Timing dilemma

I have a question for you all about the timing of my FET.  I had my D&C 3 weeks ago tomorrow for a blighted ovum, and have 5 girls on ice which I cannot wait to use for an FET (not all at once of course!).  If I want to cycle in December I need to get AF by this Sunday, which is only CD27 post D&C, so it's not likely she will arrive in time. 

I talked with the nurse at the local clinic today to see if we could jump start my period in time (can't do it) or if we could start Lupron after I O this cycle.  She said they always start Lupron on day 21 - not 7 days after you O, and we rushed off the phone so I didn't even do the math to see if I could make day 21 this month.

Well, tomorrow is day 21.  I know this is stupid for all kinds of reasons, the most important one being that my body likely needs a break, and the second being that I would have to first get my RE to agree to this tomorrow, and scrounge up some Lupron super last minute.

I've recently done the math on doing a December versus January transfer, and if I'm lucky enough to get pg and stay pg this time, the baby will be born in August for a Dec. transfer or Sept. for a January transfer (I have delivered my other two at 36 weeks, and assume the next one will be the same, hence the bad math).  If I have a September baby this next child will be 4 years behind my youngest in school (August 29 is the cutoff here)!!  My first two are 2 years apart and the best of buds.  It's really bothering me that there will be so much space, especially 4 school years, between the last two.

The second reason I want to cycle in December is because our insurance is likely changing at the end of this year and I may not have coverage for the FET in January, which would be $3,000 out of pocket instead of free!

So, am I a total idiot for trying to push this too soon?  I don't even know if my RE would agree to it, but I want to know if I should consider it before I call them tomorrow.  My OB said we could try naturally next month, which would be the same as cycling next month right?  Why do REs want you to wait 2?

 Hmmmm not sure on this one.  After my chemical pregnancy I did my FET with my chemical pregnancy AF.  I did a somewhat natural FET though so that may be the difference.  I would think if your hormone levels are back to normal then it would be okay for you to cycle.  

ETA: FET's are cakewalks compared to fresh cycle so it is only the uterus that has be ready not the ovaries.  With a D&C I think you would be fine and everything would be nice and fresh in there!

Hmmm. My OB said I couldn't even try naturally until I waited for 3 cycles after my D&C. This was when we were deciding my course of action- wait to naturally m/c or d&c. With a natural miscarriage, he said I could try again right away. In his words, he said that a D&C scrapes the sh&t out of your uterus and it takes a while to heal to properly support a subsequent pregnancy; hence the 3 month wait. On another note, my ds #2 and #3 are 4 years apart in age. DS#1 and #3 are 6 years apart. They all have a beautiful relationship already. The baby's face lights up when the oldest walks in the door from school. And the baby and the middle one- they are my 2 little hams. They get a kick out of making each other laugh. On the same note- my husband- the 2nd of 4 in his family- is closest with his sister- the baby and 9 years younger than him. You just never can tell how siblings will relate to one another. Talk to your OB about it in the morning. Everything will work out!!!! Good luck!!!

Have you done any b/w to check your hormone levels since you did have a pregnancy?  Can you prepay and thus have them bill your insurance this year so you can wait on your body?  I would be inclined to wait but I do understand the urgency.  I would see what your RE thinks and go from there.  You can get lupron at the local pharmacy at your RE's office btw.

My hcg was down to 8 last Thursday when I did the check up with my OB.  My RE wants me to repeat it in 10 days since they said they've seen it go back up on occasion and want to be sure it hits 0.  It's nearly down to 0 though.

nuthinbutpink:

Can you prepay and thus have them bill your insurance this year so you can wait on your body?

That's a really good idea!  I will call and ask about it tomorrow.  I'll also ask about the healing time after a D&C (for the uterus). 

Pennie - Thanks for the comments about your kids being close despite the age difference.  Our original plan was to have 3 kids, all 2 years apart.  My sister and I are 4 years apart and were never very close growing up.  She was always too far behind;  I was in middle school and she was still in elementary, then I was in HS and she was only in middle school.  We really only became close once she entered college.  I suppose this is what I thought of when I realized that this next baby will be spaced a lot further than the first two were.  I don't want him/her to be left out of all the fun I see my boys having together.

Twoboysandcounting:

My hcg was down to 8 last Thursday when I did the check up with my OB.  My RE wants me to repeat it in 10 days since they said they've seen it go back up on occasion and want to be sure it hits 0.  It's nearly down to 0 though.

nuthinbutpink:

Can you prepay and thus have them bill your insurance this year so you can wait on your body?

That's a really good idea!  I will call and ask about it tomorrow.  I'll also ask about the healing time after a D&C (for the uterus). 

Pennie - Thanks for the comments about your kids being close despite the age difference.  Our original plan was to have 3 kids, all 2 years apart.  My sister and I are 4 years apart and were never very close growing up.  She was always too far behind;  I was in middle school and she was still in elementary, then I was in HS and she was only in middle school.  We really only became close once she entered college.  I suppose this is what I thought of when I realized that this next baby will be spaced a lot further than the first two were.  I don't want him/her to be left out of all the fun I see my boys having together.

I just would not worry about the spacing thing at all.  You are falling back on personal experience but you will find siblings that are 2 yrs apart and were not close and ones that are 5+ yrs apart that really are.  That will be up to your kids and you guys as parents, kwim?  I would worry about your health and making the best environment for those frosties and the rest will have to just be.

 

My situation was a little different b/c I didn't have a D & C. I cycled in March and then spent some time trying to decide what to do. I had one period after my failed cycle but then my period didn't come again (I think it was due to stress) and my RE prescribed me some meds to start it.

I'm sorry that you are having to go through all of this. It is hard to try and "plan" it all. Best of luck for your FET!!!!!! I hope you have the same outcome as me!!!

I know its hard to wait.  BUT, doctors want us to wait 2 cycles so that our bodies and minds can get back to normal.  Even being pregnant for a few weeks sends hormones completely out of whack. I think it would be best to wait instead of trying to rush it and your body not taking the embryo simply because it needed a few extra weeks to return to normal.  Good luck!

Hi twoboys! I have been thinking about you and am so happy you have decided to try again so quickly!  I completely understand the overanalyzing of everything. If I were in your shoes, I would want to start right away, but would follow the recommendations of your RE.  Are you going to have the embryos shipped or will you be going to HRC again?  You are so lucky you have those 5 girls on ice (not many girls are that lucky). I just know that one of those (or two) will become your daughter!