So we had decided on PGD and now had to research where we should go. I looked for online support groups but couldn't find anything. (I so wished I would have found IG earlier!!!) I decided on The Fertility Clinic in California. I knew I would have to work with a local clinic but in one of my egg donations I worked with someone out of state so I used a local doctor so I knew it wouldn't be the end of the world.
I had a biopsy (never had that before) and did some bloodwork at my local clinic. It is Dallas IVF and I do NOT recommend them! They seemed completely clueless. They said I was a donor and I could tell they didn't believe me when I said this was for me! They didn't know what meds I was supposed to take or how much. Yet, they were supposed to be giving me a meds instruction. They didn't know that I had done this before...and thank the Lord I had because they people were NO help.
So, I started the Lupron after the bloodwork came in and I had some reservations about the sheer cluelessness of the local clinic but decided it would be fine. Just days after starting the Lupron my dad was ill and was put in the hospital. I finally got a call to come down (to another state) immediately. I still had hope that it would just be a quick visit. That everything would turn around. I continued on the Lupron sneaking in the shots early in the morning at my sister's house. I had to lock myself in the bathroom so nobody would see.
THen my dad took a turn for the worse and passed away. We had gotten there on Mon and he passed away late Thurs. night. I couldn't believe this was happening. On my laudry list of feelings was what about my cycle? What about my DD that I've been waiting for? He would never get to meet her. He gave everyone a nickname (everyone..young and old) and called nobody by their real name. My DD would never get her nickname. It was a sad time for me.
I considered stopping my cycle. I knew I had stress oozing out of my ears. I finally decided that I needed this to keep me going. I needed the hope of life, I needed something to put my whole heart into or I would simply mellow in the sadness.
My dad had a memorial service the following Monday and then the Thurs after that we had a graveside service for the ashes. In the midst of all of this I started my period on Tues and they wanted me to get b/w and an u/s on Fri. We had been out of state for almost 2 wks. It was a 12 hr drive so it took a lot out of us. I debated on what to do. Should I stay another day and get a clinic in that area to do the stuff or should I leave after the service and go to My local clinic in TX?
I decided to just do the drive home. I was tired of being away from home. So were the kids. We needed a routine and we needed our own space. We had been staying with my sister. So, after the service we drove the 12 hrs and got home around midnight. My dr. appt was at 930 the next day.
I went to my dr appt and was even a few min early even though I was exhausted. Again, it felt that no one knew what was going on. I had to ask for another med instruction since it was on the orders but they were checking me out to leave. Of course no one knew what meds I was going to take or how much. I sighed and thought I'm sure they will know how much to charge me...that's something they will remember or find out about.
Later that night (since they are on CA time it is often 8 pm when they call me) I was told that my nurse in CA got a fax saying that I was too late to get the bloodwork in same day so it would be in on Monday. I almost lost it...actually I kinda did. I was mad, sad, and a fountain of tears!! The fax basically made it sound like it was my fault! Worse, I couldn't talk to anyone inTX b/c their office was already closed. So I only got to fume all weekend.
My DH (also furious) called them and demanded the answering service call the dr. They refused. He called over and over again and they finally said they would just to shut him up. We both knew they wouldn't do it.
I talked to them first thing Mon and the nurse told me I should have told them at check in that I needed the results same day. I said you are the ones with the orders that says that! Then she said that the lab place had already picked them up for the day and it happens all the time. 930 should have been early enough but it happens all the time. They just couldn't get everyone done before the pick up!!
I was going to loose it. Have they ever thought of not overbooking and doing everything correctly the 1st time. She also said I could have just gone to a Lapcorp and gotten it done there. I said sure Lady! I would have loved to...thing is YOU DIDN"TTELL ME that the labs had already been picked up when you drew my blood for FREAKIN RETARD!!!!! I almost said that to her! I could have cooked an egg on myself I was so hot!
So, I told CA that I did not want to work with them again. They called several clinics (one of which I had worked with before as a donor) but no one could accomodate me this late in the game! I was sad/mad,,,everything.
The nurse from CA called the nurse from TX and they said it would NEVER happen again! She says that they took the blame when she called but when I talked to the TX people they only blamed me. I told them ...through sobs...that I had just left my dad's funeral, drove 12 hrs, got up and went to my appt the next day --EARLY only to have the office not get the results back same day. It was just too much!!!
That was last Friday. Monday they got the results and I was able to start STIMS on Wed (last night). I have another appt at the crummy local clinic on Fri. THis time I will tell them 35 million times that I have to have the results same day as to not have an ounce of confusion!!!
My original ER was estimated for 3/18. They said it will probably be around 4-5 days later now!
So, I finally decided to cool off. To relax. To take it easy. Stress and getting all worked up about all of this was only going to be counterproductive.
So here I am...just out of a relaxing bubble bath. Keeping cool (although I did get a little worked up writing this).
I hope these little obsticles will be so worth it!!!
Thanks for letting me vent!!