Who is having a BOY and its baby #1?????

Just wondering who all is in my same boat. How are you feeling? Any GD?

 I'm having my second child, and second son, but I can honestly say that with my first son I had no GD as I was just thrilled to have either. I never really had a preference either way, knew I wanted both genders but I'd had a dream about having a son and this had stuck with me as something that I felt would *definitely* happen! I had a teeny bit of disappointment this time round just cos I would really like a girl at some point, but happy to have another wee dude as well. I think it really depends on your own circumstances so you definitely shouldn't feel ashamed for having GD with your first child, but remember this little guy will be yours and you'll be amazed at how much you love him. GL and hugs hun x

I'm not pg, but I definitely had GD with DS1.  I would say my GD was pretty extreme with both of my boys.  So ~ I can't say I'm in the same boat right now, but I can most definitely relate to what you are feeling. 

I had a boy for my first. I had felt all along it was a boy so I wasn't surprised but I was mildly disappointed. I really wanted a girl. It passed very quickly though. I just *assumed* I'd have a girl the 2nd time around...wrong.

I am pregnant (oops) with DS3.  I had extreme GD with DS1.  I didn't want a boy and never planned on every having any.  I cried at the US.  I was mad at DH and his whole family because they wanted the baby to be a boy (his brothers and sister all had girls - no boys), and did not enjoy the last half of my pregnancy because of GD.  I locked the nursery door and did not look at it again until I was forced to put babyshower stuff in it.  I asked to have neutral colors at the shower and NO "It's a boy" cake but everyone ignored me and went totally crazy with the blue.  I can remember being so mad at myself for feeling this way that I almost drove myself crazy.  The guilt was unbearable.  I had no one to talk to and everyone made me feel like a horrible person because I was not happy.  When the baby was born I did not bond with him at all nor did I want to.  He was a very high maintenance child that did not sleep and screamed all the time.  I finally started bonding with him when he was 18 months old (we started talking about trying for a girl).  So, I know how you feel times 3.  There was no ingender to help me deal with my feelings with my first two DSs.  I only found this site after my US for DS3.  I decided that I could not go through this agony again.  I am more at peace now but will forever live with GD.

I didn't have GD wish DS1 as I wanted a boy first anyway. It was when I found out I was having DS2 that my GD started. Fortunately it was only bad for the first few weeks after my u/s, then I started to slowly heal and was GD free by the time he was about a month old.

I am pregnant with #2, but my first was a boy and I did have GD for a bit.  I was absolutely convinced that he was a she and when they told me it was a boy at u/s, I cried.  I cried on the phone with my mom after I left the doc's office too.  I knew I wanted a girl and I had the strongest feeling, "intuition" if you will, that it was a girl.  When I found out it wasn't I felt as if my "mother's intuition" was broken.  Obviously, I love my DS with everything I am and couldn't imagine him any other way.

BUT, I will also say that the GD from my pg with him has carried into this one.  I have been so hesitant to even allow myself to think what I really "intuitively" think this baby is.  Only because I don't want the disappointment again, but if I am having another boy, I think I will go through it again.  Maybe not quite as bad, but I believe I will. 

Best of luck to you.

I had extreme GD with DS1. I used to say the u/s news ruined my life completely, but I know this is pushing it a little far. DH says that the news and the birth were "life changing" to say the very least and that we have grown tremendously from it. Do I still wish I had a girl for my oldest, yes, but I have come to accept GD as what it is and nothing more. I suppose I have come to terms with it and when people ask I now truthfully say that my boy has brought the greatest change and growth to my life. It's true!

starlight1600:

Just wondering who all is in my same boat. How are you feeling? Any GD?

This is my first baby and it's a boy. I have horrible GD. I never wanted a boy EVER and to top it off the father isn't around. So now I'm going to have a son to raise on my own. Up until my ultrasound I told myself it was a girl. My midwife even guessed it was a girl. So I was convinced. All the old wives tells pointed to girl. So I go in to get my ultrasound and I was nervous because I knew if she told me it was a boy it wouldn't be a good reaction. Well guess what it was a boy! Tears were rolling down my face. I was trying to hold it back. I just kind of grabbed my pictures and ran to the bathroom and cried. I tried to compose myself but I cried all day and for the next few days actually. I couldn't even look at the ultrasound pictures and I couldn't even talk to my family about having a boy.  Ever since I found out it was a boy I just can't be that happy bout it. I have to pretend to be. And my mom doesn't make it any better. This is her 3rd grandson with no granddaughters. I think she has GD too if it's possible for a grandparent. My aunts son is having a little girl a few weeks after my son is due and my mom was talking bout how it isn't fair. How can I feel happy bout this when my own family doesnt? I'm trying to cope I really am but I'm still sad and just tell myself he's coming out a girl even though I know he's not. I won't buy any "boy" things. Everything I have and am getting is gender neutral. I know its a boy. I saw his penis :( I really don't know how I'm going to act or feel once he's here. The father isn't around and my own mother isn't even happy bout this baby. I feel sad because I know I should love him no matter what but I kind of feel sorry that he belongs to me and have considered adoption. I feel like life isn't fair because my cuz and his wife who are having a girl wanted a boy badly. They have made jokes bout trading and I really kind of wish I could :( 

 Just in case you didn't read this on my other post...  Go check out "goforette's" posts.  It may change the way you are feeling.

http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/p/69180/627388.aspx#627388

BeebsNBubbs:

Just in case you didn't read this on my other post...  Go check out "goforette's" posts.  It may change the way you are feeling.

I wish.  I always wanted a boy or two for my firsts.  And if I was only having my first right now and knew about IG I at least would have hope of not ending up with 4 of the same gender in a row, since I would know about swaying.

I didn't have it with my first at all.  I REALLY wanted a boy first and knew early on it was a boy.  I would have had GD if he had been a she.  I had it pretty bad with my second and even worse with my third.  After two boys I still had a little hope of having a girl because I was open to having one more.   Honestly the only reason we went for number 4 was to try and have a girl.  Even if this baby is a boy, I'm glad we tried and I will love him. 

I didn't have proper GD when I found out I was having a boy even though from the second I found out I was pg I wanted to be a girl, after that though the GD kicked in big time. I still hope and pray that one day I will have my baby girl.