Boy #2...

I have been on this site for the last week or so and it is amazing to me all of the people that feel the same way I do!  I have three wonderful boys who I would not trade for the world, but I want a girl.  All of my friends have girls, just not me!  You do get over the disappointment, but with my last boy, I kept hoping that maybe the ultrasound was wrong!  By husband loves having three boys but is willing to try for the fourth - we wanted to have a big family.  We just really hope that we have a girl next time.  We tried the Shettles method the last time and did the timing perfectly for a girl and still had a boy.  So we are thinking about Microsort the next time.  We are concerned about the cost and also concerned about the success rate and whether we should do IUI or IVF.  We have also thought about adopting from another country but that is also very expensive.

For the mom who just found out she is having another boy, it does get better and the thing is that little boys have so much fun playing with each other and my little boys just love me to death.  Got to go.  Me baby just fell down.  He is just learning to walk!

Longingforagirl, I have gone the same few months ago. now my boys are 3 years and 3 months old. I am very much ok with the shape of my family although i dreamt of a 'perfect' family with a boy and a girl. shortly after birth of my second son i thought about 'trying once again' - but now i think i dont want more children. even if the third would be a girl, my family will not be the 'perfect' family of my dreams as i never wanted having more than 2 children. i am still burying this dream of a daughter. i explained to myself how many positives this situation has (having no daughter) and would not want to go through the disappointment again if the third would be a boy again. i whish you the peace i have reached or a sweet daughter as child no 3, whatever you wish.

i do not have guilty feelings against my younger son, i love him very much and i am so much a better mother to him than i was to my older son (i suffered from postpartum depression then).

I e-mailed MicroSort but just today sent them a letter asking them to consider a location in the Midwest after their clinical trials are done. I figured a letter might make more of an impact since I am sure they get bombarded with e-mails. The collaborating clinics they have listed on their site will do the monitoring but don't actually have the sperm-sorting equipment so we would still have to travel there once per cycle. That is why we have to encourage them to open a clinic in the Midwest. Anyone who is reading this and lives in the Midwest please write them. The more people they hear from, the more likely they are to consider it. And, even though many of us wouldn't try for a year or two, we need to contact them now while they are in their planning stages. I can't even believe I am considering MicroSort but I am desperate for a daughter!

Actually, if you use a collaborator you would NOT travel to MicroSort if you are doing IVF.    Only your DH's sperm makes the trip.  It's frozen, shipped to MicroSort, sorted, refrozen, and shipped back, and THEN used to fertilize your eggs for IVF. 

If you are doing IUI, you do have to travel to MicroSort because you have to use fresh sperm (not frozen) for IUI.

IVF is much more expensive though, correct?

You'd think there'd be at least ONE question with a simple answer, wouldn't you? 

The IVF procedure is more expensive.  But, it has a higher pregnancy rate, and it might involve less travel.  2 IVF's might be cheaper than 3 or 4 IUI's. 

Then again there are other reasons not to want to do IVF, such as having leftover embryos, subjecting yourself to fertility drugs, etc.

Does the freezing/un-freezing process negatively affect pregnancy rates?