Mama's who didn't get desired Gender.

 I'm just wondering how all of our mama's are doing who did not get their desired gender.

Are you having a hard time dealing with it or doing ok now? Is it as hard for you to see all of the cute nurseries as it is for me? I'm so envious of pink bedding and cute little girl names. 

I hope all of our mama's are doing ok, but for those of us who didn't get our desired genders, I think of you often because I'm right there with you, still dealing with the pain everyday.

I've been wondering where you were! I'm over not getting a boy, and I finally got to where I can't wait to hold her and see her, I do get a little bummed when i see the boy nurseries setup and such but not half as bad I used to... I can actually look and not tear up. BUT I do keep going back and forth about one more try for my son.

its hard, really hard, I dont cry as much as I did, but still very hard for me to go shopping or even get excited about the boy clothes, I still catch myself looking at the little girl clothes went I walk by the baby department, I refuse to let myself stop and actually look through the girl clothes but I am still so drawn to the pretty little dresses.  I dont think it would hurt me as bad if this wasnt my last child, but since the birth of this baby will end my dream of ever getting a dd its so hard to even get excited kwim?

Well my good friend just told me she was pregnant today.

I am really happy for her but I feel like I was punched in the gut. I know it's a girl and I am so tired of seeing other women get their daughters and all I have are boys.

I want to be OK and I know I never will be.

Hi Mint and other Mamas

No I cannot seem to enjoy this pregnancy. I have some okay days but most days I am sad.  I cannot bring myself to do any shopping at this point.

I must admit I have changed from crying everyday to being more angry and frustrated at why I cannot have a DD.

Gee, I wish this would get easier.

Hugs Mel  

 Big Hugs to all of you!!!!!

I still look at the pretty little girls clothes. I still can't buy boy stuff and be excited about it. I've only bought a few things and it was all on clearance and my husband really wanted to buy it. 

I am scared this will be my last pregnancy. My doctor has already warned me that my scar tissue could be bad enough that they will recommend me not have anymore children. I've also had so many complications with my past two pregnancies that I'm just not sure I'm willing to risk it again. We have been talking about adoption more and more, but are afraid we'll never have the money to do it. We had been really thinking about PGD, but if I can't get pregnant and we don't have that money either, it's an impossible dream to ever reach. 

It's hard. So very hard. I too have gone from crying everyday to being angry and frustrated as to why I can't have a daughter. Why is it so impossible for me to reach. People who can afford adoption, or PGD or other things are so very lucky. I don't think me and my husband will ever be able to afford any of those options and we certainly can't afford to do it the natural way again and end up with 4 boys. 4 children is out incomes limit and I'm just not ready to let nature decide boy again.

I do believe my GD is better. I love my son and now I'm excited about meeting him and watching him grow, but I'm still very much mourning the 'loss' of my daughter. It makes it really hard to look in here at all the mama's who got their desired gender and how excited and happy they are, they look so complete and I can't help but feel sad and envious. I wish it were me, too. 

I'm pretty well over the gender disappointment of having another girl, but not on my own. They found the baby has a two vessel cord and luckily none of the "linked" abnormalities, so I think that automatically took care of the gender disappointment. But, I would still like to have a bouncing baby boy someday. I'm just not sure how I would handle four children.

I still have a hard time looking at boy clothing and nurseries, but it's getting better, day by day.

Well you can all add me to this list as well. I found out I was having another boy and I left on vacation so I had no time to express any f my feelings and pretty much went through my GD all by myself. All I kept hearing from my family and friends is how lucky I am to havea  healthy baby and that's all it matters. Every time I would say I am thinking of going for a 3rd I was met with dissaprovment and with looks. I did not connect with my little boy until after we decided on a name and after I started going shopping for baby clothes.

My husband has taken a job overseas to be able to pay our debt and start saving for IVF/PGD in the 2012. I calculated and if I save $150 to $200 a month for the next 3 years I can save enough money to have the proceedure done in 2012 in Amman Jordan. GIVF charges close to $15,000 and Amman Jordan close to $5,000 fr a cycle so it is much cheaper. Hopefully we will get the post in Jordan the next year and we will be able to afford it.

