GD with #3?

 Well, it seems like so many ladies suffering from GD are those with 3 or more SG children.  DH and I go back and forth over wether or not to ttc (well mainly me, DH is letting me decide).  Although I never suffered from GD with my first two, after having DS1, I wanted another boy, I am worried about getting GD with #3. I worry about stupid people's comments. Noone says "Lucky you, 3 boys!"  It seems like the comments begin when someone has 3 SG children. I think everyone would think I had 1 more "to get my girl (as they say)." I haven't gotten any negative comments with my 2 DS, but I am sure if I had a third, they would begin . I know it may sound silly to base my decision on what others say, but it's really about me wanting to protect my boys, I don't want them to get their feelings hurt. I love my sweet boys, they are my world!!  Anyone else feel this way?

I could have written this post myself! Heck yeah I know what you mean!! I am pregnant with #3 and already have 2 DD. I think that is the part I dread the most if we find out it is another girl- the thoughtless comments, especially those of friends and family. I don't want to feel like someone is pitying me, you know? 

 Obviously I can't tell you not to worry what other say or think (because some people just have no filter and don't think) but I don't think you should let a world of strangers and poorly mannered people prevent you from raising another prescious baby to love and adore... 

 If you have qualms about the comments, you can devise witty comebacks that make such people feel as though they put their foot in their mouth. I do understand protecting your children from these awful comments but your kids will always look to you for that reassurance. Your kids will know how much you love them based on your actions.

 I just hate letting rude people run or influence my life... they are so undeserving!!!

 Good luck in your decision and big hugs!

 I've been thinking about this too. Well, obviously we did go for # 3 but I've been thinking about how to phrase a reaction to whatever gender this baby is. If the baby is a girl I know I'm going to hear "you finally got your girl!" and if it's a boy I'm afraid I'm going to hear "3 boys?! I'm so sorry!" If it's a girl I'm going to reply, "No, we don't FINALLY have our girl. We have been blessed with two absolutely beautiful, stunning boys and now we have also been blessed with a baby girl too". If it's a boy then I'm not sure what to say yet. I want to protect my boys and I am afraid people will make comments that will devalue my boys and put emphasis on the new baby 

I'm going to get all "philosophical" for a minute...

I love Dr. Wayne Dyer.  He just posted this on his FB account the other day...

"I only allow that which is good into my life. No one can depress you. No one can make you anxious. No one can hurt your feelings. No one can make you anything other than what you allow."

And you know what?  It's true.  And it applies to your question.

I don't get a ton of negative comments, but when I do get some...  They roll right off.  I am fully aware that if I stood in the mall and asked 100 women if they would want a "3-boy family" that I would more than likely get at least 90 "Hell No!" and "Are you kidding me?" responses.  I am acutely aware that no one I know envies me.  I am told that a lot.  LOL. 

And my response to that in my mind is,...  whatever.

Seriously, I don't even put the energy into thinking of come backs because I. DON'T. CARE.

I would have been missing out on so much if I had not had my 3rd son...  He is a true blessing.  So 3 boys it is for me.       

 It's good to hear I'm not the only one obsessing about this. 

 I just wish people didnt feel their need to imput their opinion on your situation.  I had 2boys adn then got pregnant with twin boys... all I heard about for 5 months was ... you couldnt even get a girl in there... WTH???  I was soo mad... With #5 we didnt tell anyone.. we really didnt know what we were having but we strongly suspected it was a girl (we still watched the US and did peak down there without getting a confirmation from the tech) Now we are probably having another boy and everyone thinks its such a bad thing... I mean we really really wanted a little girl this time around and so we are disappointed but its worse when the world acts like somehow we failed them too in not producing a girl.  So at our u/s they told us maybe it was a boy but couldnt tell 100% (she only gave us 60% boy) and so we just keep telling everyone we dont know and I am beginning to think even if we do find out I dont want to tell anyone... maybe when they see his cute little baby face they wont have so many poor you another boy comments. 

I have to say though to usually counter those comments I usually counter with a statement that makes it sound like  I am over the moon thrilled with our outcome... something like "Yeah its another boy, isnt that great"  if you can shove that comment in there before and they at least think you are thrilled they are less likely to make a negative remarks and such.. so if nothing else come up with something like that to say... Nothing makes GD worse than having other people feel sorry for you...

Christina