Does anyone else feel that they don't want to hear mamsy-pamsy philosophy?

  I am currently swaying for a girl. I know I have not been perfect about it--  several diet slip ups, etc. I do realize that there are MANY women on here who had "perfect"sways and still got the opposite.   I realize that no one is perfect. It is hard to not slip up. I guess I feel that if I get a boy that it will because of my imperfections and not simply because nothing is 100%.   And if I do get pregnant with a boy , I will have to tell my therapist, who of course knows about my swaying. I'm afraid I will have to endure "Oh, well ya know" and other simliar phrases, while feeling  to myself that  "if only I hadn't eaten so much such and such," or If only I'd taken this.  Does anyone feel that such well meaning attempts at reassurance sting harder under these circumstances? Especially when they are rendered by someone who really doesn't get all of the science behind swaying and doesn't understand why you feel that you failed?  Don't get me wrong. I think swaying is a good thing, but I guess it does leave one vulnerable to second guessing themselves.  Did any of you ,  when you got the news you were having the opposite, feel this way?  Did you hate it when people you had told you were swaying tried to reassure you, and you felt it was because they really didn't  know anything about swaying? If you guys have, then I'll know I'm not crazy if that day comes for me. Thanks.

There are plenty of people here that know a LOT more about this than me but if a "perfect" sway was possible then there wouldn't be as much need for PGD as there is.

I think that some people just can't conceive a certain gender the old fashioned way no matter perfect the sway.  If you get the opposite of course you'll be second guessing yourself but sometimes it's just not possible without a little help from $cience...ya know?

I just had a swaying opposite. And I believe I had a good sway. There were things out of my control like moon phases and O'ing earlier than I thought, but you have to understand and have peace with the fact that swaying is not 100%, as I have obviously found out. I feel comfortable that I did all I could, it just wasn't meant to be. I think if you over analyze what you did or didn't do you will go insane. The only person that knew I was swaying was my husband as I couldn't cope with anyone else saying 'I told you it wouldn't work' etc. It is a tough pill to swallow and I am very disappointed that I am not having a girl, but I believe things happen for a reason and I am hoping that becomes clear when my next little man is placed in my arms! Good Luck with your sway

I have had 2 failed sways, both using different methods religiously.

I now beleive it is just 50/50 no matter what you do.

 

I had a really good sway.  I still had an opposite. I really believe it is more biology between each man and woman and there is little to help that along.

My husband comes from a male rich family. I didn't tell anyone but my husband because I didn't want to hear all the comments when it didn't work.

I do think we could have a girl but would have many more boys.

I hope it is okay to share that I don't believe swaying changes your odds.  At all.  I believe it is a road to misaligned expectations and heartbreak.

GZ

GreenZelda:

I hope it is okay to share that I don't believe swaying changes your odds.  At all.  I believe it is a road to misaligned expectations and heartbreak.

GZ

Yes, I agree. If you believe it will work it can be the biggest fall when it doesn't .

I think for me it was more the feeling that I wanted to actively try to do something to help conceive a DD, more than thinking it was going to happen. I see so many failed sways with women who did far more than I did, and a lot of successful sways with women who already have 2 or 3 of the same gender in a row, leaving me to think it was their 'turn' for an opposite gender anyway. 

I'm really not sure how much of swaying works but after seeing so much heartbreak on here everyday, I'll be happy just to have another healthy baby! I am swaying but not really following the methods on here. I think each individual has a different body chemistry and that by switching that up a bit it might help to sway. I don't really know though because I come from a line of grandmothers and great grandmothers who primarily had girls (exepct for one great grandmother), I would think my body chemistry as far as conception is like theirs, as it is in other aspects of my life.

 

I guess I'm a bit off topic.

I won't feel like I failed my sway if it doesn't work but I can see how someone could feel that way.