Jana's MicroSort Journey

August 2005 - Posts

• Sooner than expected? Twins?

  Our timeframe has just been made shorter by two days, thanks to the early appearance of “that time of the month.”  This isn’t a big deal, other than we may be on vacation when I am supposed to start the next cycle. I’m a planner. I admit it – maybe it’s one of the reasons that I only worry about things I have control over. Why worry about the things I have control over when they are going to go right?  When I don’t have control over something I like to have as much information as possible up front – and quite awhile in advance if possible. We are looking at doing Microsort on my next cycle (towards the middle of September). We have had our consultation with Nancy, the Microsort Coordinator at Huntington Reproductive Center. We’ve talked to her at least 6 or 7 other times. I feel like she’s my new best friend (just kidding Ko!). Nancy has suggested that we use clomid, and that DH does not need a sperm analysis (save the money for ultrasounds).  This is due to our ages (I am 27 and DH is 29) and the ease in which we achieved pregnancy the first time. Of course with clomid there is like a 6% greater chance of having twins. Nancy also mentioned that all of their "multiples" have occurred with the use of clomid and mothers under 30. It appears that DH’s greatest fear is not the Microsort not working, but having twins. It’s not that he wouldn’t adjust, etc. just that the idea of two babies kind of terrifies him at the moment. I joke with him that because he wants a girl so badly, we will end up with twin boys. He says no, it will be twin girls. I have a few concerns about having twins: the greater chance of having to be on bed rest of some type; having the babies early; our son not getting as much attention as I think he should; my being able to care for three “babies” by myself during the day without going crazy; and one not so major one – not being able to go on vacation in May to my SIL’s graduation from medical school as we would be due in June.   Posted Aug 15 2005, 10:38 PM by Jana with no comments

• The beginning

  I had a discussion with DH last night regarding doing Microsort. I am just really nervous about it - neither one of us have grown up with a lot of extra money, and here we are going to spend $4,000 on something that isn't guaranteed or may see no results at all (besides us being hugely disappointed). He told me that if I don't want to do it, we shouldn't do it. I told him that I didn't want him to resent me for the rest of our marriage, as he is the one that REALLY wants to do Microsort. A little background - we had just celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary when we started to discuss if we were going to be ready to have kids soon. (We got married at 19 and 21). We were both less than a year away from finishing our bachelor's degrees, and I told him I did not want to give birth before getting my degree. So, since we figured it would take a few months to get pregnant, we decided to try the next cycle.  Of course we got pregnant the first cycle of not using birth control in almost 7 years of being together. We were told at our 20 week ultrasound that we were having a girl. DH was ecstatic (he wanted a girl first). We had another ultrasound at 24 weeks as the doctor didn't get to look at the spine like she wanted to at the first one. The first thing out of her mouth at the second one was "I told you that you were having a girl?!" I think DH almost started crying right then. The doctor was so flabbergasted she didn't even attempt to look at our baby's spine. She was more worried about DH than anything else. On to now - we have a beautiful one year old son. He is the joy of both of our lives right now and is just amazing. He is such a happy, sweet child. We just can't believe how lucky we are. That said, DH wants a girl for the next one. BADLY. So he (who loves to research anything) looked for ways to "guarantee" a girl. He found Microsort. The idea to me is interesting. I just don't think I would be willing to go that length for a girl (as much as I want one too) if it wasn't for him. Jana Posted Aug 11 2005, 02:03 PM by Jana with no comments