'since i've got my girl, i'd be happy with either.'

How does this statement make you feel? It rubs me the wrong way. I KNOW we on this forum are desiring one gender over another...which is fine..but this statement just is ridiculous to me.

She is finding out gender today and made this comment in her post that she doesn't care what it is because she already got her girl.

Even if it was the other way around.

I can't ever seem to post what I am really trying to get out, but I hope it made sense.

 I dont think it rubs me wrong just its not how I feel.  I have 4 boys one girl and would LOVE for this baby to be a girl but its most likely a boy so yeah I am disappointed... 

Now if she was saying it in a demeaning way like she doesnt care cause she has both and if you have both you shouldnt care anyways then I would be a bit annoyed... I mean I may have both but that doesnt mean I dont still want a certain gender

Christina

 Yeah, she has one child so far..a girl. She doesn't care NOW what she is having, because she got her girl..it doesn't matter anymore what she has! Which is great, really, but to say it like that is kind of snooty. IMO

I understand having one of each and not caring what what comes after, but anyway. that was my peeve of the day.

I am sure I didn't write it exactly how I meant it, but ah well. 

Honestly, if I had had a girl first, I might feel that way.  I tend to get along with boys better, and men better, but I really long for the mother-daughter thing.  I can see why someone would feel that way.  If they wanted the m-d bond but didn't also yearn for a son...

I think it would be amazing just "to not care about gender".   I swear I could have a million kids and will have a gender "hope" for each one of them.  How free she must feel.   Lucky her.

 I do understand this as well. I knew my thoughts wouldn't come out 'right'.

Thanks for the responses girls!

But, I have NEVER heard someone say this statement about having a son...I guess that is kinda my point. I have never seen this statement about boys..'I have my boy, so it doesn't matter'..if it was used both ways (which I have NEVER seen, but have seen the girl one a few times).. then maybe i wouldn't care so much!

 Honestly, I thought you were talking about me or something I posted here :o however, mine is exactly the opposite...

 When I 1st got pregnant with my first I didn't want a girl at all, ever for any reason what so ever! I wanted a boy. I don't know how to explain it but I was terrified I'd have a girl and hate her (god how mean to say that)... I just never wanted a little girl.

 When I found out my baby was a boy I was in total disbelief, how could I have gotten what I wanted when I thought allllll odds were against me.. I come from all girls - DH's family is all girls (except him of course) etc... I was so devastated that I may have a girl and it took 4 ultrasounds and the BIRTH of my son to believe he was really a boy...

 I totally understand the longing for a certain sex baby, however I was lucky enough to get it...so I can't 1st hand understand not getting it (not said in a boasting manner at all)... I can only imagine how I would have reacted and how I would have coped... 

 I'm pregnant again (on purpose) and I'm at a point in my life I am ok with raising a girl... I actually think this pregnancy is a girl and I'm totally ok with it since I got my boy. My life would have felt totally incomplete without him! Although I believe I would have loved the 1st baby had it been a girl I would still have been bummed... As for this pregnancy I don't have any real hopes for the sex.. I know there will be a tad bit of disappointment etiher way... if it's a girl then I'll be bummed my son won't have a brother... if it's a boy I'll be bummed that I didn't have a chance to raise a daughter... 

 But I've used the EXACT phrase as your heading... just the other way around. I got my boy so I'd be happy with either gender... until i came here I never thought that a comment like that could possibly be inconsiderate or rub someone the wrong way (obviously because I don't have ill intentions in saying it)... but I can totally see how it could.

 Best wishes!!!

Lokhnes:

Honestly, I thought you were talking about me or something I posted here :o however, mine is exactly the opposite...

Gosh no! Sorry if you thought that..this is a girl on a different forum all together.

Thanks for the post, that does make sense.  I hope you get a brother for your son! 

I didn't care either way with my first, though wanted a boy for my first...but honestly did not care. I just knew I wanted 2 of each..

 :) no worries...

 I'd love 2 of each also but DH is done after this baby... I have to accept it since that's what we had discussed and agreed on. He has a daughter from a prior marriage and she's great... although she's not my own. I'd love to see a little mini girl version of me... but I'm such the tom boy I just think boys would have a LOT more fun being my children - haha.. 

However a girl would teach me a lot about being girly (I hope)... I'd have to learn how to match clothing, do hair, nails, makeup etc... there are aspects of both genders this time that I'm excited about... and I'm just glad I'm getting excited because when I 1st got preg. I started freaking out and having doubts all together... what if I don't love baby 2 like baby1, what if this, that etc... just for fun I've uploaded a photo of my son... in my eyes the most perfect child ever.. and I'm scared he got all the good looks haha... anyway I'm glad my comment didn't offend you or upset.

FiveHappyChildren:

 Yeah, she has one child so far..a girl. She doesn't care NOW what she is having, because she got her girl..it doesn't matter anymore what she has! Which is great, really, but to say it like that is kind of snooty. IMO

ha ha ha.... that explains it!...

Ask her again when its GBBB if she cares what she has

Lokhnes:

and I'm scared he got all the good looks haha

I worry this too!  I don't know what I'd do on top of being dissapointed about another boy if he turned out to be the 'ugly' one (i'm mostly kidding)

 awww... lol. I'm sure you'd have mom goggles :)

urbanwifey:

Lokhnes:

and I'm scared he got all the good looks haha

I worry this too!  I don't know what I'd do on top of being dissapointed about another boy if he turned out to be the 'ugly' one (i'm mostly kidding)

Please don't flame me for this . I wanted a boy for my first and he was gorgeous , everybody commented on him . I had GD with number two and he came out and he was not as cute as the first . I was so disappointed . On top of that he cried all the time.

It was like can I get a break here? Of course now that he is older I think he may be cuter than my first. And he is sweeter than the first. I guess he needed time to evolve.  He was just soo fat as a baby. LOL

 I often had these 'ugly' thoughts..wondering what if he isn't 'cute'...but luckily in my biased opinion, they are adorable..though I kinda worry on if any of them will be ..um..ahem..'geeks?' shall I say. Totally off the topic!

I appreciate your girls thoughts.

MyDreamBabi:

Ask her again when its GBBB if she cares what she has

I should! Still waiting to hear her results. I am thinking boy for her. I mean, I truly believe she won't care one way or another, but I did let her know how I felt about that comment in her post after making my guess.