Well...I was doing really good until

 I found out my SIL is pregnant. I am excited for them, it will be my first niece or nephew but I "know" this is THE baby girl-the first grand daughter. I knew it would come sooner or later, but I was hoping my brother and his wife would wait until after my GD baby was born and I could get over it. Selfish I know.

 It was very difficult growing up with my obnoxious brothers, and it is going to kill me when they get the girls. I just didn't want it so soon when I am trying to deal with my own GD...

 This happened to me exactly!

My DH and I had just had our 4th boy, when my SIL got pg and they kept the gender a surprise. I just knew it was a girl. When she would send me her videos..that wouldn't point out gender, I would oogle it for hours. I could see it was a girl a couple glimpses..I didn't need to though, I just knew it would be a girl. When I got the call at around 2 in the morning from her mom that the baby was born and I heard the words "its a GIRL"..I about broke down, even though I had been planning. I ended up getting pg with my 5th child about 1-2m later and had a girl. I was sad that we didn't give the first granddaughter, especially since this was their first child and I had 4 boys already and felt I deserved the first daughter. Eisley and Cassandra are 10m apart and I hope they will be close.

BTDT.  It does suck, but like everything it will get better with time. 

It's ok.  My baby is WAAAAAAAY cuter.  

I bet yours will be too...  

I totally get it. I just found out I'm having a ds after wanting another dd so very badly, and literally the next day (today) I find out my coworker is having a second dd. I know she'll rub it in, and I dread having to talk to her about it. It does make it harder. HUGS.

I know it sucks when family tries to beat you to the punch like that.  My sister provided the FIRST grandson AND granddaughter...all I ever did was play catch-up (at least with the DS dept).  What make me most mad is even after my sister had her DD, she constantly would wish more boys on me...so HER dd could be the only one in the family. .... but honestly, my neice is homely.  I'd rather have a  handsome boy (mine are and this is strangers talking not just my own bias) than an ugly girl. 

There's still a chance she'll have a boy and then you can breath a sigh of relief for awhile.

That or she can have an ugly girl...

My brother had the first grandson and the first , and only, grandaughter and he is the biggest loser, ever. My parents support both his kids as he never has a job.

My friend who rubbed in her daughter after having the perfect boy/ girl twins. Try living with that gloating , UNBELIEVABLE.

Anyway she sent a picture and that girl is homely as heck. YOu can tell she thinks she's cute but I don't care how much pink she throws at her she is still homely.

Someone on this website said it and I love the quote. "I'd rather have two handsome boys that one ugly girl!"

Melpomene:

Someone on this website said it and I love the quote. "I'd rather have two handsome boys that one ugly girl!"

I know it sounds awful but it's so true!  We saw this little girl last night and oh my....un-cute is about the nicest thing I can say.  I know it bad to say about an innocent child but it hard to resist esp when it's the child of a gloating girl mom.  And it's really okay anyway since parents of ugly babies and kids have NO idea that their kids are ahem...un-cute.

My son is quite a little stud (if I do say so myself)

This isn't his normal smile -- he's proudly showing off a missing bottom tooth!

Know exactly how you feel, had a chat with my SIL last week and she more or less said she wasn't finished her family, she just had her 3rd boy and I just hoped that she would leave it at that. I just know she will have a girl and I will be devastated, she's not even pregnant yet and here I am worrying already!!! I just couldn't cope with all the fuss, and excitement she would get from everyone, that's a horrible jealous thing to say, and a horrible thing to wish on anyone as I know she would love, love, love a girl. 

I just don't want anyone in my in-laws family to have aother girl.......I know it will happen in my family but for some reason it doesn't freak me out as much...

GD is so cruel.

 Thanks guys for the support!

I am happy for them. Even though my brother was a nightmare growing up with he has turned out to be a wonderful man and I adore his wife. I know they really wanted this. I am also really lucky in that my parents don't care what grandchildren they have, they could care less if they have all grandsons. So if this is a princess I know that she won't be more spoiled or celebrated than my DSs'. 

It is my problem. I just keep getting caught off guard-from being a complete basket case after my ultrasound (when I really thought I would be ok with boy#3) to sobbing when I found out SIL was pregnant, anticipating she got the girl. Seriously what is my problem, LOL.

 Anyway, even though I adore my brother and his wife, my boys are pretty darn cute, and it will be tough to beat that. Even if it turns out to be a princess in pink

shixa:

Melpomene:

Someone on this website said it and I love the quote. "I'd rather have two handsome boys that one ugly girl!"

 

I know it sounds awful but it's so true!  We saw this little girl last night and oh my....un-cute is about the nicest thing I can say.  I know it bad to say about an innocent child but it hard to resist esp when it's the child of a gloating girl mom.  And it's really okay anyway since parents of ugly babies and kids have NO idea that their kids are ahem...un-cute.

My son is quite a little stud (if I do say so myself)

This isn't his normal smile -- he's proudly showing off a missing bottom tooth!

 

 

He is a cutie!

 OP, that sucks!  I feel for you, b/c I was almost in the same exact situation, except it turned out sil ended up having a boy, so that was a relief.  However, I already keep dreading the next time(s) she gets pregnant, b/c I think she is bound to get a girl at some pt.  My other brother and his wife probably aren't gone to have kids, so I'm basically just kind of focused on my one sil and keep hoping that if she has more kids, that they are all boys.  Supposedly, she said she would like to adopt one or two children too (I don't really take her seriously, b/c she says she is going to do a lot of things and never follows through), and I know that if she adopts, it will probably be a girl.

expat78:

shixa:

Melpomene:

Someone on this website said it and I love the quote. "I'd rather have two handsome boys that one ugly girl!"

 

I know it sounds awful but it's so true!  We saw this little girl last night and oh my....un-cute is about the nicest thing I can say.  I know it bad to say about an innocent child but it hard to resist esp when it's the child of a gloating girl mom.  And it's really okay anyway since parents of ugly babies and kids have NO idea that their kids are ahem...un-cute.

My son is quite a little stud (if I do say so myself)

This isn't his normal smile -- he's proudly showing off a missing bottom tooth!

 

 

 

 

He is a cutie!

Aw, thanks! 

I have been in your shoes before b/c my SIL (brother's wife) and I were pregnant with our first at the same time.  I found out the sex and she didn't.  I was SO sick every moment when I though about her having a girl.  When my mom called after the baby was born, she excitedly said IT'S A BOY!  We were both thrilled!  Funny thing, my mom was/is dead for a granddaughter but she knew how hard it would be for me so my sweet mom was silently cheering for a boy the entire time! 

Just to give you hope... they could very well have a boy, too!  My parents have 4 grandsons... no granddaughters.  And on my dh's maternal side, there were 8 grandsons and only one granddaughter.  I know statistically it doesn't feel like it could happen, but it could!