June 2008 - Posts
I even started a ttc boy cook book with the help of Maureen. But I'm not a neutralist and I didn't have access to the 2 gender diet books out there. Well luckily God sent me 2 wonderful people to help. The first was Mitch M. She is a neutralist who looked up all the mineral content. Around this time Revedebleu showed up. She had both books that the diet was based on! And a double bonus is she speaks French (the 2nd book is in French). Rev translated the book for me and thus the tier system and cook book were born.
Gender diet books:
The Preconception Gender Diet
by Sally Langendoen, R.N. and William Proctor
Choisissez Le Sexe de Votre Enfant: par la methode du regime alimentaire
by Francoise Labro et Dr. Francois Papa
***(looking back I see this post is in the wrong order as the cook book was written in 2007 and I'm still writing about 2006.. just so you all know)
We were all floundering around trying to figure this all out when one day I stumbled upon a hamster study that had to do with diet, pH and sex ratio. I half mentioned this study in someones posts and everyone wanted to see it. So I posted the study and we all debated it. It was fascinating finding out that this study was on google. Maureen was so intrigued that she made a sticky at the top in case anyone found any more studies. Right after that I found google schooler- the fastest and easiest way to find studies on the net. I quickly learned how to work this new tool and soon I started to absorbed massive amounts of info at once. All the while I was praying for wisdom from God to help me understand what I was reading- and He granted me this wisdom.
Here is that post:
http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/p/3199/18697.aspx#18697
When I first found out dd2 was a girl I was devastated and in denial. But a small part of me knew it had to be true so I turned to Google to see why Shettles had failed us. This is when I first found In-gender. But at the time there was no forums. Just a guest book you could sign and a bunch of people had turned it into a forum about gender disappointment. Well I was only use to forum so I went off searching some more- all the while finding nothing. Then around January, 2005 I went back to in-gender and there was now two forums! A gender disappointment forum, and an everything else forum. So I decided to join. Right away I learned that shettels failed for lots of people and we were all wondering why. I also learned of things like PGD and micorsort- if only we could afford that. Back then In-gender use to have a spot for a bunch of links to other forums. I clicked on one called determining sex and found the DS board on baby center. But no one really knew why shettles wasn't working. Then one lady though the timing was off and came up with o+12. A little later another lady thought it could be pH so she came up with the TBM with lime for ttc a girl. These pioneers made me begin to think. Maybe pH had something to do with it???
After we found out dd2 was a girl I went into complete denial. I refused to believe it, I couldn't! Our Jaydon had to be on his way. Then to complicate matters, I had GD (gestational diabetes). When the time came and she was born they never said the loud 'its a girl' so I had my doubts. When I took her home from the hospital I was crazy. I really did think she would turn into a boy. I dressed her in blue for 2 weeks- till it hit me. She was always going to be a girl. I did not have love at first sight. In fact she was very colicky and I didn't bond to her at all. GD is a horrible horrible emotion that is unexplainable. It causes you to be depressed, crazy, angry and bitter. The first year or so of her life was a very dark time for me. After a year and a half I finally had that moment where I realized I loved her so much! It can happen and it does. But for some of us, it just takes longer. Looking back, I know I should have gone to counseling because I think the bonding might have happened sooner. One thing that helped me to get over GD was to think if it Jaydon as being here but dieing. To me he had to 'move on'; it was the only way to deal with my grief and be a better mom to dd2. This is why we will never use the name Jaydon for a boy. Because my Jaydon died to me that year. There was one good thing about GD. It caused that fire within me to research swaying. But thats for another entry.
The summer after dd1 was born dh wanted to try again. I always said if I would have more than one I would want them close together like my brother and me. So I read shettles again and we began ttc asap. We followed shettles to a tee; bd only on O day for a boy. After 6 months ttc we got a bfp. I was convinced it was a boy. I painted the room, got a baby book and looked happily forward to my 'perfect' family. Then the 20 week ultrasound came.. and we found it dd2 was on the way. Thus started my GD journey.
Back in 2003 I quit my job because we decided to start ttc our first. I knew on dh side of the family there hadn't been a girl in 100 years. And out of desperation to prove it is possible I went on line and found the Shettles book. I ordered it and read the entire thing. That summer we went hiking in the mountains so I knew we had to wait till after our trip to start ttc (high altitude is bad for pregnancy). So as soon as we got back I started to track my cycles. The 3rd cycle I did a 3 day cut off (not checking pH) and got a bfp. We found out we were due on my Bday! 20 weeks later we went for our 20 week ultrasound. But the baby wouldn't' show us what it was so we called around and found a place to do a gender ultrasound. We called our parents and they both agreed to pay for half. A week later we found out we were carrying dd1!! It was a very exciting time. She was born in May the day before my bday (4 hours before to be exact)
I started this blog to document the journey I took to get where I am today. As time allows I will be adding each year and the things discovered along the way.