A doll house ruined my day!

Last weekend DP and I went away for a long weekend to start Christmas shopping. We went to a department store and we split for 10 minutes, I went to check the toys section and there it was, next to the nursery section, the most beautiful doll's house. I just stood there, looking at it, getting more and more upset, a knot in my stomach, tears filling my eyes.

I walked around to try and calm myself down. I went to look for DP and when I told him, he just didn't know what to say to me, he even admitted that coming on IG is good because there are so many of you that understand what I am going through and know what to say. What if I will never have my little girl? What if PGD doesn't work? I want to go ahead and do the treatment next summer but DP is not having it! He keeps saying that it's going to be too early for us. I don't know how to cope with waiting until summer 2011, any ideas? I feel so down and all around me, they are more and more of my friends given birth to girls. I am very happy for them but it breaks my heart too, if that makes sense.

Thanks for listening. Luci

I know exactly how you ae feeling, it is so hard when things like that are there just to hit you in the face. It is like a slap every time. Hugs x

A dolls house ruined my day the other day too. I was christmas shopping with my 2 youngest boys, the 2yr old found a dolls house that was out on display and absolutely loved it, he stood and played with it for ages. It wasn't despeartely girlish, the outside of it was blue and it had boy and girl little dolls in it but my husband wont let him have it? Says it's for girls and boys should have action figures.

Thanks nicola, it's just so hard, we were having such a lovely time until that point, I had to try so hard not to let it ruin the entire weekend, I just don't know how to cope with my GD anymore, only DP knows about it and the lovely ladies on In Gender have helped a great deal, I just wish I could cope better.

x nicola x:

my husband wont let him have it? Says it's for girls and boys should have action figures.

I am sorry you had a bad day too. My youngest has a playhouse, with lots of figures, he loves it, it's not girly at all and I don't believe that boys should only play with action figures. In fact, when DS1 and DS2 were younger whenever I went to visit a dear friend who has a girl, my boys would always play with the pram and the dolls. If your son liked it then I don't see what is the problem perhaps you should talk to your DH about it or it could be a present from another member of your family 

I've had those moments before. *hugs*

oh hun :(

I know exactly how you feel when i had  i had just my 4 sons in a row and after my ds4 was born i dont know what happened to me i loved him so much but my world crumbled everytime we went to a shop and i saw girls things Gorgeous dolls houses and all the disney princess stuff i also used to cry i remember once we went to toysrus and my ds4 was about 5mths and we walked down the Dolls isle and i just said to DH I want to go home [:'(] it was so hard i wanted to shop for my lovely boys but i desperately wanted to be able to buy girls stuff too

We took our boys to this park once and this little girl came along and wanted to play she was 5 and the most prettiest little thing id ever seen and watching her play with my boys made me want them to have a sister so bad i sat on a bench and cried i couldnt control myself

I just wanted you to know how i felt at that time so you know you arent alone on this

((((((huge hugs))))))

XXXXX

Thank you girls, your response is so much appreciated. I just want my little girl, I day dream about her, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It's not something that I can talk to my friends about as most of them have either just girls or at least one, also I don't want to sound ungreatfull for my lovely 3 boys. I dream of the day when I will go shopping for "pink", her first doll, her first dress, her nursery, everything. I feel so sad.

 Yeah I've got to agree with blessed2havekids, I think if you think it's something your boys might like you should definitely get it. My little dude doesn't really show an interest in teddies or dolls but if he did I'd definitely indulge it because his father (my ex) is such an ass about stuff like that and hates to think Logan is being introduced to anything 'girly', and I really resent stereotypes and typical girl/boy stuff. Thankfully my partner now is much more chilled and liberal and isn't fussed about this baby having 'girl' things if he wants, especially as he used to play with prams when he was little lol! I think your DH should get it for you and you can play with it with your boys. I personally absolutely hate dolls houses as they freak me out (my DP was going to build me one to propose with and it was such a sweet idea but when he ended up spilling the beans I threw a freaky as I'm terrified of the dolls 'moving' when I'm not around lol, I'm really not a scaredy cat about anything else but just dolls and dolls houses...to be honest that's one of the few reasons I'm glad I don't have a DD at the moment because people would give her dolls - although I wouldn't - and I'd have to get over my *fear* lol) but I think if you like you should have it for you and all the boys can play too. They would love playing with mummy! 

Aww, Luci I am so sorry, I know stores and all the girl things would set my GD of too. It's even worse when everyone you know is having a girl, everytime I was pg my closest friend at that time was having a girl. Is dh on board with high tech but just not in 2010? I know it's hard to wait but if he is on board atleast you know you will be able to have your best shot at a guarantee for a girl. (((HUGS)))

Well, I have a huge dollhouse that I got when I was 11 years old. My dad made if for me . Including the most beautiful detailed furniture. People would collect minitures for me from all around the world when they would go on vacations or business trips.

I finally moved it into the way back of storage because I know it will never be passed down. My cousins (they are young girls still) all joke over who I am going to finally pass it down to since I don't have a daughter. I haven't said it but unless I have a grandaughter it will just be donated to some charity.

I know how you feel.

Thanks, I am so glad you girls understand how I am feeling, it was just one more thing to set my GD off.

FourCutiesOneLove:

Is dh on board with high tech but just not in 2010? I know it's hard to wait but if he is on board atleast you know you will be able to have your best shot at a guarantee for a girl.

DP is 100% on board with doing the PGD, my 3 boys are from my previous marriage. He knows how much I want to have a girl, he wouldn't mind having a boy but I made it so clear that I didn't want to have another boy that for him it's either going to be a girl or nothing.

It's all very complicated! DP divorce should be through at the end of this year, he has no children from his previous marriage and I can't submit my divorce papers until the 21st of March 2010, it will then properly take 6 months for my divorce to be through, this is two years after my ex husband and I split up. My ex has the boys 3 weeks during the summer hence why we can only do it in the summer. 2011 seem to be so far away.

Luci

I'm sorry Luci   I know you are struggling and I think of you often and hope you have some peace soon 

Chloe:

I'm sorry Luci   I know you are struggling and I think of you often and hope you have some peace soon 

Thank you Alyssa, that's very sweet of you. I don't know what I would do if I didn't have IG and all you wonderful ladies around me. Thank you.

Luci

i understand the feelings of just wanting that one  to hold in your arms and watch grow up

I believe it will happen for you I felt the same as you and look at me now  it CAN happen !

Wishing you all the luck in the world for your journey to get her hun keep positive