2nd ds extremely Jealouse allready!!!

 I was just wondering how to help my little boy get ready to be a big brother hes 18 months old and is quite smart he knows that a baby is comming! He gets extremely mad if I go into the nursery,,, he hits my belly when ds 1 starts trying to talk to the baby,,, and I find him in his baby brothers crib when he is in a big boy bed allready with his brother ((bunk beds))):)..... hes still so little that he is my baby I still see him that way and I dont want to feel like iam robbing him of that attention but im really worried that hes going to hurt the baby when hes born or just develop some deep issues from this,,,,I guess you could say Iam feeling guilty like ive made my ds 2 the middle child.....any advice????

Have you thought about walking around with a doll for a while and acting as though the doll is the new baby just to get him used to the idea. I know it sounds a bit crazy but 18 months is so young still and it could almost get him used to you walking around and being busy with a 'baby" before your real new baby comes along. I think the best thing you can do is to get him involved and busy, let him 'help' you carry the wipes and nappies and always read him a book/spend special time with him when you feed the baby, so that he associates you being with the baby as a good thing for him. Now is the time to start disciplining him when he does naughty things. It is not acceptable for him to smack you and even though it might seem almost amusing now, it will be far from funny in a couple of months time. Just remember that he is still very much a baby himself and try to make time for him as well as his big brother too.

Good luck. I think it will be tough at first but I am sure that everything will be fine after a while. When the baby has been here for a month or so your little boy will not remember a time before the baby came along. Try not to over react if he does something naughty towards the baby as this will add fuel to the fire, best to divert his attention to something more interesting. I am not sure how old his older brother is but hopefully he will keep him amused for some of the time.

Julie

I agree, when baby gets here get him involved as much as possible.  Maybe take him to the store and have him pick out a special outfit for the baby and just keep emphasizing how wonderful it is to be a big brother and make sure he never feels left out or that you dont have time for him.

You never know he may completely change once his brother gets here.  Keep working with him to be gentle even with you.