2 BOYS?!?....God Forbid!!!

I have been in your situation, and felt unfomfortable about it too. And trying to defend

myself and having two sons did not make me feel better , so this IS a tricky

situation to be in. It was at work having coffee with a client who has two

grown up children, one of each gender. And this woman kept saying that

she was so relived that she had at least one daughter cause she never

had any contact with her grown-up son, and you cant ever expect a son

to keep in contact when he is older. That comment did sting - but what she

really said was that she has a not-so good relationship with her son

and isnt that saying something about her more than it says about sons in general?

I think you could have said this to the collegue that made that comment  - 

"You know, if you get to have two healthy kids of any gender you can consider

yourself very lucky"  - maybe sounds just as a cliché but this is true

Portia West:

And this woman kept saying that

she was so relived that she had at least one daughter cause she never

had any contact with her grown-up son, and you cant ever expect a son

to keep in contact when he is older.

I also get this comment a lot from women who have one of each.  This one women (when I was VERY preggers with Ds) said to me, "oh, there is nothing like a daughter, it is so special, my daughter will be my best friend for life."  And she said something like her son she is not close with.

But your right!  It says something about the mom, not the son or daughter.  I never thought of it that way before :0)

babydust292:

But your right!  It says something about the mom, not the son or daughter.  I never thought of it that way before :0)

I took me many years to really get this myself LOL

But I have a living example of a super good "son-mother relationship" down the road.

It is a son that visits his mother ever so often, and they go on walks togteher etc 

just the two of them, and seems to enjoy hanging around together. The other

day I took the curage to ask him how come he enjoys being with his mom that much (!)

And he said that it is cause she treats him so well - he likes her company 

aw, what a beautiful story!  It actually brought some tears to my eyes, because even though my son is only 15 months, this is our favorite thing to do together!  He loves it and so do I, so this story really hit home.  Thank you for sharing