Will you

visit this website after giving birth to your desired gender and you know for sure you are done having kids? Ofcourse forum leaders and those who want to be forum leaders are exempted. I think I wont come here anymore not consciously but just wont feel the need to. I think it will be a part of me moving on. If you dont have GD anymore why do you come to this website? For those who does not have their desired genders yet will you come here after having your desired babies? I am just curious to know whether GD will always leave a residue.

I asked this question too ,out of curiosity and offended alot of people. I think they took it as I didn't want them here and that wasn't it at all.

I just was thinking at the time that I wished I didn't need support anymore , that I had finally completed my family. I figured it would be a relief to leave.  I would finally be happy.

I am curious as to what people will say.

Although I think they will say they visit other forums. I came here for gender disappoinment but others have come here for other reasons.

I'm still here! Yes, I am a forum leader, but I became a forum leader after my daughter was born. I feel like I have made real friends here, and I can't just walk away from them. I want to stick around and "meet" all the new IG babies and still be there to support the friends who are still on this journey. I also still appreciate having a place where people understand me. I don't have GD anymore, but I do still have some complicated feelings related to having GD for so long. The people who understand the journey I've taken are here, not IRL, and I still appreciate them!

I still come!  This forum was so huge to me in 2007, that I can't bare to leave.   I remember my strong GD so  much and it breaks my heart that others feel this way.  But I try to only post if I have something to offer.    I also come here so I can figure out my GD for myself.    I may or may not be done having kids...but for some reason I have GD for my 3rd baby.   I want to figure out why I have those feelings, I should feel complete, but my heart aches for a 3rd child...but only a DD

 So, for a long time I was sure I was done having kids, yet I still found myself here.

I come here to help people through GD.  I believe that it is possible to move on from GD, but it takes a lot of time and hard work.  As weird as it sounds, it also helps me to read the "tough" posts.  It's positive affirmation that I've made it through because I don't feel like that anymore at all.  I like to try and be a role model to a lot of those "3-boy moms" who struggle.  And I've actually met some pretty awesome people IRL from this site who are part of that cool club.  

Also, I've been here for almost 3 years and just know so many people here.  I enjoy following along in their journeys!!  

Right now, I am a full-time SAHM and my DS3 is a baby.  When I go back to school next summer and begin my career outside the home, I more than likely will come here less and less. 

We are going to MS/IUI for #3.  So I'll be around for the next 3 years at least.  But since I will not tell people IRL that I used a high-tech method I may stick around because it will be nice to have ladies who understand what I did, what it means, and why I would be willing to go to these lenghts.

 My next attempt is TBM/SU - if I get a dd I dont think I will stick around, I will certainly inform everyone of my attempt and will post once the baby is born but after that I cant say that I would. However if my attempt fails and I get a boy I am sure you will find me in the GD section again!

I discovered this site oh so late. I never knew what i had been feeling with my ds3 even had a name! Yes even though I have got my desired gender, i've realised that GD doesn't stop when you've finally got that ds or dd that you've so longed for. There are so many other factors that will/could influence your feelings from one day to the next. 

To my utter surprise my friend has decided to have another baby. Now I had my 3 boys together, while she got a ds then a dd, yes i was so upset that she got a pigeon pair and i had 3 boys but last year we fell pg again at the same time (no it wasn't planned) but she ended up having another boy (God was i relieved) and i ended up having my dd. I was happy and complete or so I thought until she told me that she's planning on having another baby nxt year hopefully a girl to complete the set BBGG, and knowing my luck she probably will get her dd.

Well hearing that, the bottom fell out of my world. We both have 1 dd if she goes on to get a sister for her dd then that leaves me out. So i've gone from feeling totally happy and complete with finally getting my dd, to feeling insanely jealous cos my friend may get a 2nd dd.  It never seems to end.

This site for me provides an outlet, because even tho i do not have GD now, I may in the future, tho I don't think it wil be GD more like JOOP'sG. (jealous of other ppls gender) lol

 At this stage I am done having kids (may rethink this later) but i still come here....you said in the first post that you are curious to know whether GD leaves a "residue", even after getting your desired gender. Thats a reallly good question.  For me, it will always be part of my lifes tapestry. It is a complex thing, and so many difficult, challenging emotions come with it, before, during and after (if that makes any sense!). This is a place where I feel understood and I feel I may be able to offer some help to people who maybe feeling similar emotions that I have been through, and continue to go through. So...that is why I am still here! This site has been a Godsend at times, thank you to all the ladies who have been there for me. 

I come to this website because it's fun, the people are friendly and there's always something to talk about even if you feel like a break from talking TTC, pregnancy and babies.

I'm on a # of other pregnancy websites and none of them are as friendly as this one...  I don't intend on leaving!!!  LOL

I actually didn't start coming here until after I had my desired gender.

Maybe for some people it doesn't stick, but it did with me. 

I think it's a lot like how when some people have fertility problems, then it sticks and they become those bubble-wrapped kids kind of parents. Others don't. 

When my three are overwhelming me, I come here to remind myself that I should consider myself lucky. A lot of ladies would be very envious to get their daughter (or son) on the 3rd child and the first venture into high-tech.

Whenever they're being "bad" I fall into the trap of thinking of how much life would be easier with just one of each. So I come here to remind myself that pidgeon pairs aren't what everyone wants in family.

I have thought bout thisa a lot and figured if i ever get a DD i will still spend time here but not so much in the GD forum. I have noticed that a lot of mums who get there DG tend to not be taken seriouisly on GD forums as we gotr what we want but i wont leave IG no siree. I have found some really nice people here who have supported me with my GD and i couldn't just up and leave. Although I dont know if i could spend much time on GD forum even if i do have another boy i just think that my TTC journey is over and reading GD threads might make me worse I dont know.

 I have gotten my desired gender and still frequent the board. I don't think I posted on this exact forum too much even with my GD son. I love this website and getting to 'know' so many people that know how I feel/felt. I will be on this forum for a while. I know on another DIG board I go to, people do just disappear after getting their desired gender and you just start to miss the person, but understand 'why' they left.

Mom2RJA:

I'm still here! Yes, I am a forum leader, but I became a forum leader after my daughter was born. I feel like I have made real friends here, and I can't just walk away from them. I want to stick around and "meet" all the new IG babies and still be there to support the friends who are still on this journey. I also still appreciate having a place where people understand me. I don't have GD anymore, but I do still have some complicated feelings related to having GD for so long. The people who understand the journey I've taken are here, not IRL, and I still appreciate them!

My gosh, that is so sweet!