Rude comment from a trick or treater....

wow.  VERY rude.  I probably would have been stunned and not have a clue to say, then 10 minutes later get bitter and want to run into her and reem into her.  that is just AWEFUL. 

we call these people story toppers... where they are better than you and everything they have to say is correct & you better believe it. 

LittleBirdie:

 It sounds to me like she has spent a great deal of time telling herself that boys are "better," probably to cope with her own GD or maybe just the fact she has only been able to have one child.  Some one obviously must have issues to feel the need to lecture a stranger like that. 

 

That's exactly what I was thinking as I read the post.

Oh wow, that sounds like an experience I had the other night while playing spades on Yahoo!.  This girl that I was playing against said that she had to go check her baby.  When she came back, I told her it was fine because I had a baby too and understood.  We started talking about our kids and she told me she had three boys, I told her that was great and that that is what we had wanted but had girl, then a boy.  After that she went on about how she was so happy that she had only boys and kept saying "my boys are just too great", it didn't bother me the first time or two she said it but after that I just let it go, it was only making me feel bad that she got only boys and was rubbing it in my face after I had said that is what I had wanted!!!!

I just shut up, sorry you had to deal with a jackass like this too. 

That is so rude! What is wrong with people. You know what? From the sounds of it, I bet she has major gd and really wants a girl badly

These kind of comments have learned me two things; first off that people DO have different

preferences about childrens gender, and secondly (which is the most importnant one IMO),

that we who end up listening to them have to keep it in perspective and understand them for what they

are - a personal view of the teller). By this I am not saying that this woman was right, just that

in her own opinion she was right - and in some ways the worst comments I have gotten about

boys are also the ones that have tought me to overcome my own former GD. Simply cause

I realized how wrong they were from my ways of seeing things, and my perspective.

I can tell from you post that you got defensive, and that is just natural - the defense will however

make you stronger in handling your own gender family make up, wether you have another girl

or a baby boy next. Hindsight I am thinking you could have said.

"Is this the trick we're getting, cause I have no idea what you are talking about"

What a bitch with inferiority complex all over her! Just ignore her...that's what my uncle once said to my dad when I was in kindergarten.(He has one of each, my dad has two daughters) I still remember that baseball fanatic's exact words..."You have two strikes, and I hit at least one home run!"  My dad always s when he talks about that uncle's son being a social outcast who never worked a single day, spends all day playing nintendo, lives with parents, refuses to seek psychiatric help for game addiction and I am doing pretty fine as a doc. (We are both 34) Guilty pleasure, but still.

LittleBirdie:

 It sounds to me like she has spent a great deal of time telling herself that boys are "better," probably to cope with her own GD or maybe just the fact she has only been able to have one child. 

You hit the nail on the head there!  It seems the people that are the least likely to know about what the hell they're talking about that open thier mouths the most.  I think it stems from jealousy.  I love it (being sarchastic here) when people with one child, or no children tell me how hard it is to have as many kids as I do.  I mean, I think since I'm living it, and they're not, I'm the bigger expert, but you can't tell them that!

For the original poster, you should have asked her how would she would know what kinds of hugs daughters give since she doesn't have one.  What a rude ignorant woman!

I agree that she seems to be suffering from GD. The only thing she should have said about your family makeup is "what a wonderful growing family you have!" period. Why anyone would think it's ok to bash another person's child because of it's genitals, well that's just creepy.

What the hell? Seriously! Where does she get off saying this to you at YOUR house in the middle of a kids' activity? What a freak! You were much nicer than I would have been.

Thanks everyone. At this point, I am just mad at myself because I was NOT defensive, and I should have been. I wish I had said, "Oh, you only have the one? Well, you'd have to have girls to really know they are like." Or something of that nature. It also did NOT seem like she realized that she was being an idiot and then just babbled on further to try and cover it up. When I made the one comment about how my girls are really mushy, this was when she pushed it further and said the comment about her friend with the two girls and a boy. Just to reiterate the fact that she was right. I SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING. Babymaker - what you wrote is exactly what I am feeling. I almost hope I will run into her again, she will say something about having a boy again, and THEN I WILL have a reply for her. At this point, I am telling myself that the next time this happens to me, I will absolutely not just stand there like and idiot kind of nodding, trying to be polite, as always. Some people need to be put into their place, and when you are insulting my sweet daughters, this is about the time it should happen. it was just so disconcerting. I think this was the worst gender encounter I have ever had - and believe me, I get at least two comments weekly about how we NEED to have a boy......Amazing.

I probably would have bent down to the kids an in and irritating voice asked, "Are you gonna be a rude little busy body like your mommy when you grow up? Whose a rude the little busy body, yes, your mommy, that's whose a rude little busy body!" Then patted them on the head, given them candy and closed the door.

LOL but that's just me!

 Wow red flags all over. She has some MAJOR GD.