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Well you can all add me to this list as well. I found out I was having another boy and I left on vacation so I had no time to express any f my feelings and pretty much went through my GD all by myself. All I kept hearing from my family and friends is how lucky I am to havea  healthy baby and that's all it matters. Every time I would say I am thinking of going for a 3rd I was met with dissaprovment and with looks. I did not connect with my little boy until after we decided on a name and after I started going shopping for baby clothes.

My husband has taken a job overseas to be able to pay our debt and start saving for IVF/PGD in the 2012. I calculated and if I save $150 to $200 a month for the next 3 years I can save enough money to have the proceedure done in 2012 in Amman Jordan. GIVF charges close to $15,000 and Amman Jordan close to $5,000 fr a cycle so it is much cheaper. Hopefully we will get the post in Jordan the next year and we will be able to afford it.

Good luck saving up!!!!! I really hope you're able to reach your goal in 2012. 2014 is our goal...but we'll see what happens.

Thanks Mint, I am confident that I might be able to save... If I have to I will eat pasta every day for the next 3 years and save the money

I really hope from the bottom of my heart that you are able to achieve your dream of a DD as well

 Thank you.

I can't wait until we're both posting picture's of our Beautiful Little Girls.

MintJulep:

I can't wait until we're both posting picture's of our Beautiful Little Girls.

Awww Mint, I can't wait either..... We make beautiful babies and our little girls will be equally beautiful.. That day can't come soon enough for me

I don't mean to intrude but for some reason I always find myself reading this board.  I have a few ?'s for you guys.  Let me tell you a lil about myself first.  I have 2 DS's on my second one I had extreme dark angry obsessed GD.  It faded until I had a surprise BFP in June.  My GD really hit me OMG I know it's a boy what did I do I didn't even sway how stupid.  Neways I am saddened to report i had an early MS.  I was a lil sad and a lil releived.  I thought OK I can have another baby I just need better odds so I will sway.  Then after reading through stats thought OK I need PGD because I need a definite.  Then the reality of 20,000 set in and I thought maybe EGS will be better.  Now I have prepared to try this month and I am thinking maybe even though I don't want my kids to be far apart it will be worth it to save and go for PGD.  My ? is do you wish you would have gone high tech this time?  Did you sway?  I know you won't regret your baby as we all love all of our children but do you regret swaying and do you think it's worth it?   I am asking you all because you didn't get your desired gender and thats who I want to hear from.  Lets face it it's always a possibility.  SO any advice.  Thank you for taking the time to read this I feel really scared.  I know the no 1 thing is be prepared for any gender be happy with a baby but you see the way I look at it you won't ever have a chance if you don't try.  I just want to know your thoughts now that the journey is over are you glad you did it?

Well I can't speak for anybody else but for myself but there are some days I am regretting getting pregnant esoecially when I am having a rough day with my son. I am always comaring DS #1 with DS# 2 and I am sure they will be nothing alike. I did not do a good enough sway as I thought there was something wrong with me and I was going to be tested to make sure I was healthy. So as soon as I got my BFP I new that I was going to have another boy and I was prepared and content with it being another boy. I was dead wrong though... After I heard it was a boy I cried for the entire 2 hr trip and was not able to talk to anyone. I went through GD alone as I was on vacation and had no one to tal to who would understand.

I am doing better but sometimes cry and ask myself why not me, why did I not get my DD and others did? Then things started falling into place and decided on International PGD in Jordan where it would only cost $5,000 to have it done... I was thinking that maybe GOD is giving me a second chance and I am not about to let it pass me by and sway again. I know for sure I am going to regret not going high tech and try again to sway and I am not going to do it again. Hope this answers your questions and good luc in your quest for your DD

Thank you for replying I wasn't sure if my post would be offensive.

GL on your upcoming delivery.  i hope all goes well.  Good for you focusing on jordan and PGD You have a great outloook pick yourself up and don't give up on your dream.  I read this post earlier and it made me feel good.  http://ingender.com/cs/forums/t/106559.aspx