My friends had a mother/daughter play date

GreenZelda:

I don't find it weird or rude that women would attend a special event with their daughters.

But again, I don't find it weird that some women take their daughters to "girly" events, or some dads take their sons to "boyish" events.  That happens a lot, and is normal human behaviour, IMO.

Keep in mind that not everyone has or is even aware of GD, so people can make choices that *seem* biased or inconsiderate, but in their own realities, are not.

GZ

I don't think anyone here thinks it's weird or rude to just do "girly" or "boyish" events.  It's fine.  That's not the real issue here. 

I've kind of been following along with Smommy's "weird trip" with these "so-called" friends and this seems like passive aggressive behavior on their part, IMO.  And obviously if one of these women knows about IG, has an account, logs on and comes to read posts... then she knows about GD.  

GreenZelda:

I don't find it weird or rude that women would attend a special event with their daughters.

 

GZ

I understand this. It is my gd. I have gd so when I see things like this it rocks me to the core and then come to the GD board to vent.

Thanks for all the support ladies> Sometimes I feel like I am the most horrible jealous person on earth. But honestly, if it didn't involve daughters and princesses I would still be kind of upset. It hurts when your friends get together and don't invite you. I am the type of person who includes EVERYONE. I introduced some of these ladies to each other so now I feel like WTF? Thanks a lot ladies. I hope it was just an innocent girly get together and not more to it KWIM? Also, I would never throw an all boy mom party and then brag on FB about how great boys are and leave out my friends who don't have sons, but then again, I am not an inconsiderate biotch.

Oh God I'm sorry.

I have two friends that became friends because they had daughters. So I brought them together and now I am left out.

ANd no you aren't being irrational. That had to hurt to see them with your cups playing princess tea party. I would have been really sad too.

And to post it on facebook knowing you would see it? Does she know of your GD? Rude then.

Thing is people don't care about other people enough most of the time. They only think of themselves.

BeebsNBubbs:

 And obviously if one of these women knows about IG, has an account, logs on and comes to read posts... then she knows about GD.  

Exactly. One girl definitely knows about my gd. The party was at her house and she is the one who posted the pics.

Ah who am I kidding? If one knows they probably all know.

I'm with everyone else - that sucked. You should have been invited, plain and simple.  Time to find some new friends. The fact that they posted on FB shows that they are careless and insensitive. It probably didn't even cross their minds that you would care one iota and that, in itself, speaks volumes. They should know better than that. What WOMAN wouldn't feel left out if her best friends got together right down the street from her home and used her cups?!  The fact that it was "girls only" makes it all the worse.  And if you say something to them, they'll talk about it behind your back. It's a lose-lose. Put a smile on your face, be nice, take the high road, and get the #$%^% out of that circle.  There are some rockin' boy mommas out there who would NEVER do that to you.  Hang in there - this stuff is so hard, and frankly I think this is a two-fold issue - the fact that YOU were left out, and the fact that your "wrong gender" CHILD was left out. It sucks on both levels, and your friends suck for causing this issue.

Eeeuuuuuuuuuuw!  The whole idea of a bunch of mums getting together with their "princesses" and having a tea party sends shivers down my spine.  I know it's some people's idea of a good time but far from mine... seems a bit self-indulgent to me.  Just my personal opinion. 

CJ's Kids:

I'm with everyone else - that sucked. You should have been invited, plain and simple.  Time to find some new friends. The fact that they posted on FB shows that they are careless and insensitive. It probably didn't even cross their minds that you would care one iota and that, in itself, speaks volumes. They should know better than that. What WOMAN wouldn't feel left out if her best friends got together right down the street from her home and used her cups?!  The fact that it was "girls only" makes it all the worse.  And if you say something to them, they'll talk about it behind your back. It's a lose-lose. Put a smile on your face, be nice, take the high road, and get the #$%^% out of that circle.  There are some rockin' boy mommas out there who would NEVER do that to you.  Hang in there - this stuff is so hard, and frankly I think this is a two-fold issue - the fact that YOU were left out, and the fact that your "wrong gender" CHILD was left out. It sucks on both levels, and your friends suck for causing this issue.

Thanks. This helps me more than you know.

You are right. I am so OUT of this cirlcle of friends.

Pink Ladies:

Eeeuuuuuuuuuuw!  The whole idea of a bunch of mums getting together with their "princesses" and having a tea party sends shivers down my spine.  I know it's some people's idea of a good time but far from mine... seems a bit self-indulgent to me.  Just my personal opinion. 

LOL! I was thinking the same thing but the fact that you are a girl mom who is saying this makes me feel better. Thanks.

CJ's Kids:

I'm with everyone else - that sucked. You should have been invited, plain and simple.  Time to find some new friends. The fact that they posted on FB shows that they are careless and insensitive. It probably didn't even cross their minds that you would care one iota and that, in itself, speaks volumes. They should know better than that. What WOMAN wouldn't feel left out if her best friends got together right down the street from her home and used her cups?!  The fact that it was "girls only" makes it all the worse.  And if you say something to them, they'll talk about it behind your back. It's a lose-lose. Put a smile on your face, be nice, take the high road, and get the #$%^% out of that circle.  There are some rockin' boy mommas out there who would NEVER do that to you.  Hang in there - this stuff is so hard, and frankly I think this is a two-fold issue - the fact that YOU were left out, and the fact that your "wrong gender" CHILD was left out. It sucks on both levels, and your friends suck for causing this issue.

   You rock, CJ's Kids!

Smommy:

Thanks. This helps me more than you know.

You are right. I am so OUT of this cirlcle of friends.

Well, it's easier said than done.  But to the extent you can find boy mommas, I think you'll find life a lot simpler and this nonsense won't happen.  I've had to move on from friendships before, and it's always really hard. But staying in a toxic friendship is much harder. I had to end a longterm friendship after she made clear that girls were really the only acceptable gender to have in children and has yet to spent five minutes with my son - her godson.  And of course she went on to have, yes, you guessed it - two girls. Made me sick because if she had had a son, she would have learned how wrong, close-minded, and pathetic her thinking was.  But instead, she'll continue on with it and her girl-only-loving friends (her quote one time "All my friends have girls, so we know NOTHING about boys" said quite smugly....). You know what? It's their loss.  Wait until they have nothing but grandsons, then they'll figure it out. :-)  Wish you and I lived in the same town - I could introduce you to some fab boy mommas, and also some fab girl mommas who would never be petty and small like your frenemies. :-)

My feelings would be so hurt to. This often happens amongst our friends where everyone but me has a DD. They do dance classes, and tea parties blah blah blah, and then they post them on FB. Hate it.

[:'(]  my heart just breaks for you reading this because i could totally feel your upset whilst reading

((((hugs hugs)))

Nasty women Grr! I agree with sevenfromheaven they could have asked those with little princes too God i tell you something Im so ready for boy number 5 and this site has helped me so much realise how much i love my boys to bits and how SAD people are its so stupid they are ALL children you have a Child so should have been asked it sucks!

Sorry they have made you feel this way

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I am so sorry ((((((HUGS)))))) that just sucks. I am no longer surprised by people's insensitivity, but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

Smommy:

GreenZelda:

I don't find it weird or rude that women would attend a special event with their daughters.

 

GZ

I understand this. It is my gd. I have gd so when I see things like this it rocks me to the core and then come to the GD board to vent.

 

 

You are right, I know what you mean.  I just hate to see others hurting.  I can now see why some of our IG friends here are suggesting you think about releasing yourself from this social circle.  Sometimes that is just the best option.  I'm sorry you're hurting!!

GZ