agree, never say never about having another though.  Best Wishes!

Just wanted to add that my boys, although full of energy, RARELY fight.  They actually play very well together and entertain one another.