I had a discussion with DH last night regarding doing Microsort. I am
just really nervous about it - neither one of us have grown up with a
lot of extra money, and here we are going to spend $4,000 on something
that isn't guaranteed or may see no results at all (besides us being
hugely disappointed). He told me that if I don't want to do it, we
shouldn't do it. I told him that I didn't want him to resent me for the
rest of our marriage, as he is the one that REALLY wants to do
A little background - we had just celebrated our 6th wedding
anniversary when we started to discuss if we were going to be ready to
have kids soon. (We got married at 19 and 21). We were both less than a
year away from finishing our bachelor's degrees, and I told him I did
not want to give birth before getting my degree. So, since we figured
it would take a few months to get pregnant, we decided to try the next
cycle. Of course we got pregnant the first cycle of not using
birth control in almost 7 years of being together.
We were told at our 20 week ultrasound that we were having a girl. DH
was ecstatic (he wanted a girl first). We had another ultrasound at 24
weeks as the doctor didn't get to look at the spine like she wanted to
at the first one. The first thing out of her mouth at the second one
was "I told you that you were having a girl?!" I think DH almost
started crying right then. The doctor was so flabbergasted she didn't
even attempt to look at our baby's spine. She was more worried about DH
than anything else.
On to now - we have a beautiful one year old son. He is the joy of both
of our lives right now and is just amazing. He is such a happy, sweet
child. We just can't believe how lucky we are.
That said, DH wants a girl for the next one. BADLY. So he (who loves
to research anything) looked for ways to "guarantee" a girl. He found
Microsort. The idea to me is interesting. I just don't think I would be
willing to go that length for a girl (as much as I want one too) if it
wasn't for him.