I went and saw my new OB today.

The hospital told me that I needed to go into the OB this week to make sure everything is fine.  Pelvic was good and he took blood for a beta test.  He told me that we could try again our next cycle.  Yay!  He said that next time I get PG I can come in and they would do betas for me just for peace of mind.  I never would have done that before but I think I'm going to take him up on that.  I don't want to go along thinking everything is fine and then have it be or just wonder if the same thing is going to happen.

I really liked this dr. and am so glad I switched.  He was one of the rotating dr.s I saw at my other OB back when I had DS3 so I kind of had an idea that I would like him.  Hey, he stripped my membranes that put me into labor w/ DS3 so he couldn't be all bad .  I didn't feel like he was running out to go see another patient like I did before.  I felt like he was listening to me.  I also told him that we were ttc a girl and he told me his ideas.  They were having to do with timing.  Nothing new but at least he didn't laugh or tell me it's a big joke.  When I told him we had been doing frequent BDing to lower sperm count he told me to be careful with that because it can get too low but when I said that low sperm count was supposed to favor girls he said he could agree with that and understood.  But I do think we need to back off on how frequent we are BDing.  We may have been lowering it too much.  It is just so hard to know exactly when I was going to O.  We won't start too early next time. 

So I'm glad everything is ok.  Hopefully I'll be in to see him again soon.

so glad you went to the dr. & had a good experience.  it sounds like this dr. is really willing to listen & help you.  and it's also great that he didn't laugh at you about swaying

best of luck w/ ttc.  any idea of when you'll start ttc?  we're starting ttc girl in Dec.-it would be great to be ttc buddies!

When we start ttc will all depend on my cycles.  I've heard, and the dr. told me, that the cycle after a miscarriage can be very wacky.  I need to avoid having an August baby (we already have 3 in a 10 day period in Aug.- me, step-DD, and DS4 ).  All of my babies have been 10-15 days early so I need to take that into account when deciding when to ttc.  So whatever will give us a Sept baby. 

So glad you had a good appt and found a supportive Doc thats great!!!

As for  the b-day thing i worried about that when we fisrt started ttc a few years back because alomst all my boys are spring babies, but after ttc for a year or more I decided haveing 2 b-days on the same day would be well worth it if I could just have a baby!!  Don't waste any time worrying about dates!  Good luck!

Hi NikiLyn, i just found your post by chance, as  i was feeling a bit depressed, af is due in a few days and i dont think im pg again, but i really just wanted to say how sorry i was to see you had a chemical, sounds a bit more like a m/c though, i hope your doing ok and ready to go again, its funny as i didnt want to concieve this month, but will be really sad if i dont though, i really want to be pg next month, so will give it a good shot, are you trying again soon? Any way all the best and good luck

Thank you consumed by pink.  It is funny how I really didn't want to have a baby then but after I was I wanted it more than anything.  We will be trying again with my cycle that starts in Dec.  It is weird though how I've been feeling since the m/c.  I've been trying not to think about things and just concentrate on living right now.  I haven't even been on the boards that much.  I am beginning to wonder though if I am making the right decision to have another baby.  Is it right to have a baby that is that far apart from any other siblings?  The closest one would be 9 by then.  I am 7 yrs. from my closest sister and it was fine but this is 2 more yrs.  I don't want to have another one either.  I never had a problem with being that far apart because it was just how it was.  But then someone at church was saying how she is 9 yrs. apart from her closest sibling and she was acting like it was a bad thing.  I know it is different for everyone but what if this baby doesn't like the gap and being alone with Mom and Dad all the time? 

And then I'm also starting to get a little freaked out that there would be something wrong with it because of my age.  I've also been looking at our family and thinking that we have a great one, why can't I just be happy with it the way it is?  So, as you can see, I've got a lot to decide- swaying, timing, and whether do go for it at all.  I think if I had the reassurance that there wouldn't be anything wrong I'd be fine.  Hey, I already have a son with a heart defect, isn't that enough?

I get cold feet everymonth, maybe this is why im not getting pg, i like the idea so much to have a baby ( girl that is) but i too will have a big gap, i would have a 12 year old if i were to get pg again soon. My main reason though for the cold feet is i really want a girl, and also i know i cant cope with my servere ms, i dont want the boys to have to look after me, and each other while im chucking my guts for 6 months . But also age is a issue, things are good with our family too, we are starting to get to the stage where we can have a little bit of freedom back, and soon no more nappies!

The only thing that keeps me going back is the fact that i dont want to look back at 40 and wish i had tryed for a girl, i know i wouldnt consider getting pg at 40, as hard and as confusing it all gets sometimes i just am probably determined enough to try each month. I does seem so frustrating though having had kids with no probs in the past to suddenly seem infertile Grrrr, wish we'd got pg 1st month and would have nearly been due by now!

Good luck with your decision making, i say go for it, you have come this far, and you have a cuttoff time so thats good, at least you can move on if it dosnt happen, and if it does ( hoping it will ) you will be so happy and content and everything else will fall into place