Family Makeup

My dream family USE to be but the reality and my now perfect family is

yemonja:

I wanted two boys.  The thought of having a girl never even crossed my mind until I was pregnant with my first daughter.  I thought about maybe having an older boy and a younger girl as an alternative to my two boys.  When I found out that she was a girl, I was devastated for a few days.  But then I got excited about it and figured that she would have a younger brother (just like me).  Alas, she ended up with a younger sister instead.  When I was seriously depressed just days after my second daughter's birth, I found this forum.  I adore both of my girls and I am so happy for them that they have each other.  With time, I think I can get used to being an all-girl mom.  Actually, I have no choice - that is exactly what I am!  But I am having a very hard time letting go of the vision I had of two little boys.  Even if I am blessed with a son for our third and final child, I know it will not feel the same because it is not really what I wanted.  I am trying to be open to what life gives me.  But it can be so tough some time.  There are so many women on this forum desperate for a girl.  Could we not have had the opposite arrangements?

That's exactly how I felt and how I feel now. Thank you for sharing! Sometimes I feel bad for being upset with having all girls when some women want all girls desperately and don't get them. I think about how much worse things could be for me, and it makes me more grateful for what I was blessed with.

Javidtyo:

This is a good idea.  It will be interesting to see how everyone's family is made-up.

Here is my current Family:  3 kids...all boys...ages 6, 4, and 3 and expecting DC #4 (will find out gender on Wed). 

The family I always imagined was either 1 boy and 1 girl, or 4 kids...any mix of gender as long as there was at least one of each gender in there. So, if this DC is a girl then I will have my dream family. 

That's great to hear! I hope you hear girl!!

kander2009:

 I only wanted 1 boy. Ive never wanted a big family. Just one little special boy. That has all changed now because I am having a girl. And the thought of never having a son is too much for me. I dont think I can live without a son. So we will be trying for a second. 

I always wanted a big family but I never thought I would have all girls, I thought I would have both. I don't think I can live without a son either, if the next attempt fails we will definitely be adopting, and possibly even if it is a boy, I've always wanted to adopt. I don't think I can feel complete without a boy either.

babybloos:

I have two boys but I wanted the pigeon pair.  At least with PP i could have a third and not care what it is.  My dream fam has changed now though.  It's so cool to have two brothers that are close so now my dream family is .

It's weird how dream families change after having a child, or two. That's good that some people are able to accept what they have and be happy with it, as hard as it is. I just wish it was as easy as it sounds!

pinktastic:

Hiya,

I have 4 boys -

1 x 5 year old

2 x 4 year olds (identical twins)

1 x 1 year old

plus 1 on the way (find out on Thursday what flavour!,,, probably a boy )-:

I only ever wanted 1 daughter & definately no more!!!! It's a strange old life!

I've ALWAYS wanted identical twin boys, lucky you!!! Of course you don't see it as being lucky LOL weird how things work out like that. 1 daughter to 4 boys, WOW!

PrincessLeia:

 I wanted . Only wanted one child from the start, got pregnant again just to get a girl. Now my new dream is . Sometimes I think about what I had missed if I had my dream come true.. oh my god.. I think Im GD-free!!! Just realised it!!! I would not change my family makeup for anything even if I never get my girl!! Thanks for this post!

Awww, I'm so happy for you!! That's really really great to hear! Glad I could help

I have and wanted although any combination of three with a and in there would have been good - now I want to try for another, even numbers would be lovely, I think at the moment even if it was another boy that would be great but I think I tried convincing myself of that when I was preg with ds3 (I didn't find out the gender till birth) not sure how I'll know if having a boy would be ok, I honestly thought it would be this time and supprised myself with how hard I found it

 I have always wanted in that order oh well close enough lol
 

When I was younger

As I got older , in that order

I wanted three with at least one of each . . . got exactly what I wanted (with the help of high tech).  But now I really would like .  And on some days I think I would rather have than