A Canadian cycling in the US

Follow the twists and turns of an ART newbie navigating international IVF in the USA!

16w3d - Have told my family, and the questions have started...

Arg!  I was not really expecting this.

First off, I just told my own family we are expecting.  I was waiting until after we had "found out" the gender by u/s.

Everyone is happy.  But a few people have come out and asked if these babies were conceived naturally or not.

This is my fault, as a few years ago when I was pregnant with DS, I was quite upset and had started talking about high-tech as a possible future option.  I was not at all serious about it at the time.  I was just venting.

I had assumed people would not really remember, or would realize how expensive it was and assume we would never do it.

Anyways, DH and I agreed upfront we would *not* tell anyone about IVF, so I've had to lie already a few times and say they are natural.  Not cool!  I would just prefer if people would not ask.  Although of course they can and do.  

Normally, I prefer to just be very open in my life.  But on this issue, we have our reasons not to disclose.

Also, we have some natural twins within my family, so I sense that IVF babies would not be considered "authentic".  Everyone wants to verify that they are natural so they are more "legit".  Arg!!!  lol

Anyways, so we have chosen to continue lying about it.  I think it will be for the best that way.  I imagine the questions will die down after a little while.

Doh, I was not really ready for this!  lol

But otherwise, everyone seems surprised and happy for us.

Comments

 

blue_or_pink said:

And I say, stick with you lie! lol I know I would. If we go though with this and are sucessful in the end, I am not telling anyone, even my mom.

(I introduced myself in a couple of threads, but just in case: I am a fellow Canadian cycling in the States and I have learned tons from your blog!)

October 29, 2009 4:22 PM
 

RedCanoe said:

I'm totally with you.  Especially the part about people blaming you/the IVF for anything that might be wrong with the kids at some point (even if it's completely absurd).  I can totally see some people in my family doing that.  Not to mention that anytime I've brought this option up to people expressing GD, I've gotten strange looks and "no, I could never do that" type responses.... bah! :)

October 29, 2009 6:40 PM

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